Eating disorders

I have heard and read this also and that is one of the reasons i want to get to a healthy weight before my daughter is old enough to comprehend self image. Just tonight, my babysitters 8 year old son was talking about how fat he was (he is not fat at all, he weighs 93 lbs and is very tall for 8) and that he wanted to go on an all protein diet. i can't for the life of me comprehend what these kids are thinking.

I never had this problem since my mom allways loved me as I am, and also I was allways thin (accept for maybe when i was 8 and was preity chubby). But I do agree with that.. Its just because some woman tend to be preity stupod when it comes to wight... You should love your body as it is...

glad to know there are still sensible moms like you. my experience is however just the opposite. i have a 7yr old son (maybe that's why its different) and wherever i talk of losing weight or slimming down (specially round the tummy & hips)he just hugs my, puts his head on my flabby stomach and says that this area is his world's softest pillow and he'd literally disown my if i ever think of slimming this down!

Although i dont have a baby..I still agree with you.I guess whatever parents do reflects somewhere in child's behaviour. I guess dieting is the worst way to loose weight.You should talk to your child about healthy eating.Dont force her to do anything and dont ever scrae her that if she does that or this she will look bad.She is just 8.Its the time she needs maximum energy n hence maximum eating. I really wonder how cute was that to think so much about her looks while she is just 8 :)

I agree, I worked in a clinic that took care of people with eating disorders and most of them started because of the negative impact their mothers had with comments about their weight. It is a sad thing to see these yong girls wasting away even when they were small to begin with. There is never a too thin with them.

eat healthy will keep u healthy

That makes perfect sense. Children mimic the adults around them. My daughter says she is fat all the time. I had self image problems most of my life and am just getting over them due to having surgery to lose the weight. I have decided no matter what faults I have, I will alwyas try to see the good things first and remember not to point out any of the physical faults in the presence of my children.

My family is obese. They always talked about fat fat fat. I am thin. I have always freaked about getting fat. I still look in the mirror and only see fat. No matter what my weight is. I'm 5'5" I have been at 88 pounds to 140 pounds, and still see fat. If I start to loose weight, my husband gets so mad, as I want to keep loosing and loosing. This is all from my upbringing I am sure. My mom was really obsessed with fat. She lost over 100 pounds, and never stopped pointing at this person and that person. I drove me crazy. So, do you think I am like this from my mom?

i think, the young girl are imitating the models they are watching in tv, papers ore something else. and they don't know what that means...to be a top-model. i'm happy to have a son... he prefers some man like footballers, nba-sportler.. as idols.

Now a days crash dieting is something that everyone wants to follow so that they become slim as soon as possible. this type of slimming is very injurious to health. They burn out essential muscles which are requied for a healthy body. This may result in becoming thin but not slim. This is the difference in loosing weight. They also loose their natural healthy glow of their skin because of such drastic diet control and end up looking like pale ghosts.

Fortunately we don't have anyone in our family that suffers from anything other than just being fat...it's in our genes..lol But I do believe that a mothers self image and views on dieting have a direct effect on the beliefs of their children. One of my aunts was over 500lbs. and when we were children the thin kids would always tease the heavier ones saying..."you're gonna be fat just like aunt Margaret" All of our mothers would stop that talk immediately and remind us that we all should be thankful we are not that fat and if we eat healthy and exercise we would be just fine. Then we would get the lecture about teasing and that not all fat people are fat because they eat too much, bla bla medical problems, bla bla on and on. So I guess it worked...lol

Good idea, ifnact such things should be stoped in a very little age, if we dont taste the kids, the glories of junk food, they will not accept it when they will become mature

y dont u go for yoga .. that will tone ur body quiet a bit !

I can see how this is possible because children learn so much from a parent's actions and attitudes. With me, when I was dealing with anorexia, I could look back and remember how my mom used to view her own body image in a negative way, even though she was thin; she could also be very critical of my appearance even though I too was always thin. So I very well could have picked up on this from her, not that I'm blaming her in any way. It's just that she was probably projecting her own insecurities onto me and I picked up on them over the years. I've also heard that girls who have been abused, either physically or emotionally, are susceptible to eating disorders. The disorder is seen in their mind as a way to control their chaotic life or to block out the emotional pain.

Here in Brazil the anorexy is being a great problem. Girls are dying because of the anorexy, and the number of people who suffer from bulimia increased very. I believe that now the standard of Beauty of the world will go to move, and the people seram much more happy with its bodies.

Surprisingly I never had an eating disorder and some things stopped me from it... firstly, I CANT STAND the feeling of extreme hunger and my blood sugar dropping and secondly, I am afraid of vomit and there is no way I would EVER force myself to throw up. But I am afraid if I didn't have the phobia and was able to stand being starved, then I may have.. I have always struggled with my weight, others made fun of me and my mother even suggested fat farms! All it did in the long run was help me become a bitter person because I truely am :(

In some way, the mother's image and attitude has contribution to what the daughter will think about himself. I have seen shows before that kids think they are fat when in fact they are not. It made me think why why why? what's wrong with them. I do think it is abnormal. They view themselves as fat though they are thin. Gee! I think there are factors of psychological factors there. The mother might also have pressure their kids to be thin.

I remember watching Dr Phil and seeing a mum, and her 13 yr old (around that age) step daughter comepete to see who could be skinnier!! They wouldnt eat, and exercise for hours and hours just to see who could be thinner.. It made me sick! I havent always been super skinny, since I had my daughter ive found it harder to lose the extra weight, but i do think what you say in front of your kids (boys and girls) will effect them! Like saying 'oh, im not eating that, do you know how many calories are in that?' It will give them the wrong idea about food. They should be taught, everything in moderation and exercise!

In fact, I think I'm too slim. I hope to gain some weight, but I don't know how to make it~~~``