what is wrong with this fricking world that we live in?

United States
January 9, 2007 11:07pm CST
I have a teen daughter and she gets mad at me because i do not let her do what her friends can do. They are staying out til all hours of the night and have no conceqences for what they do. Well that is not the case in my house. My daughter has conceqences for the things that she does wrong. I just do not understand that parents just donot care what thier children do.
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• United States
10 Jan 07
I know what you mean. I know when my neices were growing up. I did not agree with the way my sister let them run where ever they wanted. I rememeber this one time my oldest neice was some where around 12 and it was a friday night. Granted they lived in a small town but none the same it had a bar. Any ways my neice wanted to walk clear across town by herself at like 11 or something at night. My sister was going to let her do it to. Until I told her I would give her a ride. My neice through a fit. Finally when I told my neice that it was late on a friday night and who knew what would happen to her my sister finally said no she couldnt walk across town by herself. If I hadnt said nothing my sister would have let her do it. She was always letting my neices do what they wanted. My boy is only 2 right now but I be danged if he is gonna do that when he is 12. Sure I might get some fight out of him but you know what I would much rather my child be angry with me for who knows how long than to not have them to be angry with.
• United States
10 Jan 07
Thank goodness that you were there. So many things can happen in a matter of seconds. I also have a friend that lets her 14 year son stay out til 1am. I have told her that I can not believe that she does this and she always says. He is a boy and can take care of himself. We have had our fights over the subject many times. Plus, there is nothing to do at 1am then to get into trouble. Which he has been in, but she still lets him do pretty much anything.
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• United States
10 Jan 07
I understand where you are coming from. Teenagers of today are given too much freedom and are not being taught responsibility. You are doing the right thing by setting standards for your teenage daughter. One day she is going to thank you. I was raised with the freedom of choice but at the same time learned what my responsibilities were as a teenager. Although I was different than other teenagers and never wanted to do what they did, I knew that there were boundaries I had to follow. I never gave my parents any problem and I do not regret or dislike them for raising me the way they did. Just help her understand why you do not allow her to do the things her friends do and let her know that it is for her own good. On the same note, don't lock her in...give her a little bit of freedom. It is irresponsible how some parents don't care what their kids do or even know where they are doing it. But at least your daughter knows that you are concern about her and are doing what's best for her. It is not so much the world that has a problem, rather the people...in this case, the parents.
• United States
10 Jan 07
I was raised pretty much the same way. I was raised to respect one another. I let her know that I am not saying no to be mean, that I am saying no to protect her because I love her. She is pretty good about understanding the way that I feel. She has seen the news with the missing children. That has helped a little.
@deebomb (15323)
• United States
10 Jan 07
Parenting is hard work as you have noticed. it's hard to tel your child no she can't go out late at night and then have to have her mad and maybe slaming doors and telling you how mean you are and you don't understand and maybe eventhat she hates you. All of that is hard to take. but I encourage you to continue to be the boss and she will thank you some day. Parentas these days don't know how to stand up too their children. And I think they may be afraid of Child protective services.
• United States
10 Jan 07
Hi, yes parenting is the hardest job out there. But we took the job. I love my daughter too much to let her anger change my mind when I know that I am right. My daughter just turned 13. But I am very thankful that my daughter somewhat understands why I do not let her do what she wants. Do you have kids?