Do you need people to tell you that you are pretty? I do

United States
January 11, 2007 1:43am CST
I admit it. For some reason I have a need to know what other people think about me and the way I look. I hate that society has made so may young girls like me this way. But it can be fun too. I like getting compliments and stuff. There is this cool website www.facebattle.com I'm on there all the time. lol. You should all go check it out. And let me know whether any of you have this need as well.
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@misskatonic (3727)
• United States
11 Jan 07
I don't need anyone to validate me with physical platitudes. I'm secure and comfortable in my appearance and I know I look good. What other people think doesn't matter to me. I hate that society places so much value and judgement on appearance. I was discussing in another post how attractive women get preferrential treatment, just because of how they look. I know I'm good looking. Whoopie, so the Gene Fairy was kind to me. What does that matter, in the long run? I'd rather be judged on my intelligence and what I do than how I look.
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@lalit20 (178)
• India
11 Jan 07
some time its useful some time its hurting
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@lumina83 (131)
• France
11 Jan 07
A lot of people need to know what others are thinking about their look. I don't care about it. I need to be me, with hair and clothes I enjoy, no matter if i am not fashion... and as you enjoy it: "you're a pretty girl" ;-)
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• Philippines
11 Jan 07
i suppose that it is necessary for you to hear someone say it. It boost your self image and improve your self esteem and there's nothing wrong about it
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@ronaldinu (12440)
• Malta
11 Jan 07
No, first of all I know that I am would not rate top ten amongst the most handsome guys on earth. I am not another Mr Di Caprio, but I have accepted the way as I am. So I don't feel to be complimented by others to feel secure. Others can say whatever they want.
@katyzzz (2902)
• Australia
11 Jan 07
You probably do when you're young as you get older you'll like yourself just the way you are
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@alinho19 (25)
• Romania
11 Jan 07
I think is not so important to tell somebody you are pretty, coz is not always good.
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• United States
23 Jan 07
I don't need anyone to tell me if I look handsome/pretty. Since I can look in the mirror and be satisfied with what I see, that is all that matters to me. If you don't like it, too bad.
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@ronita34 (3923)
• Canada
23 Jan 07
This is true i am fine not hearing it also but it is nice once in a while! I also could care less what others think about me. The more someone doesn't like me the prouder i am !!!
• United States
11 Jan 07
What I think is good is that you recognize your need for this type of validation and that you are doing and asking for things that will help you grow. From you photo (assuming your avatar is you) it shouldn't be hard for you to get the validation that you need/desire. I think when I was younger I wanted to hear that I was desirable and "pretty" from the lover(s) in my life - it was important to me that they were pleased to be seen with me, I had low self-esteem, thought I was fat, unbecoming - and now it's the same in that I would for my husband to be "proud" to be seen with me, and he is (I know cause I just asked him :)) -- But you know now I am really fat sadly I have gained 85 pounds in our eleven years of marriage and I look back at my younger pictures and go Oh, my I was really thin wasn't I !! - As you grow older and settle down, I think your priorities and needs will change to other things. I am now going to check out the Facebattle.com the name is intriguing me :) Best wishes!
• United States
11 Jan 07
Pssst... You're pretty. It'll probably mean less to you as the years slip by, but still ... if it feels good now, enjoy it. C'ya 'round Sweets.
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• United States
11 Jan 07
from your pic i admit you so pretty and usually pretty women or girls like you want to hear compliments and attraction and attention of others specially men of course ,unlike not so pretty or ugly girls and women who know they are not attractive but they to be attractive in other ways like doing something special like painting writing
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• Melbourne, Florida
11 Jan 07
I find that I need to hear this too. I think for me it's a result of loosing two husbands to other women. I wasn't like this when I was younger, so maybe it has to do with me getting older as well.
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@sunita64 (6473)
• India
11 Jan 07
Well somehow I do not need people to tell me that I am pretty because I know for sure I am, after all i know I feel good when I see the mirror. secondly I am pretty inside and a positive person so I am confident.
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@Zephory (176)
• United States
11 Jan 07
Confidence is so vital to ones survival in this world. I can not stress that enough. A confident person usually has the ability to get where ever they need to get. I mean the point of life is to be happy. We as humans want to do so many things. We want to travel, hang out with our friends, start families and so on. I mean it is nice to get compliments and know that somewhere your external beauty is appreciated but internally you are what you feel. If the confidence is to make yourself look better then you are what you eat. Take the initiative and do something. Start exercising, use lotions on your face daily...in todays world there is just so much one can do to make themselves feel better in anyway possible.
• United States
11 Jan 07
all girls are like that. but it takes so many words, acts and things to build us up but one simple comment can bring us back down. it doesnt matter who says it, just that it was said. i need someone telling me im pretty too because i focus on the bad things people say about me and need to be reminded of the good things.
@kathy77 (7488)
• Australia
11 Jan 07
In life today some people need to be told that they are pretty, maybe due to you being young you need to know this, but I think that most people feel great when someone compliments them on how they look and if they look pretty, it also inspires us to make sure that we look our best.
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• Philippines
11 Jan 07
well u r pretty :)
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• India
11 Jan 07
there is no ned to tell anyone that we r pretty.beauty lies in ur heart
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@DinaDi (60)
• United States
11 Jan 07
I guess you're so insecure about yourself that you constantly need reassurances from other people. I also receive compliments about the way I look, although not constantly, and yes, I consider it a compliment. However, I'd much rather get a compliment on how I think than how I look. Physical beauty is just that....only skin deep. It means nothing! Have you ever seen the "Beauty and the Geek" show? Where DO they get those brainless stupid bimbo's?
@ilyasjan (803)
• Pakistan
11 Jan 07
there is not need to tell others pretty. the others can felt that you are pretty.
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