married for already 12,5 years

Netherlands
January 11, 2007 9:00am CST
Today we are married for already 12,5 years. Is this something special or is it just normal? As over here in the Nethelands many marriages are broken before this period I like to know how long you are married.
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@Ciniful (1589)
• Canada
11 Jan 07
As of this May, my husband and I will be celebrating our 10th anniversary. It seems to be quite a victory considering the statistics are against marriages lasting very long anymore, and the divorce rate skyrocketing. I was raised to believe that marriage is forever. Because of that, I took the whole situation quite seriously. I made sure of my partner before we were married, and I put a lot of effort and work into our marriage. He works quite the same way I do, believing marriage requires constant work and compromise. I think too many people get into marriages without realizing that it's going to take compromise, negotiations, communication and effort .. every single day. Congratulations to you and your wife for 12 and a half years .. and I wish you the best for the next 12 and a half :)
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• Netherlands
11 Jan 07
You wrote down the right words. We have always talked about everything when there was a problem. It seems to be normal if two people have an argument they don't talk and look for solutions. As we also have two children we strive to a normal family situation so every argument has to be solved. If one of us is ill the other one is taking care or the kids, the pets, and the householding so it is important to have a good understanding. Of course there are sometimes things we have different thoughts about but you have to respect each other. Thank you for your wishes and hope you and your partner will stay with each other.
• Philippines
11 Jan 07
i am not yet married. but yes it is special. for a lot of reasons, im sure even you do have ur own self explanation. as of to what u said many people does not last long these days i think that goes in every part of the world. your lucky, make your relationship even better. the secret to a happy marriage is falling in love always with the same person. Congrats and more years to come for you and ur lucky wife :) GB
• Netherlands
11 Jan 07
Thank you for the wishes. It is not only falling in love with the same person, it is also important to be honest to each other. When one of us is having a problem or whatsoever we always discuss about the problem untill we have a compromise. We have no secrets for each other so I think that is why we are still together.
@lifeis2good (1183)
• United States
11 Jan 07
Yes definitely consider that very special!!!! We have been married for over 14yrs and have been together for over 20yrs now and still going strong!!! Although it sure amazes me at how many people we know that are on their 2nd, 3rd or even 4th Marriage. It often makes me wonder why so many people who marry end up divorced not long afterwards - maybe they don't take their vows seriously or maybe they didn't know things before they married the person.
• Netherlands
11 Jan 07
Easy to do. Get a new partner and get married again. If it is not the right one, dump her or him and get another one. People should be more responsible in making choices and fight for each other. I think I am old fashioned but it might be an example for people who are divorces or people who want to get married. Good luck to you and your partner.