Did I act like a fool in the vets office?

@bonbon664 (3470)
Canada
January 11, 2007 6:16pm CST
I took my 13 year old brittany spaniel to the vet today. He discovered that she's got a level 4 heart murmur. So, he gave me pills for her to take. Don't get me wrong, she's a happy, and healthy dog, but, I started to tear up in the doctors office. I've had lots of dogs in my life, and currently have 3. But, the thought of losing this one, made me very sad. I know I shouldn't have started to cry there, but, I couldn't help it.
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@shooie (4986)
• United States
12 Jan 07
Pets - Not just a dog. The are family.
I think I would have as well. I remembered when I took my dog in to put him down. I had him for 18 years and he was full ground when I found him roaming around in the rain all muddy and matted. He was blind and so old. I sat in the waiting room for like 30 minutes if not longer holding him crying and hugging him. He was suffering and whinning so I knew it was more humane to do what I was there for. Pets are like family and when they go or die a part of us does as well.
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• United States
12 Jan 07
Too funny, the picture you posted is almost exactly what my dog looks like. Even funnier, did you know if you type too fast and mix up the letters, dog comes out as god :)
@shooie (4986)
• United States
12 Jan 07
yes and did ya notice I spelt ground instead of grown...lol...my dog looked like this one in a pigger version. He was the best dog that I ever had.
• Canada
12 Jan 07
You didn't act like a fool at all. If more people were brave enough to express how they really felt where ever they are, then there'd be no questions here. If everyone could be as comfortable and honest as you were, no one would be called a fool.
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@bonbon664 (3470)
• Canada
14 Jan 07
Thank you!!
@scitrus (131)
• United States
12 Jan 07
Don't be premature in your grief. She could decline and pass away tomorrow, or that heart could beat another 3 years or more. Pets are our furbabies. They're not something that can just be tossed aside or replaced. We all understand. Give her some cuddles and her pills embedded in something tasty. Best wishes.
@bonbon664 (3470)
• Canada
12 Jan 07
No, I know that I'll probably be around for a few years yet. I hope. Thank you.
12 Jan 07
No you weren't a fool. I adopted a yellow lab and when I took him to the vet we found that his last owner beat him so badly that he had no ear drums. the vet was crying as she told me. I had my arms wrapped around his neck and just crying! He is fine (besides being deaf) but it was just so sad hearing what he had gone through. I think the vets are used to seeing people cry... and obviously they even cry themselves sometimes!
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@bonbon664 (3470)
• Canada
12 Jan 07
You are a good person for keeping a "special needs" dog. Good for you!!
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@suedarr (2382)
• Canada
12 Jan 07
I agree with the other comments so far. You did not make a fool of yourself at all. I love my dogs and my cats too, they are part of our family. I have also known the pain of losing a beloved pet. I think all of us who have ever loved an animal would understand exactly how you felt.
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@bonbon664 (3470)
• Canada
12 Jan 07
Thank you...it's crazy, but, I find it hard just to read these comments. Which is crazy, because she's sitting beside me, and she doesn't know why I'm being so goofy, so, she's kissing my tears. Oh, that's why we love them.
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• United States
12 Jan 07
In a vet's office, more than any other place in the world, people are very much going to understand why you got emotional. Who's at a vet's? Why, nothing but people who love their animals. You were amoung friends even if you did not know anybody.
@bonbon664 (3470)
• Canada
12 Jan 07
Thank you for the kind comments....love your kitty.
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@khalablue (309)
• Canada
12 Jan 07
If you made a fool of yourself then all of us who are animal lovers are fools. I felt sad just reading your post. I know how distressing it can be to deal with losing a pet. It is so easy to become attached to animals and once you have them it is difficult to let go. Several years ago we had a litter of kittens and when it came time to find homes for them, my husband interviewed every new prospective owner about their attitude and behavior towards their previous pets, asked them why they wanted them, etc. He also rejected several applicants because he felt that they would not make good pet owners. Many made comments that they couldn't believe how someone would behave this way when they were trying to "get rid" of their kittens. After all, they said, its just a cat. "Goodbye!" After many days of interviews, my husband finally said, "That's it. I am not giving away any more. They are ours and we are keeping them." So, we are now a multi-pet household and everyone of them is a truly good friend.
@bonbon664 (3470)
• Canada
14 Jan 07
LOL...that's good. I'm glad there are so many people out there just like me. None of my animals are "just" animals.
@mari61960 (4895)
• United States
12 Jan 07
No I don't think you acted like a fool at all. Most people that work in a Vet's office are animal lovers. I am sure they see this all the time. It is natural to be sad and upset when one of our beloved pets is in trouble. I am sure I would have been hysterical to say the least. I am so sorry for your dogs, condition. All you can do is make the rest of her life as good a quality as possible. I will keep her in my prayers. My pets are like my children I feel your pain. God Bless us all, including our pets.
@bonbon664 (3470)
• Canada
12 Jan 07
Thank you so much.
@Rahleah (187)
• United States
12 Jan 07
Aw, hon. No way. You did not do anything wrong. Don't you think they see that sort of thing all the time? Remember, the vets and their assistance went into that line of work because they cherish and value animal life. They have the same types of feelings about their own pets, and probably about many of the pets they care for at work as well. Hopefully they did nothing to make you feel awkward. I know you aren't ready to let go, but 13 years is a wonderful life from a valued companion. Everything else you get from this beloved family member is just icing on the cake. I hope she responds well to the medication. And don't you worry about showing your very natural emotions.
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@bonbon664 (3470)
• Canada
12 Jan 07
I'm hoping she's going to respond well. So far, she seems pretty good. Thank you.
@brokentia (10396)
• United States
12 Jan 07
You did not act a fool if your only offense was crying. To cry about it shows that you have a great amount of love for your dog. And I am sure that if the vet cares about animals (and I am sure that is why the profession was picked) then the vet will completely understand why you are upset! You care and love your animal. You are NOT a fool!! I am sorry to hear about your dogs health issues. I do hope that she will be able to live very happy and long since she is now being treated. Remember to enjoy the time you have instead of mourning the time that you will not have in the future. You want your time now to be cherished and positive. Not anticipating the sorrow. :)
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@bonbon664 (3470)
• Canada
12 Jan 07
Thank you, I'm amazed how understanding people are.
• United States
12 Jan 07
No you were not a fool. Dogs can be closer companions than some human friends as there are no strings involved in them loving you. I can not even think about losing my dog without starting to tear up. I have lost two to cancer in my life and they were when I was younger. This one is the first I've had as an adult and if I lose her, I will be broken up. Some will no doubt say they are just animals, but to those I say I feel sorry for you because you just don't understand and you're missing out. I'm sure she'll be fine though so just focus on keeping her healthy. Vets truly love animals though, so I'm sure they understood all too well how you were feeling, they probably appreciate the fact that you are so attached.
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@bonbon664 (3470)
• Canada
12 Jan 07
Thank you, it's nice to know other people feel about their animals as I do.
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@dejiflow (128)
• Nigeria
12 Jan 07
Your tears did not take anything away from you... rather, it showed your caring nature and loving heart, and I believe the vet saw that.
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• United States
12 Jan 07
I am very much like this I dread going to get my dogs yearly shots thinking they are going to tell me something is seriously wrong with him. They never do, but its my huge fear and I angonize over it until its all over. My baby had to get his teeth out and I cried like a baby. And he had to stay overnight there and that made things much worse. He had never been alone at night somewhere. And it was like 14/15 years old. It was so hard.
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@kareng (7980)
• United States
12 Jan 07
Awww, hon. It's ok. I don't blame you at all. I think of all my pets as children. You get attached to them and they are family members. It just shows you really care about your pets. I'm sure the vet sees that kind of thing all the time. I hope your dog will be ok.
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@classy56 (2883)
• United States
12 Jan 07
there is nothing wrong about crying over a pet,they are family an you love them just like you do a human being.so dont feel bad,if i knew i was loseing my pet i would cry also.will the pills save the dog? i sure hope so
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@TerryZ (22083)
• United States
12 Jan 07
Its okay you love her. Im glad to here you take such good care of your animals. She will be fine. I have three cats that are like my childred because I couldnt have childred. So they are. My husband says they are the most spoiled cats in the world. I cant help it. So I know your dogs mean alot to you. Go and give her a big kiss. Take care.
@bonbon664 (3470)
• Canada
14 Jan 07
Along with the 3 dogs, I have 2 cats also. There is a ton of love in the house. I worry about each and every one of them.
@coolcatzz (1587)
• Canada
12 Jan 07
I know but you love your pets like your own. Many of us do. Plus I don't know how serious a level 4 heart murmur is but either way I probably would have cried too.
@bonbon664 (3470)
• Canada
12 Jan 07
Apparently, they rate these out of 6. So, her's is not as bad as it could be.
@blueskies (1186)
• United States
12 Jan 07
Our sheltie is just shy of 13 yrs old and we couldn't imagine life without him. Animals become such a close part of our families that we feel real grief and pain when they pass away or suffer from an illness or injury. Don't worry about crying, I'm sure the vet has consoled many many pet owners in his time. You're a good dog Mom.
@bonbon664 (3470)
• Canada
12 Jan 07
I hope your sheltie is happy and healthy. It's incredible how integrated they are into our lives.
@BONOMBO (74)
• Greece
12 Jan 07
dogs are better than people sometimes and for sure the best companions.But you have to know that dogs go away in much sorter time than human do so we have to be prapared for that by the time that we take them under our homes roof.
@bonbon664 (3470)
• Canada
12 Jan 07
I know that in my head, but, in my heart, that's something else. I know that every day over 10 years for every dog is a blessing.
@lucy02 (5017)
• United States
12 Jan 07
I'm sure the vet understood. Remember they love animals too. I am very attached to my 4 dogs. They are family to me. I don't have any children so I guess I think of them as my kids.
@bonbon664 (3470)
• Canada
12 Jan 07
I don't have any kids either, I'm a "pet parent".