This Is Not A Dating Service!
By misskatonic
@misskatonic (3723)
United States
January 12, 2007 2:12pm CST
I'm sick and tired of men sending me messages telling me I'm pretty and they'd liked to chat. Or saying more... not fit for public things. Mylot isn't a place to hook up. If you're that desperate, there are plenty of sites that cater to your needs. Leave me alone. I don't want a 'special friend'. I certainly don't want some random *man* as a 'special friend'. That's just pathetic.
I'm sure I'm not the only one this happens to. Share your frustrations here!
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63 responses
@ronaldinu (12422)
• Malta
12 Jan 07
Another interesting topic by miskatonic and I could not let this thread without inputting my views. I find this place as quite interesting and stimulating for discussion, meeting new people for sharing views but it did not come into my mind that it can be used by other people for dating. :)
I fully understand your frustration. Can you report such users to the administration? Being an openly declared lesbian orientated person, do you get more inviations from males or females; or both?
@misskatonic (3723)
• United States
12 Jan 07
I only get hit on by men. Which says pretty clearly they've never read my profile or a single discussion by me. I just ignore them for the most part, or if I'm in a bad mood I get snappy with them.
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@tanujbhargava (310)
• India
13 Jan 07
Oh ..
Feeling sorry for you .
That is gross .
Don't know how you girls stand that kinda guys.
But I don't think you are pretty !! :(
Poor Fellows !
@foxsoon (150)
• Australia
13 Jan 07
Frustration for being hit on. Yes, I think you should try email the administration or something about some of these users. I was wondering why were you being so negative at first, so I went to your profile and see you already declared you are a lesbian(without reading until this message), and I agree you should be angry.
And I guess no wonder a lot of people nowadays tends to indirectly 'turn-others-down' by wearing a ring (just makes others think she/he's engage) or in their profile put on their relationship status as "in a relationship". I'm not resorted to that situation yet, but I just sense I will use these kind of things/tactics in the future. Cheers and hope everything goes well for you.
@SageMother (2277)
• United States
12 Jan 07
Oh gawd I know....
Ihad some pathetic fellow tell me that he was looking for a "best friend" lady. I think he was from indonesia.
These guys would know that those sorry lines that work on those ladies where they live aren't going to work with women with a sense of dignity and self worth. I told him his "special best friend" needs to be where he lives.
If you fellows want to date or have "hot times" online then go over to Yahoo and talk to some gals there, or any other chat platform that is not nearly as structured as this, and doesn't have terribly intelligent women populating its pages.
@misskatonic (3723)
• United States
13 Jan 07
Man, I'm sorry. Ah, yahoo. Yahoo is crawling with people looking for that kind of thing. It's just sad and pathetic. This is a discussions forum, use it for discussion. Not to try and pick up people.
@jolenex101 (186)
• United States
13 Jan 07
i dont know why either i dont think you are that pretty looks to me like you are trying desperatley to pull off the 80's pinup look but you aint doing it very good so i dont know why they message u either they must have bad taste
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@chiquita1977 (1706)
• United States
13 Jan 07
this has happened to me plenty on times here even when my profile clearly states that im married and have kids.some guys are just way to desperate and i agree this is not the site for this kind of thing at all they need to go to a dating site and this is not it.
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@itzicstrul (140)
• Romania
13 Jan 07
World is full of crazy people...say "Tanks God!" that you don't meet them on the street.
@esaflaca (83)
• United States
14 Jan 07
Yeah. Some men are a little ignorant and don't understand that females don't want that kind of attention. The best response I would give them is to recommend them to a dating site that they could go to. This place is for discussing real matters and earning money, not a hook up place.
@Lil_miz_ice_x (614)
•
13 Jan 07
I know! I've been here for under a month, and I've already got some IDIOT, who's more than THREE TIMES my age [he's 50 - I'm 16] sending me messages every other day, telling me I'm beautiful and that he'd like to 'get to know me better' -- I tried just ignoring them, but they're really annoying me now -- and the fact that they haven't even responded to my discussions, and don't know me, means that they're just thinking about one thing!
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@wyrdsister (584)
• Canada
14 Jan 07
I'd report that guy to the myLot staff. I really don't know if they'd do anything, but I can only guess that if they want to keep myLot a great site to use, they'll want to discourage paedophiles from harassing their users. And you are very smart to not reply to him!
~Wyrdsister
@Sawsen (793)
• United States
13 Jan 07
I can't say I know what you mean, because no one has said anything to me. Probably because I don't have a profile, and although I was thinking about putting one up, your discussion changed my mind lol. There are a lot of nutties on the net wherever you go, so be careful. I think ignoring them is probably the best tactic, along with writing a discussion like this. Maybe you should report them to mylot, because they're missing the purpose of mylot.
@shogunly (1397)
• Libya
13 Jan 07
I am sorry for you .
I will try to help .
"you are not pretty ! I would rather choke than chat with you . I am not here to hook up with you .I am so desperate,I have to go to special websites to cater for my needs ,yet I wouldn't want you to be my special friend ."
I hope that made you feel better .
I wonder how they found out you are pretty ,while your picture is a cartoon .
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@medooley (1873)
• United States
13 Jan 07
That is too bad that people can't control themselfs enought to have common curitsy here at myLot. You should deffinantly not have to deal with crap like that.
It is too bad too, because now you are probably a little more hesatanit to allow people to be your myLot friends because people have done this to you. I am just glad that I got in before it got to this point... LOL
Hmm, I don't have anyone asking to be my special friend, I guess I am not what people want in a special friend. Oh well, I guess I will just have to live.
@misskatonic (3723)
• United States
13 Jan 07
I always check up on people who send me friend requests anyway, so I'm picky already. ;)
@satya_music (586)
• India
12 Jan 07
I wholly agree with you . some of the leches had made mylot as a plteform to prowl for preys . I think the managers of mylot must do something to this kind of teasing. Well what else can I say save not to be bothered by these Mongrels.
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@ilunice (947)
• Netherlands
13 Jan 07
Well, I gues it is not bad for anyone to appreciate another person. That is basic constitues of friendship. So never be offended if you get such complement. But if the person goes too far, then you can just refer the person to dating sites. You also have the choice of deleting the person from you list of friends. I such way, the person wont be able to get into personal contact with you any longer.
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@ayushi (224)
• India
13 Jan 07
i absolutely agree with you on this topic mam..it was just because of all these pathetic reasons that i stopped visiting orkutand joined mylot.friends!! mylot is a place to share information..views...ideas..and not to make some special friends..if one is interested in doing so..as mam said there are many other sites available..
so its a request to all of you that please dont make mylot a place for dating..let i be the complete information giving site..
@misskatonic (3723)
• United States
13 Jan 07
I don't blame you. I don't use any other sites for the same reasons. I left Yahoo chat rooms because all it was was people messaging strangers for 'special chat' or whatever you want to call it.
This place is for information, you're exactly right.
@loutrt (185)
• United States
13 Jan 07
If your thru, thinking your all that,PLEASE GIVE ME A BREAK You think your all that and a bag of chips and maybe you are but being self centered is not how you get attention.
@sirensanssmile (3764)
• Netherlands
13 Jan 07
I am amased that people this vacuous still remember to breathe.
@rosey3223 (1566)
• United States
13 Jan 07
DUDE!!!!!! CHILL!!! I understand her point of view entirely!! How in the heck do you see ANYWHERE in this post that she thinks that she is all that and a bag of chips??? So are you saying that it is not ok to "vent" and to ask if there is anyone that this has happened to? Some people!!!
@misskatonic (3723)
• United States
13 Jan 07
Um, what? I'm complaining about getting attention. I want to be left alone. And, judging from responses, I'm not the only one.
@misskatonic (3723)
• United States
13 Jan 07
Obviously not. Which is what irks me. They're doing it without even knowing a thing about me!
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@sirensanssmile (3764)
• Netherlands
13 Jan 07
Apparently some of the men send other men these messages addressed as if the person is a female. My friend on here got one that said "Hey pretty girl...." When it is quite apparent that the person is a man.
Funny, but I do not know what the point is.
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@wyrdsister (584)
• Canada
14 Jan 07
I guess I'm kind of lucky as I haven't had any messages like that. It's probably because the only picture I have uploaded to my profile is my cat. ;) I tend not to include pictures of myself on sites like this for that very reason - I don't want random freaky men messaging me out of the blue thinking they've got a snowball's chance in heck of cybering with me. Ugh. ;)
~Wyrdsister
@misskatonic (3723)
• United States
13 Jan 07
Sadly, there are. I have no idea. It's not hard to leave the computer and meet a real, live woman!
@camille101 (1025)
• United Arab Emirates
13 Jan 07
hey there, calm down girl, I'm sure the guys had heard you well now. Anyway, I salute you being so straight about your feelings, yeah you're right this isn't the place to hook up but maybe they're just being friendly.
@Lil_miz_ice_x (614)
•
13 Jan 07
Lol -- I doubt they're just being friendly, somehow -- I mean, why pick you when they've never even responded to your discussions, or spoken to you on here at all? There's only one plausible theory, really...
@kou7hik (243)
• India
13 Jan 07
If the person knows something about you and then calls you a friend.. i think it is acceptable.
Friendship has its own value irrespecitve of the fact that the two friends involved are way too dumb.
Though I agree with you that you will not feel comfortable with a random man being a special friend, I suggest give him a chance to explain himself before closing the door.
@sirensanssmile (3764)
• Netherlands
13 Jan 07
The point is that this site is NOT a dating site.
Like many other women on this site, she didn't come to be bothered by random men typing dirty messages to her. This is NOT the place for such things and honestly it is annoying. Why should she give them a chance to explain? What is there to explain about smutty messages? It is pretty clear what the explanation would be and is unnecassary.
Secondly, she came to this site to exchange ideas not numbers.
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