right love , wrong time

@paulyn (81)
Philippines
January 13, 2007 12:50am CST
Hi, have you tried falling in love to the right person but on a wrong time? i met this guy last year. we were very intimate and everything was so smooth in our relationship. he met my friends and my parents as well. we had our relationship going for half a year. but then, he had to leave and go to Illinois. I was so devastated.. i thought it was going to be us... now we just send emails.. know its hard to maintain relationship. my friend told me he already have someone else... i dont know anymore...
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@vivasuzi (4125)
• United States
13 Jan 07
I would look at it this way, can you see yourself ever moving to be with him? Let's say you keep your internet relationship up for months and you really care for him, but would you be willing to move for him? Or vice versa, would he be willing to move for you? I had a friend in a similar situation and I asked her the same question. Even though she thought she loved the guy, she did decide she wasn't willing to move for him, which really meant she probably didn't love him as much as she thought. There's someone for everyone! So if you feel you would move for him, than stick with it... but if you don't feel that way, or don't forsee yourself feeling that way, I would move on.
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@paulyn (81)
• Philippines
13 Jan 07
we have been sending emails and calling each other over the phone to keep in touch. the problem is, he has not told me anything about that other girl he was dating ( well ofcourse he wont be telling me that, ) but my friend saw them.. i will be moving to a different place soon because that s where my work will be assigned and i think im not ready to stay with him there. what is important to me now is my career. thanks for you reply
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@vivasuzi (4125)
• United States
13 Jan 07
Well in that case maybe you should just keep in touch as friends for now and see what awaits you in your new city! You may find the love of your life there :) Good luck!
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• Ghana
13 Jan 07
please trust in your God and have patience for a while you will see a wonderfull thing that will happen in your life.
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• India
13 Jan 07
it happened with me also so its really bad to fall in love with somebody who do not love u
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• United States
13 Jan 07
This is the story of my life, i have been in love with a few people all at the wrong time. It is very sad, but I firmly belive everything happens for a reason, please have faith and keep looking. And remember one think Love isnt supposed to hurt.
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@shorva (923)
• Philippines
13 Jan 07
oh ,how sad is that?, wht do men are the one's who are first to forget, always? sweetie, there's many fishes in the sea. long distance relationship is really difficult to keep. you guys are probably not meant for each other and how fast he is to find someone else!you deserve someone who's as loyal and loving as you are.
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@paulyn (81)
• Philippines
13 Jan 07
hi shorva... thanks for your comment... although it is very hard to do, i have decided to end the relationship. i dont know where ill be putting myself anyways.. i mean we do have a relationship but considering he is so far... i cant stand it anymore. if its really us, then the right time will come... ill try my best to diverty my attention to different things...
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@pusiket (1759)
• Philippines
13 Jan 07
When you are into a relatioship don't expect too much and don't give your all. Always reserve for yourself and just enjoy te days as it pass by between the two of you. or only time can tell who will be your lifetime parter.
13 Jan 07
I'm afraid I don't agree with you there -- I mean, if you don't give a relationship your all, how are you going to expect your partner to? And if NEITHER of you are giving it your all, there's no point in you being together -- it's not a proper relationship!
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@jupa2278 (41)
• Ghana
13 Jan 07
just hold on if his yours he will come back to you.
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13 Jan 07
Short of moving in with him, going to Illinois yourself, there's no way you two are really going to be able to be together. And if he really felt the same way about you, would he have found someone else already? I think you're going to have to accept that it's over, and try moving on with your life -- you could still be friends, and email eachother, but it might make it harder to get a little closure.
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@flordz (270)
• Philippines
13 Jan 07
constant communication is the most effective way for that, include trust. i dont believe in right love at a wrong time, its always right to fall inlove, the wrong is if you dont manage it properly.. just keep in touch with him.
@msqtech (15226)
• United States
13 Jan 07
I dont think it was meant to be if he just lost attraction that quickly Just be patient and love yourself for what a good person you are and others will notice and the right one will come along
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• India
13 Jan 07
hey dear love is never wrong..its always rite whatever time it may be..may be the people were wrong or else they was no love..its was just mistaken to be as love..
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@Smallboi (24)
• United States
13 Jan 07
Thats kind of hurtful , why did he have to move anyway?
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• India
13 Jan 07
hey paulyn Love is faith if you love him truly you should believe him....if not speak to him directly....never bring a third person between you and the one you love
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• India
13 Jan 07
According to me"If you love someone just let it free if it returns to you it is yours if it doesn it never was".............This is life......Don hurry.......give time....
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• Iraq
13 Jan 07
Hey Paulyn, first off stop listening to your friends. They just want you for themselves. If your connection with him was a good one before he left then I would say no he did not find someone else. Is he coming back, or are you going over to him. Establish that first. Because a long distant relationship is only good if you are going to follow that person to where ever it is that he or she goes. If it is not like that then I would say move on and tell him to move on, because life is to precious to waste. good luck
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@JJOD2007 (160)
• Philippines
13 Jan 07
Yes I am and i'm still in the process of recovering and accepting to go with my life. Everyday you just wished that if only you could turn back the time. There are so many what ifs. But we have to face the fact that there are things in life you can't have for a lifetime they just passes by. Lets just pray that in our next lifetime we had the chance that we are hoping for that we got a chance to have them and to keep them.
@jhanne (7)
• Philippines
14 Jan 07
hi, yes i tried to be inlove wrong time. im falling inlove w my speciafreind. i dont know wAT is the right love.... for me if u love someone give him anything at the right love or wrong time.......
@lovein (345)
• India
14 Jan 07
If you want a friend get invloved with a girl. If you want a husband get involved with a boy. There will not be wrong time ever. Thanks
• Singapore
14 Jan 07
Don't listen to gossips or from any unconfirmed sources. There is this internet. Send him an email and find out how he's doing. Ask if its OK for you to visit him occassionally. You may also ask him his feeling for you and see if the relationship can move a step forward.
• Japan
14 Jan 07
love isnt always enough. know exactly why you think you want or need to continue your long distance relationship. if you come up with heavier valid reasons than love then make it work. otherwise, let go and move on.
@lovein (345)
• India
14 Jan 07
It is upto you you want a friend or a husband. Thanks
• India
14 Jan 07
sorry for u ............but u girls don't investigate about the person ........u most of the time only see the pocket and see his view about you ..........he will say some lofty words that will fascinate u .........although u will have a right person with u but u will not choose him and most of the time with ohter guy resulting in loosing u'r heart and finally crying over u'r decison ........well next time choose a right person .let me tell u there is no as such perfect right time, although u should know the sitution befor proposing him, for that if he is right he will always be right for u whatever is the situation.............all the best for the next time