How alone do you feel inside yourself?

January 13, 2007 7:31pm CST
Does it ever bother you that you will always be seperated from others by the fact that we each exist alone in our minds and can never truly get inside one another to see life through one anothers eyes?
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@manu224 (1144)
• Italy
15 Jan 07
everyone is alone in this life, all we're in search of a something that we don't succeed to find and useless to make questions, because these didn't answer
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@livewyre (2455)
15 Jan 07
lighten up dude...look what you did Barbarella, you endarkened him!
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16 Jan 07
Thats okay, he's already endarkened. Said something about easy women having no dignity in another post so don't care!
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@livewyre (2455)
16 Jan 07
I spotted that but hey...he's YOUR friend! - that's a thought actually, can you bump MyLot friends when you don't like them any more?
@livewyre (2455)
15 Jan 07
I like your question, but it's not for the faint-hearted is it? Someone may not have thought they were alone until they read your question.. Of course we are only fleetingly connected with those around us though some connections obviously go deeper than others. You can never really know another person like you know yourself, whatever the romantics may think. We are essentially alone, and I think accepting this is a step in the process of growing up. We start as part of a family and eventually break away. That process of leaving or growing apart from our parents and siblings is really playing out the realisation that we are truly alone. I personally lived apart from my family aged from 20 to 30, before starting my own family so that truth is more of a reality than maybe those who have gone from the bossom of their parental family straight into marriage. For example, my daughter is a toddler and totally reliant on her parents - she is buiding a picture of 'self', but began life not appreciating a distinction between 'self' and anything else. When she does that of course, it will be a hard adjustment for me whose identity is currently defined as 'Daddy' and therefore I am actually reliant on her relationship to me to a great extent. However, I am personally comfortable with the concept of loneliness you describe, though naturally I seek the company of others. If our desire was to be alone, we wouldn't be posting our thoughts here would we? (NB. I'm answering this when I should really be addressing the 'enlightenment' debate - I am doing this for a bit of light relief!)
@livewyre (2455)
15 Jan 07
I noticed the spelling mistake, but thought it would be churlish to mention it. I make about one mistake per 20 words...then spend 5 minutes previewing and correcting - do you do this too, or am I just really bad at using the keyboard?
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14 Jan 07
it dose bother me.. no mater how much we surround outself with friends family and loved ones we are allways truly alone i would love the chance to spend time inside someone else to see how there mind work
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14 Jan 07
Me too, it would be amazing to see the similarities and differences
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14 Jan 07
Eek spelt separately wrong in my post!
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@lilaclady (28270)
• Australia
14 Jan 07
I feel very alone now as I have no family now and my soulmate so to speak passed away couple of years ago, I have good friends but I don' like intruding too much and to be honest being with others doesn't make me feel anyless alone...as the most special people in my life are all gone. But I will get there...:)
26 Feb 07
so sorry 4 ur loss. i know how u xactly feel.
• India
19 Jan 07
one can never feel onself till one sees at the mirror,this is because mind gives the impression of next person in front us but gives only a feeling of elation when we buy something good or do something great.from inside it is empty.
@Tetchie (2933)
• Australia
23 Jan 07
Yes, other people become the mirror and reflect to us. Most of the time we only see the negative reflection. We react when they argue with us or we don't like what they have to say. We seem to look to materialism to satisfy us. But did you ever stop to see the positive reflections. When someone is kind, when you are having a great interaction with someone - that too is a mirror. The materialism is empty isn't it. It only satisfies for a short time then we get tired of it and want more.
@gonzalu (216)
• Portugal
16 Jan 07
I like that privacy of the mind! It makes life better to live! In fact I would really not like to have anyone inside my mind because I would feel myself corrupted and I could not have my secrets.... I believe life is perfect as it is. and I don't feel alone because I like to talk a lot and I hang around with my friends everyday and have a lot of fun.
@livewyre (2455)
16 Jan 07
I'm with you on that point, embrace the loneliness... I guess there is a distinction between what we think of 'lonely' and the concept of being an individual who interacts with other individuals
@Capndon (337)
• India
4 Mar 07
BINGO!!! That's the whole truth & nothing but the truth about life. We ARE alone in this world. In a way that's the way we should be because otherwise we would probably never feel incomplete & never look for completeness & fulfillment in life. That would make us vegetables. I think it should be a welcome truth to us that we are indeed alone & not off the assembly line :) We are humans not cyborgs :)
@Tetchie (2933)
• Australia
23 Jan 07
Well perhaps we are separate from others because of the mind. The mind, or thoughts are what magnify the separation. In the human state we are in, Empathy would be the closest to getting into another person's mind, having had similar experiences and having felt what another person is feeling.