How alone do you feel inside yourself?
15 Jan 07
I like your question, but it's not for the faint-hearted is it? Someone may not have thought they were alone until they read your question.. Of course we are only fleetingly connected with those around us though some connections obviously go deeper than others. You can never really know another person like you know yourself, whatever the romantics may think. We are essentially alone, and I think accepting this is a step in the process of growing up. We start as part of a family and eventually break away. That process of leaving or growing apart from our parents and siblings is really playing out the realisation that we are truly alone. I personally lived apart from my family aged from 20 to 30, before starting my own family so that truth is more of a reality than maybe those who have gone from the bossom of their parental family straight into marriage. For example, my daughter is a toddler and totally reliant on her parents - she is buiding a picture of 'self', but began life not appreciating a distinction between 'self' and anything else. When she does that of course, it will be a hard adjustment for me whose identity is currently defined as 'Daddy' and therefore I am actually reliant on her relationship to me to a great extent. However, I am personally comfortable with the concept of loneliness you describe, though naturally I seek the company of others. If our desire was to be alone, we wouldn't be posting our thoughts here would we? (NB. I'm answering this when I should really be addressing the 'enlightenment' debate - I am doing this for a bit of light relief!)
14 Jan 07
I feel very alone now as I have no family now and my soulmate so to speak passed away couple of years ago, I have good friends but I don' like intruding too much and to be honest being with others doesn't make me feel anyless alone...as the most special people in my life are all gone. But I will get there...:)
23 Jan 07
Yes, other people become the mirror and reflect to us. Most of the time we only see the negative reflection. We react when they argue with us or we don't like what they have to say. We seem to look to materialism to satisfy us. But did you ever stop to see the positive reflections. When someone is kind, when you are having a great interaction with someone - that too is a mirror. The materialism is empty isn't it. It only satisfies for a short time then we get tired of it and want more.
16 Jan 07
I like that privacy of the mind! It makes life better to live! In fact I would really not like to have anyone inside my mind because I would feel myself corrupted and I could not have my secrets.... I believe life is perfect as it is. and I don't feel alone because I like to talk a lot and I hang around with my friends everyday and have a lot of fun.
4 Mar 07
BINGO!!! That's the whole truth & nothing but the truth about life. We ARE alone in this world. In a way that's the way we should be because otherwise we would probably never feel incomplete & never look for completeness & fulfillment in life. That would make us vegetables. I think it should be a welcome truth to us that we are indeed alone & not off the assembly line :) We are humans not cyborgs :)
23 Jan 07
Well perhaps we are separate from others because of the mind. The mind, or thoughts are what magnify the separation. In the human state we are in, Empathy would be the closest to getting into another person's mind, having had similar experiences and having felt what another person is feeling.