This is the real key to getting your topics responded to on Mylot

United States
January 14, 2007 12:23pm CST
The key isn't to make it simple enough, or to put the right amount of question marks, or to make the topic heading something more eye-catching. Those will make the difference between two or three responses at the most. The main key is to have a lot of friends on Mylot. Why, you ask? Simple: most Mylotters, when they reply to discussions, will reply to discussions that their friends started first. I do the same thing - when I feel like replying to discussions, I click "Discussions my friends started" and I start replying to all of my friends' topics, then only after I seem to run them out, I click on "new discussions" and start replying all of the new ones that interest me and just got posted. If you don't have a lot of friends, there's a good chance your topics are being skipped over by people who are replying to only their friends' posts. A more minor tip is to post your discussions under one of your interests. I try to make sure every one of my discussions is filed under one of my interests. This, also, will help them to be seen more.
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@lonewolfnan (4367)
• Canada
14 Jan 07
Like yourself,when i first get on I check to see if any of my friends have started a new thread. I also go into the new discussions after I have checked out the ones I had already started. I finally start adding new ones after giving things consideration.There are days when i will not post any new topics as I can not think of any worthwhile topics. Thank you for the idea of increasing my number of friends.I have asked no one if I could become their friend yet plus have turned some offers after reading some of their previous questions and responses.I guess I am very selective.
• Egypt
14 Jan 07
great to share your idea with your friends here .. but for me it will be a hard days because i'm a new and don't have anyone i know or a friend i can talk with .. mylot offer me this free space to have a new friends
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• Indonesia
15 Jan 07
yes, mostly i also checked what topic discussion that my friend already started then i will go to recent discussion. and also the discussion unresponsed to help me know about interesting topic
@Kscott (634)
• United States
14 Jan 07
I agree and disagree. I respond to some of my friends discussions if they interest me or I have something to say....there are some topics that you may not be able to answer because it might be a subject that doesn't apply to you. Just because someone is on my friends list doesn't mean I "have" to respond to every single discussion they post. I search through all the discussions and find ones that I have an interest in, like or even just plain disagree with! I personally think that it's hit or miss whether you get responses or not, not just necessarily because you have a lot of friends....I have friends on my profile list, but I have not received a ton of responses from them on my topics, I just feel that my topics that I may have posted are just not in someones interest, or they just had nothing to say about what I posted. I do agree that starting a discussion from one of your own interests may get a few more responses, atleast a little more money maybe.
• Philippines
15 Jan 07
I agree with Kscott. We can respond to friend's discussions if we can relate to their topics but if not we can skip it. Having too many friends doesn't mean they're going to respond to all of your discussions started too. Probably for some of your discussions they could not relate to it or have nothing to say about it. I do appreciate that they do respond to some of my discussions started but I would not be expecting them to respond to all. I also limit the friends that I approve. I usually look into their profile first prior to approving him/her.
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@KrauseHome (35507)
• United States
14 Jan 07
These are some Tips Yes, but I have a lot of friends on my friends list personally, and I know I have quite a few who do not always just respond to my discussions, so you never know.
@Idlewild (6094)
• United States
14 Jan 07
I agree with you, having a certain number of friends won't necessarily give you answers. I have more than 50 friends but most of my discussions have fewer than 5 responses.
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@perugu (5281)
• India
14 Jan 07
hi,thank you for sharing good tips.and also change as notify on to some friends will help us and save time in searching on mylot pages.the discussions will come to us directly.
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@riyasam (16571)
• India
15 Jan 07
yeah thanks again.
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@bjone6 (348)
• United States
14 Jan 07
That's a quality post right there. Everything is spelled correctly and you offer some good advice. Thanks from a newbie.
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• Jamaica
15 Jan 07
Thank you! I just came back to MyLot feeling a bit lost, then saw your helpful post that intuitively makes sense. Now I'll continue with my plan to build my friends list... ;-) Angela.
@GardenGerty (105378)
• United States
14 Jan 07
I can vouch for this method. When I was new, I started out with discussions right away, before I knew anyone. No one even noticed me. As I acqired friends, and also got my peronality and name known by my responses, I began to get responses as well. I do think that some discussion topics do generate an exceptional amount of interest as well, but the basics of the whole community is relationships. I have friends on my list who are sometimes hard to understand, they are not really proficient in English, I still try to make sure I answer at least one of theirs a day, if it is a subject I can comment on.
@Idlewild (6094)
• United States
14 Jan 07
I try to add friends only if they have interesting topics or I have something in common wth them. I do look at 'Discussions my friends started'; if I start being less discriminating about adding friends, then I'll start seeing a lot of discussions I'm not interested in.
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@myklj999 (20913)
14 Jan 07
This is what I do too. Although I try to limit my friends to people who have something worth saying. I don't approve all friend requests like I did at first; I'm kinda picky about it now.
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• United States
14 Jan 07
So how does a person get more friends?
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@sandie61 (2359)
• United States
14 Jan 07
that is good advice. I usually reply to discussions my friends started first. then I will go to new or recent discussions. or I really like going to discussions from my interests. that seems to be the best place to find the topics I want to respond too.
@kgwat70 (13396)
• United States
14 Jan 07
I usually try to respond to my friends topics first but will also respond to others that I find interesting. The topics that my friends create get emailed to me and those are the first topics I see before I sign onto myLot. If I do not respond to a persons topic, it is because I can not relate or give a good answer to that topic.
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@BittyBiddy (2903)
• Ireland
14 Jan 07
Very true. I agree that you need friends, but still I will only add friends who post discussions of interest. I hate to see my "Discussions my friends have started" filled up with absolute verbal diarrhoea. :)
• Egypt
14 Jan 07
you are lucky .. you have much friends but i'm the newbie have no friends here but if i get friends i will do as you do now .. because now i reply random threads by searching .. anyway i will do my best to have a nice friends here in mylot ..
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@gabs8513 (48715)
• United Kingdom
14 Jan 07
Yes that is part the secret but then you have to make sure that you have got Friends that do actually start decent Discussions lol But yes I do this to my Friends come first and then I look elsewhere
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@Trace86 (5033)
• United States
14 Jan 07
I have to agree that having friends is very helpful. I have several friends that I have nothing in common with but just can't bring myself to delete. A lot of the time, my discussions don't fit under an interest area.
@spcbrass (1192)
• United States
15 Jan 07
That is the first place I go also. I want to see what my friends have started before I go look at the most popular or newest discussions. I think it is important to help out my friends first. It pushes their topics closer to the front as well and gives them a chance to get a lot more responses on their discussions. Sadly though when I start something it makes it's way to the cellar pretty quickly. I seem to have poor timing when starting my discussions. A few of my friends will find them and respond, but for the most part I don't really get more then 15 replies for each discussion.
@mkirby624 (1599)
• United States
15 Jan 07
I don't. I rarely read my friends discussions and rarely get repsonses from my friends on my discussions.
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@remaster74 (4065)
• Greece
15 Jan 07
I would say the best way to gain answers for your discussion is to have a theme interesting enough and not foolish. Not to ask about colour of hair or eyes or things like that.
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@riyasam (16571)
• India
15 Jan 07
i think you are right.although i dont check anybodys profile ,some people do posts which i feel is not worth my discussing.
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@crazynurse (7489)
• United States
15 Jan 07
This is good to know. As a relative newbie (two weeks now) I am still trying to understand all the ins and outs of myLot. I only recently found the 'discussions my friends started' link! It didn't take me long to find that there are certain people whose posts I really like and others whose posts are mindless dribble! Again, thanks for the words of advice!
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@magusto (561)
• Portugal
14 Jan 07
very good my friend. i will try to do as you sayd. and after that i will invite you to be my friend
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