Girls (women) belong to the house!!!!!!

@manong05 (5029)
Philippines
January 16, 2007 8:25am CST
We took care of a girl who ran away from home because she was asked by her parents to quit shool to give way for her younger brother to finish his studies. The parents arguments were there's no use for her finishing high school since she is going to marry someday anyway and will stay in the house to look after her children. The father also argued that his income can barely support one's schooling let alone the two of them. She was terribly hurt and decided to run away. Do you feel the parents decision is justifiable considering their financial problems? And that the boy has the right more than her?
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@leedug (921)
• United States
16 Jan 07
Isn't public education free? How can they not afford schooling for two? If they need help with clothing and food and supplies, there are various charities that would help them. This is the most backwards thing that parents can do to their daughter. Gender has nothing to do with success. What if the daughter decides NOT to marry? What if she marries an abusive man and needs to get away? Wouldn't it be nice if she had an education to fall back and her own means to make it on her own? I hope she is smart enough to know better than what her parents are teaching her, and since she decided to leave I am assuming she is. What these parents are doing is creating another possible uneducated female that my have rely on welfare for years in order just to make it. I am glad you are helping take care of. Hopefully she can finish her education!
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@BDnLacy (324)
• United States
16 Jan 07
I agree with what you said. But I have address the charity issue. A lot of people are afraid of asking for help when it comes to getting the basics for their children because, it gives the state a perfect reason to take them from the parents.
• Netherlands
16 Jan 07
These charity thingsare not available in all countries. A lot of countries make you pay or contribute money to education of your children. Not all countries have standard public schools. I am not condoning the parents in this story at all, just explaining how this situation could possibly have come up. I think that it was wrong to ask the daughter to step down to allow the son to school. I think that women need education just as much as men in everyway because marriages don't always work, people die and the one left has got to be left with the ability to take care of themself or else what? Not all countries have welfare systems to reply on. People in most cntries just starve.
• Philippines
17 Jan 07
Definitely not! People were created equal, no matter to which race, color, and definitely geneder they belong to. The parents, I believe, were just influenced by the ancient scheme of a patriarchal society that was promoted by the Catholic Church. At this point in time, I believe that women have proved their worth in various fields in the society. Thus, there is definitely no reason to treat them as inferior to men. As for the girl, I believe that she has to prove her worth to her family. She should dream big and do everything (that's moral and right) in order to make her parents and the society see that women do have the right to a good education, and moreover- to equal treatment.
• Philippines
17 Jan 07
* gender (typo error)
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@prateli (68)
• Bulgaria
17 Jan 07
I can believe of that I am reading,the girl shoul study.So what she will marry one day but she does not have to be without education.
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@katenkim (240)
• Singapore
17 Jan 07
We are in the technological era, everyone has equal right including the animals. So parents be more reasonable.
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@bhaven (18)
• India
17 Jan 07
girls now a days want to get freedom as muchas like mens and it is obvious that someone like parents,husband want to stop her than she dosen't like that freedom is necessary in this days for girls not stop in house boundries
@yorb24 (2181)
• United States
17 Jan 07
I don't think this is right to show favoritism no matter the gender. Sad that they felt they needed to do that to her. You did a good thing by taking her in.
@DiscoBall (159)
• Australia
17 Jan 07
No, nowadays both girls and boys should have the same rights. It's just not right to say a woman cant do as much as a man. We're all equal.
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@ktmpok (611)
• Nepal
17 Jan 07
i think that it is not the ture.... women or girls doesn't belong to only house...
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@boogasmom (149)
• United States
17 Jan 07
I understand hard times. I do not however believe that gives them the right to make her miss out on her education. I would starve myself and the dog to make sure ALL my kids got an education.
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• Nigeria
16 Jan 07
I do feel that women can combine their work together with their house hold chores if they sta at hom they will be bord and just grow fat
@madgirl (210)
• India
16 Jan 07
While I do agree that girls should have the right to go out and work, I do not like the implication that homemakers are just bored, fat people. I would like to see men handle this job for any reasonable amount of time as well as women do right now. Taking care of the home is also challenging. But no one has the right to say that only so and so gender should take care of the home or only so and so gender should bring home the bacon, so to speak.
• India
17 Jan 07
that is a big problem in India specially in villages. but now the picture is changing. Now there are many school who gives free or on less fee education to girls. Education is must for everybody. After that she can work and help financially also. After marriage she can help her family financially and educate her children and can manage his house.
@Brooke3 (614)
16 Jan 07
I think it's really sad that throughout the world people are forced to take their children out of schooling for financial reasons. It is also really sad that less girls are schooled that boys. I don't think you can blame the parents, it's just the way that society is wherever they live, if girls usually grow up to just be housewives then while I think it's terribly sad it's not the fault of the parents. But I have a lot of respect for the girl for running away and fighting for her right to education. Its great that took care of her.
@Brooke3 (614)
16 Jan 07
I have no idea at all. I guess maybe they rely on their sons or their extended family.
@BDnLacy (324)
• United States
16 Jan 07
Oh I have to add my cooments here. No way should a parent tell a girl that. In todays world so many men get women pregnant and then dissappear. If a girl has no education she wont be able to work to support that child and the tax payers end up paying for it. But even if that situation doen't accure she still has ALL the same rights as a boy, education included. I would not send that girl back to them. I would show her the right way to live and tell her parents to join us in the 21st century.... GEE I can not believe people still think this way.
@swatig (1187)
• India
16 Jan 07
I wish 21st century can increase the earning of the family. Those having Money still not understand what is financial contrainst for any. I also not agree with the family decision of let her go, for the sake of him studies. I not agree with the decision.
• United States
16 Jan 07
I agree. In today's society women are getting more & more oppurtunities & are getting careers! I graduated HS with honors! And had not I been faced with the difficulties of the moral issues of having a nanny versus taking responsiblity for my own children I would be in college & on my way to a great carreer. But I plan on going back once my kids are in school & I can spread my time around better in career & family. My brother dropped out of school & has been in jail more often than not. So I don't wanna hear how "boys have more promising futures". Great topic by the way. :)
@Capndon (337)
• India
16 Jan 07
Justifiable or not is a little too difficult to judge for us I think. But I definitely don't agree that the boys rights are anyway more or less than the girl. For all you know the girl could use her education to work or earn some extra money after she has been married out & her new family is having it's own financial problems. In the situation the parents were probably they had to find a reason & this was probably the best they could find. Otherwise there is nothing to support their stand or decision I feel. Great job you did bringing up the girl.
@manong05 (5029)
• Philippines
16 Jan 07
Hard to judge, isn't it. I think the father also thinks that the son maybe able to help after he finished school and gets a job. But who can be sure what will happen? And that will take a long time and the girl will be a lot older by that time and may lose the desire to study knowing that her classmates are years younger than she is.
• Germany
17 Jan 07
ya its very difficult to judge who is right here. Parents decision to stop a girl from studying was on there part right as they could not afford. But the girls desire to study is on her part right, she is so interested in studying that she can do anthing for it and left the house. The best part is parents who would find a right solution for this, as they know what is the financial situation of the family.
@jep_toyo (1607)
• Philippines
16 Jan 07
If the parents cant afford schooling of their children they should at least explain it to them in a nice way. Its much easier for their kids to understand their situation and one of them will surely give way to one another. The parents did a terrible thing to their kids, it wont solve their problem, it just became worst. If ever i am in that situation I will explain to my kids why we cant support their schooling and ask them if its ok if one of them will stop and let the other one finish first.
@manong05 (5029)
• Philippines
16 Jan 07
apparently, the parents already explained the situation to the girl but she just have a very strong desire to study and don't see the problem from the parent's point of view.
@ritzritu (173)
• India
18 Jan 07
No it was wrong on the parents part to treat her like this. It show gender discrimination which is a offence.I do agree when there is financial problem it difficult to manage but there are charitable schools where they can send both the kids.Education is of prime importance.
@amafrias (456)
• United States
18 Jan 07
No the boy has no more of a right than the daughter. Her life is destined to be hard and not happy from that moment on. She has been taught that she is worth nothing more than a simple servant to some man somewhere. Now if she finished school and decided to stay home and care for her family and husband that is her decision, and she has that choice and right. but she should be allowed just as much opportunity to better her life as her brother. My husbands brother in Mexico has just been faced with the same decision. His 5 children are in a private school and this is quite expensive over there, so he has decided to take the one girl child out of school an let her help her mom at home and learn to be a housewife, and Mom. This little girl has dreams of finishing school and attending a University somewhere. Those dreams are now gone and she is destined to marry young and live the way her mother does. In Mexico womem are oppressed and expected to serve their husbands no questions asked. This is not in all Mexican families, but the more traditional ones it is.I had to break my husband in early. His family just thinks I am the crazy white girl from the U.S...lol We already have our 6 year old in a pre paid college program, and she will become whatecer she choses to become. We stress to her the inportance of education, and being happy in her life.
@rmuxagirl (7568)
• United States
17 Jan 07
I don't think I can really judge the situation. As far as she will marry and stay at home, that could be something for their culture they strongly believe I don;t know. I don't think boys should have more rights then a girl in any situation.
@rsbrsb (217)
• India
17 Jan 07
its all their thought that boy has the right more than the girl.
@mauier113 (688)
• Philippines
17 Jan 07
back in the old days, it was the set up families that women should not go to school because eventually they would end up mothers who would take care of the kids. but in todays world, it should no longer be the set up. Women should have the right to have education. To earn some degree or even just short courses. I think is is right to learn something for yourself. Even if you ecide to be a stay at home mom in the future, at least you can teach your kids or even help them regarding schooling.
@wmaharper (2316)
• United States
17 Jan 07
No, I don't think there descision was justifiable. I think they should have not had two children if they could not afford to support them both. I do not see why they could not have homeschooled one or both of the children, maybe spent the money on a tutor that could teach BOTH of thier children? I think that they still had other options and they did a huge disservice to there daughter, implying that she is of lesser value than her brother.