This hasn't happened in a long time!
By Trace86
@Trace86 (5030)
United States
January 17, 2007 4:20am CST
My 19 year old stepson just referred to me as his family. I am floored. I have always considered him my kid, but have been unsure of his feelings for a number of years.
I remember when he was 7 he asked if he could call me "mom", because I was "sort of his mom". I said sure. The very next day, his mother heard him call me "mom" and blew a gasket. Ever after, he called me Trace.
Then when he was 9 he said he wished his mother would die so I could be his mom. I told him I could be like his mom even though I was his Trace. He was cool with it.
Then teenage hit and I was the enemy.
Anyway, my husband is out of town on family business in FL, his mom died. I had asked him to ask his son to be home by 3am while he was gone. My husband is coming home Th. and I thanked J for being home at night so I could bolt the door and feel safe. He said he didn't mind because he was protective of his family. I am so touched, I want to cry.
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@brendalee (6082)
• United States
17 Jan 07
Dealing with step kids can be difficult. I am so happy for you. It always feels good when you get such a compliment. Just the other day, my boyfriends son was on the phone with one of his friends and he reffered to me as his step mom. I was shocked. His father and I are not married and his mother hates me. Enjoy your moment. You deserve it.
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@Trace86 (5030)
• United States
17 Jan 07
Yet another thing we have in common Brendalee. His mother despises me. Even though she is the one who cheated on, left and divorced my husband when the boy was less than 2 and I didn't meet him until the boy was 4, it is somehow my fault. At least that is what she told the boy when he was 10 or so.
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@crazynurse (7482)
• United States
17 Jan 07
Aww. That is so sweet. That is a testimony to your diligence and patience and caring. You have proved yourself to him over time and have not pushed him to call you mom. As long as he respected you and acted like family, I'm sure was enough...but to have him admit that he considers you family must just be so heart-warming! I'm happy for you!
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@ElusiveButterfly (45939)
• United States
23 Jan 07
Funny how life happens to teenagers and they realize how much you mean to them.
@Lydia1901 (16351)
• United States
19 Jan 07
Well, good for you. Maybe he finally came around and accepted you as a parent for sure.
@mom2boys (334)
• United States
19 Jan 07
kids will surprise you wont they! it sounds like you have done a great job as his step mom, and made it clear to him you were there for him regardless, that is awesome of you, more and more step parents should be so welcoming!
@dfinster (3528)
• United States
30 Jan 07
I still remember the first time my step daughter called me mom. She was 3 and we were have a campfire in the backyard with friends. One of the other kids asked her for more hotdogs and she said "you have to ask my mom". I've been with her since she was like a year old and have always just treated and loved her like she was my own child, but it was the greatest thing in the world to know she felt the same.
@ossie16d (11821)
• Australia
30 Jan 07
That is lovely Trace and it just shows that the love and care you have shown to this young man has reached him after all. He is now old enough to decide who is family and who is not as well as what he wants to call you. It is most unfortunate that his birth mother didn't recognise the fact that her son would make his own decisions and he could actually love both of you in his own way. Perhaps she just felt a little bit insecure about the whole situation. However those days are now behind you and although he has probably thought of you as family for a long time, it sometimes takes teenagers a while to voice these things. Mind you, they can be very vocal about other things all the same. LOL
So, Trace keep on loving this young man, treat him in the same way you have been for all these years and as you now see the rewards are there in just those few words.
@wmaharper (2316)
• United States
27 Jan 07
How sweet! I'm so happy he has begun to show you how much he appreciates you. I know when I was his age, is when I finally began to recognize how much I loved and needed my family.
