Am I being unreasonable?

United States
January 18, 2007 1:54am CST
I invited a friend out for a night with my sister and some friends. We went to Atlantic City (for those who don't know, this is a town at the shore with a bunch of casinos) and we stayed overnight. All my friend did the whole time was complain about the $3 she lost to the slot machine. In the morning all she did was keep asking me when we were leaving. At breakfast, she was "so hungry" that she ran ahead and ate alone rather waiting for my sister and friends to come down to breakfast (I waited for them.) Since I've came home, I keep thinking about it and getting more and more annoyed. They seem like small things, but she ruined my trip. Am I wrong to be so mad at her?
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16 responses
@ronita34 (3923)
• Canada
16 Feb 07
No i do not think that you are wrong for being mad at her as she seems to be what i would call a party pooper or even a drag. Personally i am like you and i would also be frustrated and annoyed the more that i thought about it just like you. We all live and learn and now you know that you should think twice before you invite her anywhere else! I have had friends like this that are not my type of crowd so i try not to get involved with them too much at all. I love to have fun and i hate to be brought down for the stupidest reasons such as these!
• United States
17 Feb 07
You know even till now I haven't heard from her, it's been like a month. I suppose she's mad I didn't cater to her the whole time.
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@acosjo (1904)
• Canada
18 Feb 07
Are you starting a catering business? Why didn't you tell me? How many dinners have you catered?
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• United States
19 Feb 07
I didn't tell you, cause I was trying to keep it a secret.
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@xphile777 (428)
• United States
20 Jan 07
Your friend sounds rude and inconsiderate and apparently is messy, as well. What a winner. ;) Now that you've found out this about her, you'll know never to invite her with you on another trip, and might want to cut back on inviting her over to your place, as well. She sounds like someone who's better at being an acquaintance than a friend. So, I agree. Next time, invite Acojos instead. :)
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• United States
20 Jan 07
Oops! I mean Ocosjo. Sorry about the misspelling. 0:)
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• United States
20 Jan 07
Acosjo. Acosjo. Acosjo. There! I FINALLY got it right. I hope.
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@acosjo (1904)
• Canada
22 Jan 07
I'm sorry but that is wrong. my name starts with a small a, not a capital a. Wait a second? You call me inconsiderate and then you ask me to be your friend? What's up wid dat?
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12 Feb 07
I know what thats like. I had a close friend for over two years who recently has started to really annoy me. It's like everything is a problem. I think perhaps she has changed and we're not compatable as friends anymore. Maybe the same thing has happened with you and your friend? You should be true to yourself, if you don't enjoy her company don't spend time with her.
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@acosjo (1904)
• Canada
12 Feb 07
Yes, you are very right. As tictac714's "Designated Representative" I would like to thank you for that response.
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• Canada
13 Feb 07
Ummmm, how in praytell did you become tictac's designated representative?
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• United States
14 Feb 07
It's not how in praytell, it's how, praytell.
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• India
18 Jan 07
if u r in her place how u r response . dont think in that way.think positively. everything will be alright .
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@acosjo (1904)
• Canada
19 Jan 07
That makes no sense whatsoever. She's upset because of the actions of her friend and you're telling her to think positively. True, people should generally be positive but that was not her question. Also, why would tictac put herself in her friend's place? Her friend should put herself in tictac's place. (Why am I even bothering to explain? This person wouldn't even understand anyway. Now I am talking to myself. Ok, I'm done.)
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@acosjo (1904)
• Canada
23 Jan 07
Oh yeah baby!
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@ronita34 (3923)
• Canada
16 Feb 07
That is really an awesome response. Go Oilers Go is right ... LOL! They got one point tonight at least although they lost in Overtime! I know they will get the next one in the bag though for sure!!
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@wednesday (114)
• Australia
23 Jan 07
I dont think you are being unreasonable, I would feel the same way, It takes me a while to get angry at someone. I have been forcing myself latley tho to they and tell people when they do something that annoys me from the beginning, like you say before they go "oh do you thing you could put your cup in the kitchen?" but I dont think I would be going on a trip with them again, It sounds like your friend is very lazy. I dont think you have to keep all friends also, even if they are part of your group, you can just associatte with her through the other if need be. That way you can avoid being rude ^_^
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@xyla_v (314)
• India
20 Jan 07
not at all.when you go out with your friends you've to be act as a team otherwise there is no fun going with friends.in the first she should have waited for the friends before she ate anything.
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@acosjo (1904)
• Canada
19 Jan 07
No, there's nothing wrong with feeling that way. Just don't let it bother you too much that it consumes too much of your energy. Let it go and plan/look forward to another trip without her. After all I've been through with my wife (separated), live and learn. Now you know you will not ask this person on any other trips.
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@acosjo (1904)
• Canada
19 Jan 07
I know who you could ask. acosjo! After all, he has been so nice and helpful with exercise and I don't think you will ever find someone as nice and kind and sweet and smart and strong and cute as him. I'm sure he won't whine and complain about anything. In fact, you could probably drop him off outside in the rain, have lunch, go shopping, come back to the exact same spot, pick him up and he will say "what's for supper". What a wonderful idea!
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• Canada
19 Jan 07
Don't we have a big head on out shoulders. tictac, is this punk bothering you? If so, I'll show him a thing or two about exercise! hehe
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@acosjo (1904)
• Canada
19 Jan 07
Who are you calling a punk....punk? I'd block your sorry butt, PowerHitter, everytime! Pass....Set....Kaboooom! How do you like me now?!?!
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• United States
3 Feb 07
She lost $3 and is complaining? Why did she bother to make the trip? She obviously knew that a casino is a gambling establishment and there is no guarantee that you will win money. She should have thanked her lucky stars that was all she lost. And about her rude behavior for not waiting for everyone to get together for breakfast, that was totally uncalled for. She sounds like a spoiled rotten brat that likes to have her own way. If this were my friend, she would not be invited to join me for such occasions again.
• United States
4 Feb 07
Exactly! You know, now, this whole thing has been 2 or 3 weeks ago and I haven't even heard from her. It makes me even more annoyed...because I guess she got mad since I didn't like how she was acting. Oh well, guess it's about time to let it go.
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@ronita34 (3923)
• Canada
16 Feb 07
I agree with you and ElusiveButterfly has an outstanding answer as usual! I think that $3 is absolutely nothing and that she knew darn well that they were going to a gambling establishment. Did she think that $3 would make her a million .... LOL! I agree that she seems like a spoiled brat and she isn't what i would call GOOD friend material at all!
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@BittyBiddy (2905)
• Ireland
19 Jan 07
It takes time to find out what friends are really like and there's nothing like spending a night like that with a friend to discover their true colours. It sounds like this friend has been causing you to feel annoyed for quite a while so maybe now is the time to distance yourself from her. There's no reason why you can't still be friends......just not as close.
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• United States
19 Jan 07
Yeah you're definitely right about spending an amount of time like that with someone and realizing what they're like. Right now I don't even want to talk to her. I suppose maybe I'll calm down eventually and maybe we can try to be friends but like you said, not nearly as close. The problem with me is, it takes a long time to get me really angry but once you do....well, I don't know if I am going to even want to bother with her again which seems a shame.
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• United States
23 Jan 07
You all went as a group. So, I don't see why she didn't just wait for y'all. It doesn't make any sense. As far as the complaining...it's definitely like rain on the parade. I wouldn't stop being her friend because of it, but I would be sure NOT to invite her on other trips!
• India
18 Jan 07
If you've been friends with her for quite long now, then you must be pretty aware of her nature and there shouldn't be any reason for you to be mad at her or even if u are, say that to her (i.e. if the two of you are pretty close). If not, then u aren't being unreasonable at all, since one should be considerate enough not to spoil someone else's mood over such small matters!
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• India
18 Jan 07
And forget it now, it's over! Njoy yourself!
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• United States
18 Jan 07
We've only been friends for about a year. There are things about her that have been bugging me, like when she comes over she makes a mess and I have to clean up after her when she leaves. They are all small things but she's rude!
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@xiongqh (793)
• Hong Kong
19 Jan 07
I don't think you are the unreasonable people. People always notive those trivial things, and get angry or get mad sbout it.but I think it is not necessary. I think you just to keep your happy about the trip, don't aanyed about it, they just make themselves unhappy. have a good trip, I hope you have a good day.
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• United States
19 Jan 07
Thanks =)
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• United States
7 Mar 07
I think if you are still bothered by her actions then you should discuss this with her. I know how you feel . It is awful when you have a friend that is annoying on what should be a fun trip. If she is a good friend then she will listen. I don't know if she would understand, but hopefully she will listen to u.
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• United States
7 Mar 07
With everything that is happening in my life these days, there are just some things that take less importance...this would be one of those things for me. Has your life been worse without her? I mean to me, she owes you a huge apology, but I would not let it destroy me if I didn't get it. One of my favorites sayings in situations that I decide not to worry over....obladi oblada life goes on, lala how the life goes on
@yogiraut (230)
• India
20 Jan 07
u should have spoken acros the table and avoided ur trip getting ruined
@few00cent (2143)
• India
20 Jan 07
just put yourself in her place and think on it ...maybe she was so hungry as wolf or so hungry that she could eat horse."to the hungry soul every bitter thing is sweet"...don't be mad at her..learn to forgive n forget.