He Has Kidney Stones...Should I fly home?

If they sent him home, then he is in no real danger. He may be in a lot of pain though. I would wait to see what happens. Any surgery, no matter how small, can be dangerous. With kidney stones, they just blast the large stone into smaller, easier to pass stones. With todays medical technology, I do not think this is a very serious surgery. I would stay in contact with him, I am sure he would love to hear from you and to know that you care about how he is feeling. I would wait to see what happens. There is not a lot you can do for him, unless there is no one to take care of him in Arkansas. I wish him the best, but I am sure he will be OK.

As previous posters have stated, removal is usually by lithotripsy. However, my fathers stone was removed by inserting an instrument into the pen*s and grabbing the stone. Method of removal will depend upon where the stone lies in the urinary system. I have put a weblink for you, it is a reputable source that is easy to read. It describes all the methods of removal and has a great overview of stones. As for flying home, I don't think it is warrented, unless you just have the money and want to. Stone removal is considered a 'minor' procedure. However, I am obliged as a professional to say that things can go wrong so use your judgement! Best of luck to your dad and you!http://kidney.niddk.nih.gov/kudiseases/pubs/stonesadults/index.htm

If the doctor say that he can pass it out, its probably very small. Now a days, operations are nothing to be afraid of. But on the otherhand, parents want their children by their side when they are not feeling ok. Its not on the gravity of the operation that you decide to go to see your father, but on the need of him to see you. Good luck and I hope your father will be ok without an operation.

any more they do a laser surgery so its not that bad of a surgery.he will have maybe 3 holes were they crushed the stones an they are big around as a pencil eraser, an also they can stick them in a tub of water an give them a shock wave an he may pass them doing this instead of surgery.kidneys stones are painfull so i hope he gets well soon.

I remeber when my dad had kidney stones. They did not do surgery but used a lazer of some sort to blast them into smaller pieces. Make an iquiry as to this procedure It was a very painful experience, but he did not end up having surgery and passed them on his own. I would wait and see. You can always fly "standby" if you need to get to Arkansas in a hurry.

I think if the surgey is needed then you fly home. Another words wait it out. If hi passes them all will be ok and then you would have flown home for no good reason. Why spend they money and or miss work for this its not that serious.

I have chronic cystine stones and have had 4 surgeries in the past year and I've passed about 100 stones all on my own as well. Anyway they were ureteroscopic lithotripsies with stent placements each time. These were all outpatient procedures and while I did come down with an infection after one of the surgeries it was stopped very quickly. As soon as I woke up from the surgeries I felt 110% better. You could feel the stents and they were mildly uncomfortable but all of that pain and nausea was long gone. I wouldn't be too worried about your dad.

If you will feel more comfortable with your family then you should fly home otherwise there is nothing to be worried of because new york has a good number of hospitals which can take great care of your father and he will be cured in no time.

Ive heard kidney stones are pretty painful he probably will pass them. I cant tell you what to do but I would keep in contact with him to see if they have passed yet. Its your call.

of course u should fly back..he is ur father...even its not a serious case..but at least u should go home..take leave..ok..take care

my grandfather has had kidney stones about three times. he gets the worst kind, the "sticker-burr" kind. there are 2 types of kidney stones--smooth and sticker-burr. this is not a major surgery. your dad should be out of the hospital in 3-5 days TOPS!! Good luck and no need to worry too much!

if ur asking me...u should just to be near to him and supported him during this time ....ur present is important if u can go home and no important things around u are needed you attention...then go home...

You should go home to check if everything is ok,this is your father and you should be next to him!

Ok, here's my humble opinion. I know as a parent, if you could afford to, it's nice to know that your children care about you & will be there for you when the chips are down, so to speak. I mean, it may not be a case of if you "have" to fly home, but a case of just showing support for your Daddy -- you know? I think that would mean a lot to him, having your moral support. If on the other hand you CANNOT go barring dire circumstances, then at least call frequently & definitely send a card or some little gift. I think sometimes kids (even when they're grown) still think in terms of the parents doing all for them, i.e., being there for them when they're sick, etc, but it DOES feel good to a parent when you know that you can get back some of that care when you're sick! Best of luck to you, whatever you decide & hope your Dad gets well soon!

It must be small enough he will pass it on his own,they sent him home so they probably did a catscan on him ,Ive had kidney stones in the past and that is by far the most painful thing ive ever dealt with.

Kidney stones aren't serious. I've had'em myself. They're very painful but not serious at all. Not worth splurging for a plane ticket for. Unless you're rich, in which case take a vacation instead.

OK , its a problem that can be treated. No need to panic & rush.Wait for few days & if surgery is to be performed, still its lot safer & traumatic these days & recovery is very fast. You may fly back at the time of surgery (if reqd.)

As others have said, kidney stones shouldn't be too serious a procedure. Of course, this is assuming your father is in good health to begin with. I'm guessing that he is, since you haven't mentioned any other ailments. Hope things go well for him.

I really should be an expert on this :) MY husband has had them 4 times already. He was able to pass them on his own, but I have done research on the surgey that they would do. First off yes, kidney stones are very painful & they compare kidney stones to childbirth--but, there isn't anything you can do if you would fly home-- your Dad needs to pass them on his own and if he can't and you want to come home for the surgery for support than you should. My friend who is 23 and just had her second child-- got kidney stones from her pregnancy and she wasn't able to pass her's on her own so she did the surgery. The surgery is done and then you go home that same day & of course go back for re-check. Her first surgery was where they went up through her urethra/ put a stint in and broke apart the kidney stones so they would be able to come out.. her second one on the other kidney is going to be the sound waves breaking them apart. Your under for both procedures & I don't know which one your Dad will have done (if he doesn't pass them on his own) If he has kidney stones in both kidneys he will have to have one done @ a time-- or atleaset that's how they do it where I live. It's a very common procedure that is done-- like I said most people go home in the same day. Although it is painful--it's said to be minor. But, again.. if you want to come home to be with your family and help out with whatever but I don't think it's crucial.. it's basically up to you and what you need to do.

I think it is essential to be next to the ones we love, specially on the most difficult times. I think you should go and support your dad, but you need to be careful and see if you can plan a trip to Arkansas at this current time, because the distance is quite long. I hope your dad recovers soon though and best of lucks to your & your family during this difficult time. Health always ends up coming up in first place in life...