Ever get frustrated with your child(ren)?

United States
January 21, 2007 10:20pm CST
Do you ever find that sometimes, when entering a power struggle with your children, that you respond differently towards them than you would someone else's child? Let's talk about practical ways of dealing with that frustration. Tell me the things that you do in those types of situations to help you reach a solution and also about the things that you wish you didn't. I look forward to your solutions and your feeback. -Charlie
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@Willowlady (10666)
• United States
27 Jan 07
Sure we all get frustrated with out children. They are becoming their own kind of person and we don't have as much imput anymore. We have to learn to do what we can and hope all our prior teaching will care them through to adulthood. Would certainly be nice if they would draw on our experiences and knowledge and save themselved some grief at times! This is a great question and am hoping that others will find it and respond also!!
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@Willowlady (10666)
• United States
28 Jan 07
Glad to see you appreciated my thought, am glad I could share it with you! Responses so far are quite interesting!! Thanks for starting this discussion!!
• United States
28 Jan 07
Wow, a powerful question! My daughter will be difficult on purpose, just to see if she can get a reaction out of me. I used to yell, but finally realized it's useless and ends up hurting more. Most of our power struggles have to do over whether or not she's going to help with the chores; when she doesn't clean her room, I remove some things to see if she notices. If she doesn't, I'll give it about 6 months and if she still doesn't ask for it, I'll put it in the donation pile. I know that's not the best solution, but I'm at a loss. When it's someone else's child, if the parents are there, I let them handle it; if not, I'll sit them down and tell them they cannot act that way.
• United States
28 Jan 07
Great insight from an experienced parent it would appear! Consequences, as you mentioned, are definitely a good way to handle a situation like that...and giving them a choice...and trying not to get too emotionally involved. Isn't it interesting how manipulative our children can be at times?! Thanks, Scorps for the words of wisdom! -Charlie
@deebomb (15323)
• United States
28 Jan 07
We all get frustrated with our children especially when they start thinking for them selves. They shouldn't do that until they leave home(HaHa)It would make our lives so much easier if they would just do what we wanted to. You have to state thnhe LAW then walk away. That is the only way to win. You have to then shut them out or go hide somewhere so you don't have to argue with them. I would some thims like to have hung mine up in the closet for a while. That or have them disappear for a couple of hours. not for long just a couple. really I love them. wouldn't know what to do with out them.
• United States
28 Jan 07
Yes, time is a great healer. Taking a break can go a long way to getting you back on track as a parent and not as a ruthless dictator-parent-person-thing...lol. Lay down the law - that's it. Then they can deal with the consequences. True enough. Thanks for your suggestions, deebomb! -Charlie