Are you quilty of say, because I am or Mother/Father, or because i said so???

Sometimes, believe it or not, that IS the appropriate answer. Not because we couldn't explain further if we chose to, but because we do not always owe anyone any explanation any further than that. There are times when it really pays to establish yourself as the supreme ruler that you are, as a parent, because a family isn't really a democracy when it comes to certain issues. Maybe it is on what to have for dinner or even where to go on vacation, but on matters of security, etc., no way. Many, many things just are as they are ... because I said so. If you give one inch of explanation, you are in for one mile of debate. And some things do not deserve to be debated.

Now to think about it i do say those very often. My four year old daughter can't do anything that i ask her, unless she ask me why. i can't stand it, and at times i feel like running away...lol. My most famous is "BECAUSE I SAID SO!!!" it seems to be working so far. but the fact is i shouldn't even have to say that. she should do as she is told. that's how i was raised.

Yes, I'm afraid I have and still do, maybe that is where I am going wrong, but I do think a parents role should be more respected by their children, especially the grown up ones.

yes i have said it, i hate when they come at you with but why mommy but why.

I have been known to say those words a lot lately, because my kids are always asking "why" My oldest daughter just looks at me and says "mom, that's not a real reason" It's funny.

Oh my yes I have several times. Usually my four year old has a comeback for everything I say but this one she has no comment for I would say that I'm guilty of usuing it often just so I cant shut her up! lol

Children should understand that we as parents are more matured and more experienced than they are. We've already learned from our mistakes that's why, they should listen to us for we know what's best for them.

I've said it many times. Do I feel guilty or bad because I've said it? Heck no. Sometimes you just have to do what you've got to do.

I have said it, I just use different words "When you have children, you can (let them wear that, eat that, say that, let them stay up late, ect.) but, you don't, and I do, so, I get to make the rules." Same thing, just different words. And hey, 34momma-don't feel guilty about this, we may live in a democratic society, our children live in a matriachy:)

Guilty of it, No. I do not feel guilty, It is my duty and right as a parent and it is a fact. I am the Mommy. Two year olds are not rationale, they do not understand many concepts. I am the boss. Never feel guilty about playing the Mom card when it is in the best interest of your child. Children are often not capable of deciding what is in their best interests, you must do it for them.

Yes I do say that and I won't offer any apologies for it :) I feel very strongly that our children don't need to have a reason to obey us. We only give them negotiating tools when we offer explainations for everything. My philosophy says that when I ask my child to do something or tell them "No." they all ready know it's for their own good so I shouldn't have to explain myself.

Unfortunately I have although I said I never would. I have a four year old whose is constantly asking why. Eventually I run out of answers and this slips out of my mouth.

Oh, like you said. I am my mother's child! I think that that was one of her favorite sayings growing up. I don't find myself saying it very often, but with my teen boys, there has been an occasion to do so when they were in middle school.

Yes I have said that too. Usually after my daughter has continually questioned something I have asked her to do, then I reply that she has to do it because I have told her to.

Well as I do not have children so I do not say so, but yes my mother asks me at times, who is the mother me or you. but I say first prove it what you are saying this is no excuse.

When my neice was little sometimes we'd say it especially at that age of "Why" that kids get into. You know where you could explain something and then they ask why, so you explain more and it's another why. You eventually get tired of going from explaining one thing to explaining another and you say "Because I said so." Now though since she's 12 it's usually just said in jest. When it's something she wants to do and she knows she's not to do and she keeps bugging us. We'll finally look at her and say "Because I said so that's why."

i couldn't understand what you are trying to say

When I was a kid, I hated it when my parents said "because I said so," but isn't it funny how it makes perfect sense when you grow up? Of course I have said it, and have even said the "you'll understand when you are older," and I don't feel bad about it... they WILL understand when they get older!

Believe me I have tried that many times but with my son it doesn't work, he will question it time after time. He thinks he needs a "good explanation" I never questioned my mom when she said " because I said so" I wish it were that easy now days.