Are you the same person since you had a child?
By greenjam
@greenjam (26)
January 24, 2007 8:13am CST
Ok, this I suppose is more for the ladies and would like to know out of interest who feels they are still the same person since they had a child? I know that once you have a baby your life changes and there are changes that happen in your relationship with partner/husband, all in all you do become a different person because of this huge responsibility of caring for a child. I had post-natal depression and am okay now, my depression didn't actually have anything to do with the baby but my doctor diagnosed it as post-natal depression. Anyway, since having my little one, I just haven't felt the same person that I was before I had my baby, I continue to work, look after a house, meet and go out with family and friends and have a good relationship with my husband and am generally quite happy, but I often have this feeling that I am not the same person and want a part of the old "carefree" me back, or maybe I haven't adjusted 100% to this new role I have of mother,I feel like i haven't got time for my old interests or I am just too tired after the end of the day, i'm not perfect but I think I'm a good mom and wife, and love my little boy who I've bonded with really well. Anyway do others out there feel like this and more importantly does this feeling ever go away or do you just eventually adapt and learn to accept this is your life now?
1 response
@trish32 (1471)
• United States
24 Jan 07
It's very common to feel tired, overwhelmed or even stressed out at times after you have a baby, especially your first child. I'm not sure how old your little one is, but it does take time for your body and hormones to get back to normal and then your life will settle down more. You may never feel as carefree as you did before your baby was born, after all there are so many things that you become aware of and concerned about after you have a child, but you will have more time to yourself to enjoy your hobbies and interests after your little one gets a bit older. Once you develop a routine with him it makes for more "me" time for you to enjoy other things.
You may want to consider taking a few hours for yourself now and again, have a family member or friend that you trust watch the baby and go out to lunch with a friend or go to the movies with your partner. You'd be amazed how much good it will do you!
@greenjam (26)
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24 Jan 07
Thank you for your response, my little boy is 1 and half years old that is why I was partly wondering does this feeling ever end. I am aware that when he is in school and has his friends that he goes to or goes out with I will regain some sort of freedom haha. Thanks for your answer, it's nice to hear this from another perspective.
