love or family
By clarah_cille
@clarah_cille (654)
Philippines
January 24, 2007 8:56pm CST
i always thought that it's not that hard to choose between love and family until im into the situation.
since high school, i've never been into relationships. not because i'm afraid of my parents but because i wanna concentrate on my studies. i know well myself that if ever i'll fall inlove, i know that things would change. my parents also expected so much from me since i'm the eldest in the family. though i really never gave my 100% in my studies, i also see to it that i have good grades in all my subjects. and of course, i graduated.
then, i gave myself the chance to share my life with someone special. i never thought that i'll fell inlove with this guy. he's my childhood friend but things change when we went to high school. he's been into a lot of trouble and my family knew about it. we met again after many years since we're in high school. he courted me and gave him a chance though i knew what he is. we fell inlove each other and have a fear that things will not be ok because of his background before and that my family will not approved our relationship.
it's been a year already and we still kept our realtionships from my parents. i don't wanna lose him but i don't wanna hurt my family as well. things are complicated and i don't know what to do. things are not that easy then.....
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3 responses
@blindedfox (3315)
• Philippines
25 Jan 07
If you ask me, I'd choose my family over my feelings. This is to show gratitude for what they have done to me all these years. =) Love of others can come and go, but the love that comes from our families can never be lost. =)
@clarah_cille (654)
• Philippines
25 Jan 07
parents will always be there for us no matter what. but we have to face the truth that we have our own lives as well. our family may love us forever but they will never forever stay in our lives. we need someone to spend our lifetime in this world. that is why the one above us gave us the challenge to find our better half in the future. it's for us to find out who is he/she and how we fight for them.
@smallcheezfry (7)
• United States
25 Jan 07
Life is never as easy as it was when you were a kid... less responsibility is a blessing in disguise when your younger.
Your family might disapprove of him, but they should also accept him because you love him. If you were able to be this successful thus far, you apparently have the knowledge and wisdom to make the right decision.
Don't hide him from your family... the truth shall set you free. Secrets are terrible and split relationships apart more than you can imagine.
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@clarah_cille (654)
• Philippines
25 Jan 07
i'm really planning to reveal this to my parents but for the right time. it's not that easy to tell them because of the consequences that i will face. i know they will understand but not right away. my bf also wanted to prove first that he deserves me to my family. it's not that easy to get their trust but we have to be patient and anticipate the consequences if my parents will know about us.
@rsa101 (37969)
• Philippines
7 Jun 08
Well for how long will you keep that secret of your before anything or someone will be able to know. I know sometimes its good to keep secrets but then eventually they will know and it would complicate more things if you hide it from them and they know from other sources other than yourself. Well for now this relationship would not last if one would keep on having it kept away from your parent's know how. I would suggest to let him change for you and your family and slowly show to your parents that he was reformed because of you I am pretty sure they will be happy to know that.
