Of guilt and conscience..

@hopefoo (1145)
Malaysia
January 26, 2007 1:22am CST
I used to have a friend, she proclaimed to be my best bud. We did hung out a loud but I secretly hated her. And I hated her for all the wrong reasons. She's not very hot and lies a lot about how she's getting dates and we'd find out that she's just really sitting at home watching CSI, I sat through listening to her talk about dates that never happened and non existent bf. Even though I knew that she was lying through gritted teeth, I'd still listen anyway and be all warped up in her fantasy world along with her and the more I listened the more I started to hate her but I wanted more. It was like a drug. How weird. Have you ever gone through this kinda situations? Like you know you don't like it and yet you're still doing it and then self implode when your conscience start nagging at you?
5 responses
@lucy02 (5017)
• United States
7 Feb 07
I don't like being lied to either but I think as a friend I would find out why she is feeling the need to. Maybe she is just very insecure. I would talk to her about it and make sure she knows that there is no need to lie. She doesn't have to impress anybody. It doesn't matter whether she's "hot" or not.
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@hopefoo (1145)
• Malaysia
7 Feb 07
I know what you mean. I feel that I've tried to be a better friend; but in the end the bottomline is that I just had enough of her. I think, like you said..she's very insecure. I feel guilty now but hanging out with made me feel homicidal. Know what I mean?
@lucy02 (5017)
• United States
7 Feb 07
Yes, there are some people that you just can't be friends with unfortunately.
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@BittyBiddy (2903)
• Ireland
26 Jan 07
I actually don't think that was very nice of you to listen to her telling stories and lead her along by being "warped in her fantasy world". She's obviously not very confident in herself if she's sitting at home and pretending she's been on dates. And then you go and say "She's not very hot". What sort of a friend are you? Why didn't you just tell her that you knew she hadn't been out and maybe talk to her about it like a good friend would?
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@hopefoo (1145)
• Malaysia
27 Jan 07
I never claimed to be her good friend, mind you. Like I said, warped into her world. Couldn't get out of it; as it was all so amusing to me.
@urbandekay (18312)
26 Jan 07
Wow! hmmm, think that is a woman thing all the best urban
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@hopefoo (1145)
• Malaysia
27 Jan 07
you know what, u're right...I think it's a women's thing too. Why would anyone want female leadership in our system(s) is beyond me.
@maryannemax (12170)
• Sweden
6 Feb 07
i don't like to be with friends who lie a lot. they are not worth of my time and effort. a person who lies should not be considered a friend at all. a friend should be there for you when you need her. if she can't come, atleast tell you her reasons honestly.
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• Philippines
26 Jan 07
Sometimes relationships are not perfect. That does not mean that you don't like your friend as a she is but you just hate her attitude towards her dates illusion. Keeping our friendship is hard. In your situation, I can say that you like her and you are a true friend. Tell your friend about what you hate her. Be open to her. I think thats the way that you can improve your friendship.
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