Loving a heroin addict.

Yes life can suck at times but using heroin isn't going to make it better. Many people lose everything in order to get their next fix, and the results aren't pretty...you should watch Requeim For A Dream...the only upside is that your husband is only using once a week, but I would probably be pushing him to give it up fully, what kind of example is he setting to your kids?

I agree that heroin will do his health no good what so ever. But its much easier for someone who isn't in the situation to say get the police involved. How would you feel if this was something you found out about your partner? would you just pick up the phone and dob them in? I very much doubt it!

getting the police involved will do nothing

I never said anything rude. And before you assume things, I have been with an addict. I also have been a user (though not of heroin). So pick a new defense, because sweetie.. I have been there. But when you bring kids into it, it's a WHOLE different matter. I like the post below mine. Taking money from your kids. Whether you say you have everything you need.. that could be money for a new toy.. maybe that one day they've wanted for awhile. But no.. daddy buys heroin. You know I'm right, which is why in every post on this thread you're defending him.

May i add that i didn't say YOU were rude or didn't have a clue i was mearly stating that people who have never known an addict can be critical, i was talking about the majority of people not you personally.

Thankfully the cost of taking heroin once a week doesn't affect our family at present. Not that i am saying its acceptable to use it! We have been through the hell of all of that over 2 years ago and he knows i will never ever go through it again. May i also add that my children are very very protected from this.

Oh yes i know he loves us, he tells us everyday and he would do anything for us, you might think, no he won't as he takes heroin still but that is an illness he has, It may of been his own fault for doing it in the first place but it becomes part of your life that isn't easy to erase. He hates taking heroin, we have had long late night talks about his addiction and how he hate it but finds himself falling under its spell. He has very few friends and they are users too so it doesn't help. Apart from me he has nobody to talk to. We know what the probem is its just finding a way to solve it. I am now regretting writing about this, some people have been so kind and understand (you know who you are) others have been a bit heartless and said things that have hurt me and made me feel cheap. I am a good wife and mother not a perfect one but a good one. I want my family to be healed of this but it will take time and it will also take lots of courage. Right now i am trying to use a different method. I have said all the things you have all said to my husband i have thought about every damn thing, Thrown the book at him, cursed him thrown him out onto the street with nothing. I have cried screamed broke down in a heap. I have been strong and offered support and encouragement. I am now using this method, i am making out to him that i know but don't want to know i am clearing out he house of unwanted junk i am trawling the papers for houses to rent, i am silently moving our current life into our new life slowly and surely.

I know what you mean about love being blind but in all honesty i am not blind to the problem he has, i love him but i can hate him for his addiction at times. I am realistic about what is happening but people seem to think i am permanently turning a blind eye i am not i am building my own strengh up emotionally to help him to recover in the near future.