The hardest thing I ever had to do

United States
January 28, 2007 9:08pm CST
I remember mom just as she was a caramel covered southern belle. It was so hurtful to watch her suffer and become more and more withdrawn from the current day world as we know it. Mom had developed dementia it was sneaky coming in and even after numerous visits to the doctor she was still not diagnosed until it was too late. By the time we realized it, we were in the emergency room being told she now had the mental capacity of a six year old. She then developed a dicubidi and it became life threatening. After that she was then subjected to an amputation and I know it sounds strange but since she just passed in August of 2006 this was our first holiday season without here or dad. It was the hardest holiday season of our life. She was a wonderful and faithful woman. She kept a clean house and there was always a meal prepared. She was so loving and kind and always smiling even in her last days she made everyone that met her fall in love with her. She even kept extra presents in the closet in case someone came by and didn't receive a gift be it birthday or Christmas or anniversary? Thanks giving before last I was at the Nursing home feeding her and I longed so for that opportunity again this thanksgiving. I was by her side taking turns with my sister and son everyday. I buried her like a princess with Tiara and all ( Jackie Kennedy) eat your heart out. I always admired Jackie Kennedy but that day my mom out shone any royalty on earth. She was lovely in life and even in death and I buried her with my dad. Seeing how her health began to fail when he being a great dad and good husband passed in the year of their 40th anniversary. I love and miss you mom and dad. You are with me everyday and night and it is the upbringing of you that propels me to leave the pity party and press on so that I can continue on in life to bring honor to your memories
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@listen2me (511)
• United States
29 Jan 07
my mom passed in august of last year and i write music, and still cant quite find the words to talk about it like i really want. jus want to say you have a beautiful way with words. great post.
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• United States
29 Jan 07
You make me long for her too. No matter how long it has been since our mommas stop walking the earth, as long as we are attached to it, we seem to be attached to them. My heart breaks for the women and men that didn't have good memories of their mommas and are not able to remember and pass them down and out as you just have. You have just extended your hand in friendship to me, dear sister, and I am so honored to accept. Your Sister in Love ~Donna
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• United States
29 Jan 07
Dear Donna, Thank you so much my life is enriched by the quality of friends I have. My mom loved everyone I loved and that's one of the most wonderful things I admired about her. Thank you so much for being a friend.
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• United States
31 Jan 07
What a beautiful testament to your mom. My mother suffered from Alzheimers for 15 years before she passed. Nothing is harder than losing a loved one mentally, before losing them permanently. Kudos to you and your family for being there for her daily, I know it couldn't have always been easy. And I love the idea of the tiara.
• United States
31 Jan 07
Thank you but it was her that was so amazing as a registered nurse she went beyond the call of duty. When someone had no family she would come home and cook and take food to them and she would bring their clothes home and wash and iron them and take them back and visit them on her breaks and after and before work and when one of us was in the hospital she never left our side there always lotioning and powdering and feeding us and making sure we were comfortable. How could we not be there? She was my queen.
@Stiletto (4584)
31 Jan 07
What a lovely and moving tribute to your mother. I'm sure she would be very proud of you but I'm also sure she would have known how much you loved her anyway. The people we love never really leave us.