Homeschooling or public school???

United States
January 29, 2007 3:17am CST
I would like to know what parents think about homeschooling... I have been doing a lot of research about the subject of homeschooling and I honestly think it might be something I would consider for my children. Now days schools have become so overpopulated that it make me wonder why even bother sending my child when they do not receive the attention from teachers that each child should receive since classrooms are stuffed with more children that teachers could handle. Then there are those schools that are on track(( you go to school two months then have two months off)) But then I also have to think about that my children will miss out on other things that schools offer such as having the opportunity to have friends, school dances etc. which makes it hard for me to decide which type of schooling is better for children in the long run?? Please share your thoughts..
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@joshdale08 (2320)
• Philippines
29 Jan 07
why not do both? i man, enroll them in regular school and do homeschooling afterwards. it would be just like sitting with your kids after school to guide them through their homeworks/ researches/ projects, etc. this way, they still get to interact with kids their age, join school programs, hone their talents and still get the best learning from you.
• United States
30 Jan 07
I think that this can work sometimes. However, homeschool children do have a lot of opportunities to interact with children their own age and spend lots of time doing things that they're interested in. Brenda Marie Homeschool 4 Us (My homeschool blog): http://homeschool4us.blogspot.com/ My ebook: "Homeschooling Without The Headaches" http://stores.lulu.com/store.php?fAcctID=812683
• United States
29 Jan 07
My son goes to a public school (he is in 10th grade). He has always gone to a public school except Pre-school. Personally, we haven't had any issues at all. I love all of his teachers and I've been very surprised at how enjoyable his high school years have been so far. He is also very active in football, wrestling and track - as well as other social clubs within his school. He has gone to dances and sports games. He has made a ton of friends and done things with them after school or on the weekends and holiday breaks. I have nothing against home-schooling at all. For some people, it works. When my son started school I did not know alot about home-schooling and I was in fact very ignorant about it. I thought it would cause my son to be anti-social, not have friends and miss out on all of the things like dances and graduations and sports and friends. I was wrong though because when you home-school you are a part of a network of other people who home-school and those families get together and go on trips together, have sports teams and dances and have a graduation just like public school children do. So who knows, if I knew that before.. I may have done home-schooling with my son. I think there are pros and cons to both situations. I do think home-schooling kids miss out on the daily interraction with their peers but I think kids that go to public schools miss out on more personal one-on-one teaching on a daily basis. The way I make up for that is - I basically home-school my son when he gets home from public school. I sit with him when he's doing his homework and I help him with everything he needs help with. That way he is getting his public school education with the personal help at home from me at night. I think if you are wondering about home-schooling, you should do some research and talk to other families that do it. You might be surprised! I am not, however, impressed with private schools. I've known many children that went to private school and I wasn't happy with it. Good luck!
• United States
29 Jan 07
For the most part, I agree with you. Either way, the parent needs to be an active part of their child's life. Beyond that, it's soley up to what's best for you and your child.
• United States
30 Jan 07
I honestly think that it depends upon the school district that you are in. Brenda Marie Homeschool 4 Us (My homeschool blog): http://homeschool4us.blogspot.com/ My ebook: "Homeschooling Without The Headaches" http://stores.lulu.com/store.php?fAcctID=812683
@Ravenladyj (22904)
• United States
29 Jan 07
I homeschooled my children for 2 yrs when we still lived in Canada and it was the best decision ever....our method was actually UNschooling (there are various methods ppl use..what you choose depends on your children, your schedule and lifestyle etc)....As for socializing/making friends etc....believe it or not that is a HUGE misunderstood thing when it comes to homeschooling....children are NOT deprived, they do NOT miss out on socializing provided you dont lock them in the house of course....there are numerous homeschool groups that do field trips together, have play days etc etc not to mention if your kids already HAVE friends why would they lose them??
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• United States
1 Feb 07
You're so right! Homeschooling children actually have a lot more opportunities to socialize and go places and do things than any institutionalized child will ever have. Brenda Marie Homeschool 4 Us (My homeschool blog): http://homeschool4us.blogspot.com/ My ebook: "Homeschooling Without The Headaches" http://stores.lulu.com/store.php?fAcctID=812683
@ktmpok (611)
• Nepal
29 Jan 07
I just think that public schooling is the best one for the hildren rather then home schooling.Coz they will got chance to know different things of oustide and they will got more friends and they can enjoy their study and it will help in their mental development.
@fregus75 (258)
• Australia
29 Jan 07
i believe public schooling is the better
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@jonboy (1)
29 Jan 07
I understand your desire to teach your children at home, I'm sure that you want the best for your children, and a good education is an essential basis for a successful career; I have no doubt that most parents would be the best teachers for their own children. However, I would have to advise you against it. I've known several children who were taught at home, and whilst in academic terms their education is excellent, their lack of social skills is so severe as to be almost disabling. The lack of time spent with their own peer group means that they have real difficulties in interacting effectively with other children. I think the playground is often a more important training venue than the classroom. It is this time with our peers that shapes our personalities, teaches us about our place in social hierarchy, and teaches us about different cultures, different opinions, and helps us to formulate who we are. I do not think a parent can teach their child these things at home. If however, you feel that a good education is most important, then I would suggest that you ensure that your child has access to their own peer group by lots of social activities in local youth clubs and group All the best, Jon
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• United States
30 Jan 07
Obviously their parents didn't choose to take them out to do things. My dd is homeschooled and everyone is quite impressed with how smart she is and how great her social skills are. Brenda Marie Homeschool 4 Us (My homeschool blog): http://homeschool4us.blogspot.com/ My ebook: "Homeschooling Without The Headaches" http://stores.lulu.com/store.php?fAcctID=812683
@baileym11 (887)
• United States
29 Jan 07
I definitely want my child to attend public schools and be exposed to all kinds of people. I can certainly see the point to homeschooling, but to do homeschooling well seems like more than a full time job to me. Of course, I am a public school teacher doing the best she can, and I believe in the value of a public education. Right now I have more than 30 high schoolers in some of my classes.
• United States
2 Feb 07
Homeschooling is a way of life. It isn't about a "job." I don't understand how you can teach more than 30 kids in 1 class and make sure that everyone is successful. Brenda Marie Homeschool 4 Us (My homeschool blog): http://homeschool4us.blogspot.com/ My ebook: "Homeschooling Without The Headaches" http://stores.lulu.com/store.php?fAcctID=812683
@crystal8577 (1466)
• United States
29 Jan 07
Well we go to a school that is sort of on Track like you say. We have the months of July, Nov. & March off. It took some getting used to, but it is o-kay now. Our school is VERY over crowded. I also don't feel the high schools around us are safe (my oldest is only going into 3rd though). I said if we do not move I will homeschool the girls for high school. Here there are a lot of things offered threw the park district ie. sports, drama & such. The girls would miss out on dances, proms & clubs though. I don't think there is a cookie cutter answer of what school will be best. You have to do what is best for your family.
• United States
2 Feb 07
I agree that homeschooling isn't necessarily best for every family. I don't like how unsafe and overcrowded the schools are though. It just doesn't make sense how all children can receive an equal education when there's so many children and only one teacher. Brenda Marie Homeschool 4 Us (My homeschool blog): http://homeschool4us.blogspot.com/ My ebook: "Homeschooling Without The Headaches" http://stores.lulu.com/store.php?fAcctID=812683
@kareng (54958)
• United States
29 Jan 07
My kids are all out of school now, but with the way things are going now and if I had it to all do over gain...I'd choose homeschooling. Too many accidents happening at schools. I was beginning to see a big change in teacher's attitudes in their last years too. They pretty much don't care anymore about teaching and kids. It's just a paycheck to them now. Teachers used to take pride in their work and want to help kids. Now they expect you to pay them for after hour tutoring.
• United States
2 Feb 07
I don't know what caused this change but it's definitely there. I was lucky to have made it through school before these changes occurred. I don't want my dd to have to deal with them though. Brenda Marie Homeschool 4 Us (My homeschool blog): http://homeschool4us.blogspot.com/ My ebook: "Homeschooling Without The Headaches" http://stores.lulu.com/store.php?fAcctID=812683
@judyt00 (3497)
• Canada
29 Jan 07
I think that as long as you are going to follow the curriculum, and not go off on a religious tangent about things like evolution and anatomy and that you have more than 2 kids, homeschooling would be the way to go. If both my daughters didn't have to work to keep the bills paid, my grandkids would be homeschooled. If i'd had the choice, I would have homeschooled my kids until high school at least, and they'd have learned more. Usually, school districts have programs for homeschoolers where they have field trips for the students so they at least get to know other kids their age.
• United States
29 Jan 07
thanks for your response- I would like to teach my children a school curriculum nothing religous...I just feel schools are becoming too overpopulated and children are not really given an opportunity to learn as much as they should....
• United States
30 Jan 07
I don't think that you need to have a certain number of children in order to homeschool. As for religion, children are going to learn those things regardless as to whether or not they go to school. Brenda Marie Homeschool 4 Us (My homeschool blog): http://homeschool4us.blogspot.com/ My ebook: "Homeschooling Without The Headaches" http://stores.lulu.com/store.php?fAcctID=812683
• United States
29 Jan 07
i prefer public school because i feel my children need to have social interaction and i don't feel they can have enough of that if homeschooled
@morenita (331)
• United States
29 Jan 07
Homeschooling like school allows for the time to learn and socialize. If you homeschool your children you are responsible for allowing them the opportunity to socialize. If a parent does decide to homeschool they take into account all the needs of their children. If this is done then socialization does not become the issue. I find that most parents who do have their children in school do not know who their children socialize with and I think that is more neglectful. In every situation the parent must be somewhat mindful.
• United States
29 Jan 07
Your kid should definitely go to a public school so he or she could make friends and find a mate and stuff
• United States
2 Feb 07
There are plenty of opportunities to make friends outside of school. Plus, it's been proven that most marriages where the couple were highschool sweethearts fail. Brenda Marie Homeschool 4 Us (My homeschool blog): http://homeschool4us.blogspot.com/ My ebook: "Homeschooling Without The Headaches" http://stores.lulu.com/store.php?fAcctID=812683
@cowboys33 (421)
• Australia
29 Jan 07
i dont think home schooling works, to easy. but public school is also no good, go for a cathloic school
@Kdking (171)
• Jamaica
29 Jan 07
I dont see a child learning more from home schooling than public schooling. Somebody please tell me what can a child learn at home that he wont learn at public school and dont tell me of affection or individual attention because you dont learn those you are shown those.
• United States
29 Jan 07
Kd - some families are not happy with the way public schools teach. Some of the schools are very over-crowded and the teachers do not have time for personal help. Also, alot of schools will "dumb down" .. meaning, they will only teach the class at the level of the lowest student. So if your child is doing really well and passes up all the other kids in his learning, he will still be held back in class because other kids aren't as smart. They say it's too hard for the teachers to teach at different levels for all kids so to be fair to the slowest kid, they stay at that level. There is also the issue of violence in schools more these days. Some parents just do not feel safe sending their kids off to school where they can't be protected. So basically, there are ALOT of reasons parents homeschool. The main one would be that the parents can teach their children as fast or as slow as they want. They can also specialize teaching in an area that the child is interested. If their child is in 2nd grade and smart enough to do 4th grade math - then the parents can teach them that without the child being held back just because of it's age. I hope that helped you understand. :)
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• United States
29 Jan 07
I got a much better education being homeschooled than most of my public schooled friends. All of my homeschooled peers did. In fact, most homeschoolers test out much higher than public schoolers (in AR especially). I know that while I was growing up, the schools around me offered basic subjects and few of the kids actually succeeded outside of highschool. Home educations have limitless possibilites. As far as socialization, most homeschoolers get together frequently in large and small groups to study, etc. Our group had a successful speech and debate team, basketball, yearbook, and multiple educational classes. The kids I know were able to "socialize" in any age group. Granted, you have to apply your education in either situation, and every family needs to decide what works for them. It's been my experience, though, that a proper home education will generally exceed a home education.
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@w3bdiv3r (35)
• Indonesia
30 Jan 07
I think homeschooling better than public school, because the homeschooling can make our children to learn a lot of their study. So they can get knowledge more than public school students, because teachers in the public school have limited to teach their students one by one.
• United States
1 Feb 07
You're right that homeschool children do learn more because they have more time to learn things and can do so at their own speed in a one-on-one environment. Public school teachers simply have too many children in their classroom that they have to teach all at the same time. This means that some children will ultimately not learn the material because they get left behind. Brenda Marie Homeschool 4 Us (My homeschool blog): http://homeschool4us.blogspot.com/ My ebook: "Homeschooling Without The Headaches" http://stores.lulu.com/store.php?fAcctID=812683
@tmnjyk (3486)
• Canada
1 Feb 07
I'd choose public school. I like go out and meet friends and socialize. I also like the idea of a traditional classroom where there is a teacher teaching you first hand. I don't consider homeschooling for myself because I love to socialize people.
@bobmnu (8157)
• United States
30 Jan 07
My children have all been educated in Public Schools and we are pleased with the results. We live in a small rural community and the school is the center of the communiity. It was a small school with a High School(grades 9 - 12)population of between 350 and 375 students. One advantage is that most of the teachers know most of the students and as parents we got to know the teachers. I am a firm beleiver in Public Schools, but I think that some are too big and those are the ones that seem to have the most problems. All four of my children had the opportunity to attend college and two have their BA degree and good jobs, the fourth endtered college and is working in a field where he does not need a College Degree but is working on one for promotion and the fourth is studing engeernering. They all have a solid HS education.
@serene2 (278)
• New Zealand
30 Jan 07
We wouldn't want our child home schooled. He'd drive me around the bane and himself along with it. We want him to have friends and mix with people. It has its disadvantages but it also has its advantages as well. But if we can give our son the life skills he needs to make the right choices, he'll be fine. I'm not saying he'll be perfect, but hopefully he will make the right choices. It all part of living and preparing him for this big bad world. Sheltering doesn't help, but it hurts more then anything else. Its public schooling for our son, definitely.
@Kdking (171)
• Jamaica
29 Jan 07
Home schooling could not be better than sending your child out to public school. When you go out to public school you interact with alot of different children and the child is better able to socialize. I think also that the child would learn more because more hours are spent on continuous learning. When a child stays home he/she misses out on alot alot of things including enjoying himself with other children his age.
• United States
29 Jan 07
I responded to you up above.. sorry didn't see that you posted here too. :)
• United States
29 Jan 07
I understand parents feelinf the need to teach at home...to work more om an individual basis and to know where the kids are. I just think the kids need to learn to interact with other kids I think kids need the opportunity for some sort of extracuricular activity like a sport or music. If you keep the kids tucked away the kids are npt going to be able to cope with the real world whem they get older.
• United States
2 Feb 07
Just because a parent chooses to homeschool their child doesn't mean that they're going to seclude the child from the rest of the world. Homeschool children have many events that they can participate in with other children. Sports can be played on community teams and music lessons do not have to happen via the school as private teachers are available. Brenda Marie Homeschool 4 Us (My homeschool blog): http://homeschool4us.blogspot.com/ My ebook: "Homeschooling Without The Headaches" http://stores.lulu.com/store.php?fAcctID=812683
• United States
29 Jan 07
I Just Graduated from school not to long ago 2005. Honestly from my stand point of view I would say home school is better. I feel if there was enough teachers for every so many children I would have got the learning abilities that I felt I needed. Public Schools are very Crowed and I think thats not somthing every child should have to face. There is also alot of violence and if somthing happens to your child the school will never be able to change that. I feel Homeschooling is much more advanced for children because they get that one on one learning and as long as they have great communication and people skills this is the number one way to teach your children!! GOOD LUCK!!
• United States
1 Feb 07
It's nice to hear from you. I agree that not all children could deal with public schooling. My dd is prime example of that. She's very smart but would be labeled ADHD or something else in public school, I'm sure. This would then impede her learning just because she's been labeled. Brenda Marie Homeschool 4 Us (My homeschool blog): http://homeschool4us.blogspot.com/ My ebook: "Homeschooling Without The Headaches" http://stores.lulu.com/store.php?fAcctID=812683