are you picky about your friends in the real world?

i have number of friend in general life but i am picky about friend.i can't stand with one who's thought/act are not of my kind.i must feel comfort with them.I don't make friends just for name sake.friend mean lot to me.

Oh I agree. It's not quantity,it's quality. Now I would be friends with someone who was poor and a good friend verses sdomeone who was rich and a bad friend. I almost always never become friends with someone who has bad children...Been there done that.

One must never be picky in having friends everybody are welcome to be our friends,It is only the levels of friendship we have to be aware, and classify them as dependable or not in an emergency and to what level we can depend on them

I suppose i unconsciously pick my friends based on certain standards and perhaps rather high standards . My brother says i should give everyone a chance but i really don't see any point in being friends with someone who doesn't interest me in any way and does not contribute in some way to my life. I've tried being friend with just random people but they mostly end up sleeping in your house, eating your food and taking your money. Sounds like a boyfriend with no fringe benefits.Not worth it.

I am with you. What is the sense in spending time with someone whom you do not really get along with, or agree with or see eye to eye with. I do not have too many friends, because I am opinionated, have high standards, and low thresh hold for stupidness. It certainly eliminates alot of people. I think men have many friends, but thier friendship is based more upon work, sports, and superficial stuff. I have never heard my husband talk to any of his "friends" about anything personal or "important."

I'm not picky. (as such) Normally i only offer friends if i know it'll be valued, i don't need "fake" people in my life and i prefer to enjoy friends who like to share life. Not a great deal (in real life) but those friends i have are special to me and i care alot about 'em. ~joey

i agree with u too many friends doesnt work, i too hv very few friends.....means close .....formal i hv a lot, bt with whom u can share ur fellings are only couple of and its fine with me.

Well, I'm picky about my friends. I don't want to be friends with people that I can't trust. I'd rather have a few select friends like that than a bunch of people that I don't know well, but hang around with all the time. It's just the way I am.

True friends are the best and I have to agree with you .I only want to have people that I can trust to be around and that I don't mind my kids being around. I don't have but a few true friends and that is they way I like it ... I feel that I am judged by my friends , so if I had a friend who stole then others would see me as the same ...so I am very selective of my friends ...

Definitely, im picky when it comes to choosing my friends.What matters most is the quality of friends than the quantity. I do have a lot of friends which i met in the past but only few of them are really my close friends. Among them i only have 10 who are really close to me and weve been together ever since kindergarten. Now that we are all 25 years old, i can say that they are really part of my life. I do trust them very much and im happy that i met them.I dont have any regrets having them and im still looking forward to spending time with them in the coming years even if we grow old.

I don't have a large number of friends. I have a small group that I can have good conversations with and who I could trust to help me in need. I find that important, or perhaps it's more the few really good friends I have I do trust to share my lot in life. Having lots of friends is okay too but I observe that friendships become shallow if you spread yourself too thin. And conversations get boring and uninteresting if you only know someone on a superficial level. I don't like superficiality much. I guess I've been a bit too serious at times but when it comes to what's important to me I get particular. I guess there are friends and there are acquaintances.

I'm not really picky when it comes to having friends but I just choose the ones who I want to be close with. It's good to have friends everywhere but not all of them really know the real me. My friends are categorize into three: acquaintances (these are people whom I smile to and say hi whenever we meet), real friends (these are people whom I've been with for the past years and they have been a part of my life) and close friends (these are the people who really know me and who have accepted me inspite of everything; people who have been with me thru thick and thin.);););) Honestly, it feels good to have friends anywhere.

Being picky is okay. I've always been picky with my friends but i found that i should also be friends with people that sort of don't meet the standard... we just have to be a little bit more picky nowadays... it's survival of the fittest out there

Honeslty I aggree with you 100%. I think its fair to be picky about your friends. After having my daughter I became pickier about my friends too and I think it has to do with respect and trust. If you had a friend that you didn't trust or think would respect your child(ren) then why have them in your life at all. As a mom you want your children to be safe and I can respect that about you. Good post and you've got my vote on this one :)

I'm not a really demanding friend. I don't care what people look like or their gender. As long as they are friendly and have a little something in common with me I will be friends with them.

I am very picky about my friends because i believe friends have a lot of impact on you. They can influence to be bad or good. I have seen many people getting spoilt because of friends and also getting better than previous again because of friends. So i would say if you can make more good friends all long and less bad friends then you can get the taste of success with a bit of bitterness. Because all good is also not good you should know how the bad looks to know the importance of good.

I really think it depends on your personality. My hubby and I are very similar in that, we would rather have a few close friends, whom we love and adore than to have a ton of friends that we don't really care for. But I do know of people who would rather have a ton of friends.. than to be really close to a couple of them. I know that especially after we had kids, our priorities changed as far as who we wanted in our lives.

I think you are right and it is always better to pick your friends circle than to regret later. It has happened to me and i have told this to my girl so many times but she does not understand. She just wants to make friendship with everybody and she does not understand when i say just have the best friends in your circle instead of having everyone around.

I became a lot pickier as I got older. I think in life people don't have that many "true" friends that would stick around no matter what happened in your life. I decide to make those people my friends now. I still have some friends that I probably wouldn't have picked now but they are probably here for the long haul. I agree with you. Why have friends that are fair weather friends. I would just rather have a handful that I know I can count on. This is hard to come by a lot of the time.

yes u should be very picky because if they are not your true friends they will try to make use of you. also when you have kids and all, you cant just rely on anyone, who know what harm they may do to your kids. Also introduce all your friends to your husband, and if they are very very frank and free with your husband also then they CAN BE your good friends. I have very less friends, but i ahve 2-3 great friends and i think quality is more important than quantity so i think its ok to have less but its important to have true friends! WHat you say about this ? huh ?