The Internet -- Playground for cheaters??
By momokoseiya
@momokoseiya (453)
United States
January 31, 2007 3:30pm CST
I have heard that the internet is becoming the new tool for cheaters to carry on hidden relationships. One of my friends recently heard that her boyfriend had a profile on a dating site. She went to the website, did a search, and lo and behold there he was.
I have to admit, my ex used to contact women on myspace looking to carry on an affair. I remember one day I got an e-mail forwarded to me from a girl saying that he had contacted her. I confronted him about it, and at first he denied it. I told him to open up his myspace email and show me his inbox, and he then confessed to it.
People say that it's the internet's fault. They say that the internet has made cheating easier. I personally blame the people. I think it's the person's choice whether or not they cheat. And if they want to cheat that badly, they'll find someone anyone, on or offline.
What are your thoughts?
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109 responses
@tokyotiger4242 (82)
• United States
1 Feb 07
They do, it's called affair something. They did a whole big thing on the radio about it a few months ago. It made me sick to hear about it.
@skyblade (482)
• United States
31 Jan 07
Yeah, people want to blame anyone or anything but themselves. I agree that its the cheater that is to blame, not the tools he/she uses. I think its become common for people in committed relationships to frequent dating sites. Thats just really sad, not only for the person they are cheating on, but the people on the dating sites who are trying to find a genuine person.
@kerbausama (1335)
• Malaysia
1 Feb 07
yeah..i agree with that..
people are the same even here or outside..
cheater are cheater...
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@kring2x (15)
• Philippines
1 Feb 07
yes there are lots of cheaters in the internet. i also have that kind of experience.. and ive been cheated not just only one time but many times....thats why i hardly believe people on net...just a piece of advice, dont believe people easily.
@faylinn_chaeli (1619)
• Philippines
1 Feb 07
Yes, I agree with you. Internet should not be blamed for that. It is the person's fault and it is his decision. Even if I am always online, I don't go to dating sites or whatever just to cheat and to look for a new affair. It is unfair for the partner.
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@kingsix (46)
• Qatar
1 Feb 07
For as long as they do not destroy other lives totally let them.That is their business and not ours. Internet will actually peel you mask. It will tell you who you are and what are after for. It is a tool for new discovery and benefits both good and evil.
I do not give time to judge how they use it but let us just be careful and just enjoy the funny side of it.
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@elisa812 (3026)
• United States
31 Jan 07
Unfortunately, the internet has made it much easier for people to carry on affairs. It's really sad. I do agree with you though, I don't think it's the internet's fault. People have to be responsible for their own actions, and adults can definitely make the decision whether or not to cheat on their own.
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@pramodthakur (2365)
• India
1 Feb 07
You are absolutely right. It is we, who have to decide about cheating to our near or dear. It will not be fair to blem to internet. Everything has two aspects, good or bad. We have to decide about it, how to use internet. Few people in the society are exceptional.
@pendragon (3350)
• United States
1 Feb 07
Your subject title says it all, that's exactly what it is.
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@xiongqh (791)
• Hong Kong
1 Feb 07
You got the truth, but I think it is normal on net.
The internet is not a real world, so people come here to show another side that cannot do in normal life.
Maybe you cannot call them as cheater, it just a game and all people attend in it, some people take it as true life, some people take it as a game, but pls split it to two side, don't bring the internet to life, it is risk here.
@pramodthakur (2365)
• India
1 Feb 07
Very fine. It is risky. There are people who have completely believed on internet relationship and at last they found nothing only remorse. It is really our mistake that we think the internet is right rorum to discuss about all the things. It is not so.
@tibbler (229)
• United States
1 Feb 07
I totally agree with what your saying. Because I meet this guy who has been lying to me about myspace & sites like that. So I my own search & came to find out that he has two myspace pages. to this day I try & not make it a big deal because I want to be with him. so Am I doing the right thing by just letting this go on.
@rx4life (1930)
• United States
1 Feb 07
Why would you want to spend your life/time with someone that disrespects you by lying to you?...You deserve better than that...the longer you let him lie to you and accept it the less self respect you will have and the less you will get from any relationship...we have to love ourselves before we can truly love or emotionally support someone else...letting someone lie to you is equivalent to you telling yourself you aren't good enough to have a guy that is honest with you...if he lies about myspace...what do you think he would do in a real relationship? No man or woman is worth giving up your self respect for ...because for every jerk out there..there is a good person just waiting to share and honest and loving relationship with someone that shares their values...Would you stay with him if he hit you? Hopefully not...but lying is the same kind of action....Let him go..and let yourself soar....you are soooo much better than that...
@frostygrrl (112)
• Australia
1 Feb 07
I totally agree! Internet makes it easy to meet a lot of people but cheating is cheating. If a person has the capacity to cheat then it doesnt matter if its online or otherwise. That person will always be out looking for something better and will have no remorse when it comes to picking up someone new when they are with you.
@maryannemax (12156)
• Sweden
1 Feb 07
true. if one is a great cheater, he/she can cheat in any place possible, whether over the net or in real life. i had boyfriends before who are in the same place as mine. and yet, they still get to cheat and meet other women in real life. people who are habitual liars and habitual cheaters can't be stop. it's already in their lives.
@Fallen_Gurl (480)
• Canada
31 Jan 07
the internet has made it eaiser for sumone to cyber cheat, unless they meet in person adn cheat that way, but i think its their own fault for gettin involded with ohter ppl when theres sumone there your with, i dont agree with cheating atall, no matter wat.
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@raj_neo07 (151)
• India
1 Feb 07
well, it definetly is not the internet's fault. what yu say is true. not just in relationships, but in a lot of things. but it obviously happens in time. ue. an invention'll come in , for some good purpose, and as time goes, it'll be mishandled. it all depends on who, why and how. definetly not on the net.
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@cash365days (420)
• United States
1 Feb 07
It is really sad when we see how many people are getting cheated over the internet. In many ways. Not only these relationships. They get cheated by money, frauds, spams ...geeeek.. i dont want to think about all these...
It is the best tool if we really want to enhance our knowledge and know more about people and society. Sad part is that it is used for other purposes than it is intended to.
@vekyengineer (1079)
• India
1 Feb 07
Anyone must accept the truth most of them are cheaters in chating messages with some one. They doesnt give the true details to the chatter. The internet is really meant only for cheaters. And also we should not say that all are cheaters. There are also some true friends in the internet to show their loyalty.
@cwgrlsarefun (1581)
• United States
1 Feb 07
The people that say this are just making an excuse for something that they do and I do not agree with it. If someone is going to cheat they are going to do it even if there is no internet. Like you said they'll find a way and it does not have to be the internet. I also feel that if they are willing to do this online then you know that you can not trust them offline either.
@hedonistic (149)
• India
2 Feb 07
As far as I am concerned I suppose that anyone who is morally corrupt will do all such activities and one who is not won't. It is simple to understand this : Not everyone on the net cheats his/her wife/husband. Very few do that despite the fact that same facilities are provided to all. What does this mean ?? This means that you can't blame the facilities.It is one himself who is responsible for cheating.
@rodnic12 (129)
• United States
1 Feb 07
Your right. ust becuase the internet allows things to be done more easier, does not give anybody the right to sign on. Thats a choice by that individual. But I can tell you it is hard because I almost gave in a few times myself. But hey I say it's not really worth losing someone I love just to flirt with someone online. They might be ugly and half the time it might not be them that have the picture posted. LOL
@Toonafeesh (29)
• United States
1 Feb 07
As much as I hate to say it, I agree it has becoming more and mroe that way. My sisters husband cheated on her this way.
