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@dawn5679 (266)
United States
February 1, 2007 8:25am CST
I had a best friend. I did everything for her! I took her and her kids into my home when they didn't have anywhere to go. I was there for her when her baby died. Now she says she can't be my friend cause her a** of a boyfriend says so! What's up with that? Has this ever happened to you before? What did you do? How did you handle it?
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@ashjoe76 (1434)
• India
8 Feb 07
Yes, I understand your situation. This just shows that your best friend never deserved you. Don't worry about it, as you are not losing a good friend. She had never been a good friend to you, only you were being a good friend to her. Don't regret about what you did to her, as it just makes you a better person. Forget her, if she thinks her boyfriend is important than you.
@dawn5679 (266)
• United States
9 Feb 07
yea! your right! thanks!
@redrain (29)
• Indonesia
1 Feb 07
she chose boyfriend than bestfriend, that's not good at all. (after i read this post, i really would like to hit her head for you =p just for make her realize how important you are in her life) but, you know, if you really care for her, please be patient, stay at her friends and do what you can for her like always. the most important is make sure you always think positive about her. there's no need to make a rush, time will tell everthing to her. even if she can't be your bestfriend, God will make you bestfriend because of your kindness to her
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@dawn5679 (266)
• United States
2 Feb 07
Sometimes I wish I could smack so sense into her too!
@rockbaby (808)
• Lebanon
1 Feb 07
ya, as a matter of fact, tonight, i HAD a friend i was always there in every way, in everything, and just tonight .. decided that i made the problem that person had... so i say thanks for realizing i wasnt worth their friendship.!!
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@dawn5679 (266)
• United States
2 Feb 07
I miss my friend!! I'm not so sure that I would be willing to be friends with her again though knowing how easy it was for her to push me aside for some loser!
• Canada
1 Feb 07
oh my, I hate it when people do that! I had a friend that was a young mother. I helped her for 4 years. Took care of her kid while she went to night school. Once she got her feet on the ground she met an older man and that was it ... I would call ... she would hang up! no reasoning, no explaination. If she's gonna give up your friendship for some guy, your better off without her. Just remember when it all goes down hill for her and she calls you cause she "needs" you, tell her your too busy!!
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@dawn5679 (266)
• United States
2 Feb 07
I'm not sure if I would do that but right now I'm SOOO mad that I would probably tell her i was too busy for her.
@Thoroughrob (11750)
• United States
19 Feb 07
I would just back off, bu I would also tell her, that when she comes to her senses, to give you a call. She will not put up with thatfor long. I would let her know how much you value your friendship and how it hurts you. Don't let it go unsaid. Maybe she will open her eyes. If you can't tell her everything to her face, since she can't be around, write it down. Send it somewhere that you know she will get it, not where he can intervene. It is sad that she feels that he can tell her who her friends can be. It sounds dominating to me. Be there for her, because as time goes, she will need someone. That sounds like abuse to me.
@dawn5679 (266)
• United States
20 Feb 07
It is abuse she just doesn't see it as that! I hope for her and her kids sake she does soon though!
• United States
2 Feb 07
one more thing lol if she is lettin that man control her he is goin take more advantage
@dawn5679 (266)
• United States
2 Feb 07
He already is taking more advantage. He is still messing around with his babys mom..
• United States
2 Feb 07
drop her like a bad habbit cuz she aint worth it its sad why he controllin her friend life forget him is is being a butt head lol i didnt wanna curse thats why i said it
@dawn5679 (266)
• United States
2 Feb 07
I'm not really sure what I'm going to do but thats for responding!
• United States
2 Feb 07
Wow, she doesnt need to let this man dictate her life,and she needs to appreciate the friend you are. I would give her space to let her get her life in order, cause it sounds like her life is turmoil. Maybe send an email or letter and tell her you love her and that when she is ready to talk, you'll be there. And take the higher road and keep on being the great friend you are! If she was a true friend, she will find her way back!
@dawn5679 (266)
• United States
2 Feb 07
I can only hope!
@rsa101 (17846)
• Quezon City, Philippines
22 Feb 07
I would have to say leave her and don't ever see her again. Such an ungrateful friend she is. I wish that she has made the right decision following her BF. Go and find another friend of yours she don't deserve you to be your friend at all.
@apsara60 (6612)
• Israel
9 Feb 07
she is making a big mistake, a friend in need is friend indeed, if she will loose you, she will remain lonely in life, because, life is still going on, there may come many more circumstance, where she will need support of a good friend, and if you are not there for her, she will realise her mistake. You should have patience, even if she will leave you, I am sure, she will come back to you . You do your duty and leave the rest. I am sure you will have positive results soon.
• United States
8 Feb 07
I was friends with a girl since we were 6 years old. We were closer then sisters. We got our first jobs together first apartment together I was there when all three of her kids were born. Then she decided she wasn't into guys anymore and she got a girlfriend. I never ever judged her for her choice but her new girlfriend didn't like me and told me to stay away from my friend. I ask my friend if that is really what she wanted and she said yes. It hurt me to think that after everything her and I had been through together she would just walk away from me. But it's her life and one day she is going to relize what she gave up.
• India
8 Feb 07
well such a situation has never been with me but i must say that do not expect much from anybody. do something for somebody if u do it without any expectations. do it selflessly or else forget it and move ahead
• United States
7 Feb 07
A lot of people forget their friends when they start dating someone. It's not nice though that her boyfriend doesn't want you to be friends with her. I think you should talk to her to find out why so you can settle this. Let her know how you feel about this.