broken family

Yes, a seperation or a divorce is very hard on the kids. But it's much harder for them to be in a home surrounded by tension or fighting. You're right, couples should give things more time before getting married, many couples don't. But then, there are many that do, and for one reason or another, it still doesn't work. Often people change after marriage, often other circumstances get in the way. The end result is that when it comes down to choices, you're left with two. 1. Stay in the relationship, allowing the children to be involved in the tension, arguments, etc. Studies prove this is damaging and detrimental to the kids in every aspect, emotionally, psychologically, mentally. Later in life, the kids will often end up in similar relationships. 2. Disolve the relationship. Again, studies prove that children with happily divorced parents fare much better than children being raised in a family that should have disolved.

I am not married but i am a single mom who was in a live in relationship for 6 years and i tell you,when you are in a relationship where all you do is argue and there are so much tensions in your relationship..it is much better to separate then let children see and hear how their parents quarrel almost everyday..this can be very traumatic for children..its not wrong to be separated as long as you let your children know the real reason behind it..A lot of children from broken families do grow up normal and succeed in a lot of things then children who were brought up in a family of conflicts around them.