mother or wife

Well, a man leave his mothers house to start a new life and a new family with someone else, his wife. He should support his wife as they are a team. Even if he doesn't always agree with his wife's views he needs to support his wife. He can't run every time mom calls and he needs to discuss things with his wife. Mothers have a way of playing things up and at times the son can run to his mothers rescue as he may have done in the past. He needs to uphold his relationship with his wife and if he needs to put his mother in her place, respectfully then he needs to. Sometimes mothers can be a little bit immature due to feelings of loss or even jealousy.

It depends what you mean. They should still support their mother as well as their wife if they can. He shouldn't "take sides" if there are quarrels. If there is something he has to take sides on then it should be the one who is right but if it is just a matter of opinion then he should put his wife first. I am lucky that I don't have this problem because I get on well with my partner's mum and we tend to agree against my partner!