Middle of the night calling

do not call - calling is no longer welcome or allowed!
United States
February 9, 2007 4:08pm CST
What would you do if someone was calling your spouse in the middle of the night? My husband's cousin's girlfriend keeps calling my husband in the middle of the night! I've asked her to stop, he's asked her to stop and even her boyfriend has asked her to stop! This isn't an infidelity situation, she just gets drunk and when her boyfriend won't answer the phone she calls my husband to see if he's with him. The problem is that my husband and i are sleeping! i'm 6 months pregnant and it takes me hours to get back to sleep after I'm woken up. What would you do?
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@mommyaiai (295)
• United States
10 Feb 07
I have also a problem like that,there are somebody who call in the middle of the night and it is a wrong number,i already told him that it's a wrong number but he still keep calling.Thats really bad coz i just had a baby and i don't have enough sleep but by the time that i already fall asleep the phone will just ring,that really starled me and i cannot go back to sleep right away until my baby woke up so yeah that really pissed me off.What i do now i put my ringtone into a vibrate only so that i will not disturb as well as my baby.So maybe you can do the same too.
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@ygkchaitu (388)
• India
10 Feb 07
I dont have a spouse yet but i guess i would get irritated because as such when anyone calls i would get irritated and hence i would usually keep my phones in silent mode except for few numbers...
@chiyosan (29383)
• Philippines
10 Feb 07
well i think that she has gone too far and that she should stop bugging you and your husband. best thing to do. shut the phone and do not answer her. hang up on her. that should teach her a lesson.
@KHyuga (1700)
• Singapore
10 Feb 07
Then again, she is doing this probably out of her love for her boyfriend. So maybe the boyfriend is at fault too for staying out late.
@anonymili (3138)
10 Feb 07
If the cousin has't been able to get her to stop, maybe you could have a polite word with her when she's sober and tell her very nicely that it's not good for your pregnancy to be woken regularly like this, so could she please delete your husband's phone number from her phone (that way she won't have the number there when she gets drunk and starts making random phone calls). Failing that get your husband to put his phone on silent so you don't hear it ringing. If you feel uncomfortable with this - i.e. worried about missing a really urgent call from, say, family members if there's an emergency, just silence the phone that SHE calls on and give family members an alternative number to call on in emergencies. She'll then hopefully soon get the message. Good luck with the problem and good luck with the rest of your pregnancy :)
@cicerone (95)
• India
10 Feb 07
I feel it's rude on your part to ask her to stop.Try to find the relationship between them and then you can proceed asking them to keep shut if at all she behaves vulgarly.
• United States
10 Feb 07
That's weird. What about blocking her phone number? Or even changing the number? Just tell the cousin he is not allowed to give the number to her. I'd talk to both of the about it when she is sober.
• United States
10 Feb 07
put your phone on answering machine and turn the answering machine down low. let everyone else know you got a pest problem. after a while, she will pest off.
• India
10 Feb 07
Really a big problem man... it must be bothering you a lot... though i can suggest you only one simple solution but then you might as well miss any important call that might happen to be.. the only two solutions that i can possibly think of right now are either you switch the phone off and disconnect the lines till morning and or just keep the phones in silent mode so that atleast you may be able to know if anybody called you up at night or not...
@chutia (8)
• India
10 Feb 07
this is a good idea,i think so coz i do so - before sleeping keep the reciver on hold so she cant call
@nicky35 (749)
10 Feb 07
just unplug your phone.i know it means no one else can phone but what are the chances anyone would.she is just downright rude and wierd aswell.she must fancy him.shes really ignorant especially with you being pregnant,it needs to stop before the baby arrives.either tell her to shove it or unplug the phone.good luck
@cabergren (1182)
• United States
10 Feb 07
Can you put a block on your phone that won't allow her to call you. I know that can be done with my phone. Does she always call from the same phone. Check into it.
• United States
10 Feb 07
I think you need to get your cousin to lay down the law with his girlfriend. When she is not drunk. He really needs to step up and take care of this as I am sure he is the one who gave your phone number to her. Perhaps he should even leave her, if she is getting drunk this much and wont show anyone respect than she may not be the quality person he more than likely deserves. All in all I think this is really his problem and he needs to fix it asap.
@spindia (131)
• India
10 Feb 07
your cousin is suffering from claustrophobia. Do not get irritate with her. Talk to her and tell her that your asleep as being pregnant , your needs are changing. and that she can call yu in day. if she still goes, try to put the Receiver away for a few days
• Philippines
10 Feb 07
my advice is to ignore her calls. maybe the reason why she still keeps calling, even if the three of you already told her to stop, is because you always answer the phone when she calls. it would also be advisable if your husband puts his phone into silent mode before you go to sleep at night. i mean, you're pregnant and you need peaceful, uninterrupted sleep.
@Marie2473 (8521)
• Sweden
10 Feb 07
Maybe try to turn the phone off when u know that she is out partying.. If u have told her to stop and she still doesn´t she probably wqill if she knows that u will not answer, that u have turned the phone of. Maybe also talk to the cousin and ask him to answer his phone when she calls, that way she will not bother you!
@ster1234 (81)
• United States
10 Feb 07
I would definitely block her number. She obviously has no intention of stopping her calls and you should not have to put up with it. Just call your phone company and have her number blocked so that she can't call you. Good luck with everything!
@dopey22girl (3326)
• United States
10 Feb 07
Hmm that would get annoying...especially since you are pregnant! I would turn the ringers off on the phones at night...that way no matter how many times she calls you wouldn't hear it. You could also tell her that if she does not stop calling your husband at late hours then you will contact the police. That usually scares a lot of people. Lol...I hope my advice helps!
10 Feb 07
dont answer the phone. i have a friend who is like that too. her boyfriend probably has learned his lesson so he turns his phone off at night. thing with putting your hubby's phone on silent is, there might be some sort of emergency and he wont be able to answer his mobile coz it is on silent coz of one annoying person. what is your hubby's phone model? maybe he can assign a specific ring tone to his cousin's girlfriend so that he would know not to answer it? that's what i do with annoying people on my phonebook, i give them the most quiet ring tones that way, even if they call, i wont be able to hear them.
• Pakistan
10 Feb 07
well i keep my phone silent while sleeping so no worries :) http://bash.reallifelog.com
@Opteron (1845)
• Italy
10 Feb 07
In that situation I would just put my phone off of order so she would stop calling you, because she can't calls you. Solution is so easy! Every night begins leaving your phone "open", so she will get a busy signal and she will understand to not call in the middle of night! Of course, turn off all of your cell phones too! She must understand that people in the night MUST sleep!