Dog in bed,divorce pending?.

Well you're not alone with this. In our current situation my boyfriend and I have a roomate and so we only have 1 bedroom for ourselves. We have 1 small bed in here (meant for the dog) and a queen bed meant for ourselves. Well, it hasn't exactly worked out the way we had planned. Usually all three of us will cuddle up in the bed together until it becomes too uncomfortable, at which point my boyfriend will go over to the other bed. This has been doing on for probably about 3 months now (the dog is medium sized) and I don't think we are on the way to a breakup because of it.

Are you a 69 year old married man, or a rich 70 year old who doesn't know much about women?, or are you making everything up. One of the rules for MyLot is that you should be telling the truth.

This sounds a lot like the episode I saw on Dr. Phil. I mean I would advise you to try and work it out. I don't think it's that big of a deal. Maybe you should ask her why she prefers the dog. And when did it come down to you or the dog? I don't know, but a divorce sounds too drastic over a dog.

that is such a petty thing. i dont think people need to get a divorce just because one wants the dog to sleep in the bed thats just ridiculous. if you'll get a divorce over something that small to me there must not be to much love there. i personally let me dog sleep in the bed with me and my hubby he dont care. he certinaly wouldnt want a divorce over it. i just cant believe people sometimes trying to find the littlest thing to get out of marriage. why not just be honest with your partner and yourself by saying I just want a plain out divorce......

We are right where the dog sneaking up in our bed when we are sound asleep. Husbands numerous attempts to move dog to the kitchen to sleep there has failed and failed again. I do not mind the dog, though i would prefer it before husband, even if he is snoring too loud. You should have a serious talk about this, i think, she cant have been all that serious. If it is, maybe a counselor can help you. And: The only reason i might choose the dog before husband, is if he threatened me or the dog in some way, causing a huge anger from my side.

Well, A jack russel seems pretty nice! I have 3 big dogs... Aussie sheppard-boxer mix/ A German sheppard-pit mix/ A pit-bull I have been sleeping in the other room of the house because when I could actually fall asleep... I would wake with all three in the bed ( a double) and a major back ache. My wife usually gets to bed just before me and has at least two of them with her. She wants me in the bed but makes little effort to clear space. I have built a temporary add on that seems like a wing at the foot of the bed (this could be done on the side of the bed) and begun to reinforce training, which is REALLY important for a dog owner. The main command I use for this loving annoyance is "BED" pointing to their respective beds. At this point it takes only once and they scurry off but it does take patience, understanding and consistant effort. There are a million ways to train a dog on the internet and in books(what's that?) so I won't bore you with that. Find a method, figure out a commmand (simple one word phrases work best) and use a Firm but Calm voice. Now this is important, as frustrating as the development of communication can be, you MUST remain calm. I'm talking about learning a new language here...bet ya didn't plan on that with a dog huh? Well I have even more good news, you and your dear wife don't need a divorce, you need to learn how to "speak each others language". " If you continue to struggle, you will continue to learn. Aim your struggle toward that which is most dear." ?

I think a little more discussion/compromise would be in order, divorce is a little weighty!!! My gf's lab/spaniel mix is always in bed with us,sometimes quite in the way, most times not,but if I can handle that, you can do anything!!

I dont know about divorce but mabey some counceling is in order. My dog sleeps at our feet we have cats that get inbetween us but I just shoo em out.

Once you've let the dog into your bed that's it .. he will now think it's the right place to be .. and all attempts to remove the dog may well end up being taking as a good game .. easier to give in and move to the dogs bed yourself than try and remove the dog from your own bed .. I'm not too sure it's grounds for divorce .. but can your wife pole dance as delightfully as your 18 year old girlfriend .. maybe it's time to make some choices heheh !!!

Seems like the relation is on a sidetrack. We in the Caribbean consider dogs animals that belong on the front porch at night. Get a girlfriend and snuggle in with her, then see what happens. Personally I would get a divorce.

My husband and I have a dog. She likes to sleep on the bed with us- jumping up in the middle of the night. This hasn't led to us sleeping in separate beds! Why is it that you feel you must sleep in a separate bed? Is it an issue of insufficient room or dog shedding? I can understand that you say it's uncomfortable, but jack russells are small animals- don't you think you could stand it, at least some of the time? It is my opinion that if your wife is not being reasonable, you should at least try to be reasonable for the sake of your relationship. Whether this would be grounds for divorce I really can't say. It seems like if you are contemplating divorce over something like this, the dog isn't the core issue here. Give it some more thought before you do or say anything you will later come to regret.

hey its fine why u so upset may be poor thing (dog u can use his name atleast) is feelin scared or lonely or simply cold u didnt mentioned where u stayin do u have heat on or soo or it hap. in summers?? well u shud knw that females are touchy about things specialy to living ones so she must be just protective otherwsie do u think there;s any match betwenn u nah that fella hmmm!!! think it over and trya get ur wife to ur bedroom and let the puppy have his fav bed!!!give divorce to such petty things not ur wife!!

It's not grounds for divorce and she does not prefer the puppy over you no matter what she says! She's standing up (well, lying down actually) for a principle. Do you guys have kids? She's developed a maternal type bond with the young pup. She can't really see why it bothers you; perhaps thinks you're being mean. I think she assumes you'll come back to the bed eventually. It seems she loves this dog, loves that the dog wants to be near her, loves the unconditional love she gets from the puppy and perhaps feels you have placed conditions on the one she gets from you. (I'm not saying all this is right or wrong, I'm just trying to put her possible perspectives/motives up here).