Age Difference: Does it really matter?

Saint Vincent And The Grenadines
February 13, 2007 6:27am CST
We all know about people who get involved in relationships with persons that are way older or younger than them. What do you think about that? is it a good idea? will they have enough to share? much controversy about this one i know, i am waiting to read your replies :)
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18 responses
13 Feb 07
I dont think smaller age differeces make a great impact on relationships however you do have to wonder about the sincerity of relationships between young pretty girls and ageing rock stars.
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• Saint Vincent And The Grenadines
13 Feb 07
yeah, agreed, if age difference is not big it won't change a thing...main problems (if they exist) come with big differences. about rock stars....damn why ain't i one :P lol
@arkaf61 (10881)
• Canada
14 Feb 07
I am a bit divided on this one. I would like to think that a big age gap would make no difference whatsoever - and in fact, sometimes it doesn't - but reality has thought me that often it makes a big difference, that get accentuated with as people age.Different interests, activities, even ways of being in life... sure it can work, specially at the beginning of the relationship, but as time passes it becomes more complicated.
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• Saint Vincent And The Grenadines
23 Feb 07
ty for reply hon.
@mypigbox (2245)
• China
13 Feb 07
I do not Know what they will share with.Now we have found that there are a lot of children sharing anything with their parents.It is different with ages.Thought,life style,friends,have more difference.
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• Saint Vincent And The Grenadines
13 Feb 07
thanks for the post mypigbox :)
@jolope (987)
• Philippines
13 Feb 07
when i was a freshman in college our sociology professor told us that the ideal age gap between men and women is 7..for example the girl is 20 then the boy must be 27..because men mature much later than women..and i do agree..i think that if in my age i get a guy who is also about my age then i'll be like a sugar mommy..taking extra care of my boyfriend..and i dont want that to happen..caring is different from extra care..because that would be too much stress..^_^
• Saint Vincent And The Grenadines
13 Feb 07
not sure i agree with your professor but if that's what science says....lol
13 Feb 07
I don't think it really matters if two people love each other and want to be with each other. From my own experience I can say that I was married to a guy 5 years older than me. We drifted apart as we had little in common with each other after a while and the divorce was amicable. I am now with my partner who is a lot younger than I am. He and I have so much in common the age difference just doesn't matter.
• India
22 Feb 07
well friend i think there is nothing to worry to have relationship with person who is older than u.but it should be limit.mainly in case of boys.now a days few guys are falling in love with the girls who are older than that guy.if it is 2 or 3 years difference means no probs.but if it is more than it,i think its not good.in the present generation youth is not caring about age differences..they are takeing indian criket player as a role model in this age diference....
• Saint Vincent And The Grenadines
23 Feb 07
thanks for your reply
@weemam (13372)
21 Feb 07
I do not think it matters age is just a number, In their teens girls are much more mature than guys and as they get older the match up, my son married a girl 7 years younger than him and they have been happily married for 15 years , I don't think age matters in the least xx
@dj_faheem (738)
• Pakistan
22 Feb 07
i think age difference is not matter just depends on love....................i believe on that point.............................
@caharin (19)
• Philippines
23 Feb 07
I'd say it depends on who's looking. It shouldn't really matter as long as these two people willingly and lovingly commit to each other. Other people say it's not good for two people with a very big age gap to be together but they don't really have any basis for it. If it so happens that a young man falls for an older woman (or the other way around)and their relationship doesn't work out, it's only the same as any other relationship on the same age level. Any relationship can work as long as the couple at least tries to make it work. As long as they have faith in each other and truly love each other, then that's what really matters. Quite frankly, what they say happens to relationships with a big age difference happens to all relationships. It's not only the older men who are after what the younger women still have (or vice versa), because some same age relationships have the same problem. It could be the person's looks or material possessions, it's all the same if there's no love and respect. So, for me, age doesn't really matter.
@cuddleme01 (2725)
• Philippines
22 Feb 07
no age does not really matter in a relationship. the success on every relationship is not dependent on age but on the love and understanding that make up the relationship. I think people are blaming age differences for their failed relationships because they refuse to acknowledge their own mistakes. There are many successful relationships with a big age gap involved as there are many successful relationships with a minimal age gap too.
@cabergren (1181)
• United States
13 Feb 07
I don't think that age matters that much. I think it depends more on the person that you are with. I have been involved in relationships with people older than myself and they have been very nice relationships. I haven't been with anyone younger. It just depends on what you have in common and what your beliefs and values are as to whether you can have a relationship with that person not their age.
• Saint Vincent And The Grenadines
13 Feb 07
thanks for the comment. And yes, no matter what we say in the end each case is different and there are no absolute rules. However, i still think that age difference is more or less important depending on the age of the couple involved.
@Sasselle (698)
• Australia
14 Feb 07
Usually I would say that age doesn't matter ... it all goes on attraction and what you have in common and interests etc - but there gets to a point where I think it does. I mean if you are 20 and dating an old man who is in his 90's ... what can you possibly have in common to even sustain a relationship??
• Saint Vincent And The Grenadines
15 Feb 07
ty for the post hon.
@merkava (1225)
• Philippines
23 Feb 07
It's a matter of preference. I personally choose a relationship where we just have the right age gap. If the girl was a lot older than me let's say around 5 years then I'll just look like a boy to others. There's also the idea that some might be tagged as a "cradle snatcher." It's important that there should be a meeting of the minds.
• India
22 Feb 07
well friend i think there is nothing to worry to have relationship with person who is older than u.but it should be limit.mainly in case of boys.now a days few guys are falling in love with the girls who are older than that guy.if it is 2 or 3 years difference means no probs.but if it is more than it,i think its not good.in the present generation youth is not caring about age differences..they are takeing indian criket player as a role model in this age diference....
@chiyosan (30184)
• Philippines
13 Feb 07
i think if you can really get along and still make do even with the age differences, there is really no problem. after all, love knows no boundaries.
@peni88 (469)
• United States
13 Feb 07
i dont think age differences make a difference in the relationship. when my dad married my step-mom she was 26 and my dad was 42. theyve now been married 26 years this april.
• Philippines
14 Feb 07
If the couples who get involved are truly in love, then there is no problem with it. There are a lot of couples I know who lived through thick and thin despite their huge age gap. Usually the men are the older ones but, there are a few cases where it is the other way around. Yes, I believe true love conquers generation gap, too.
@lubenx (173)
• Sweden
13 Feb 07
I don't care about the age difference. In relationship it's only love that matters.