The LOVE Letter...
@western_valleygirl (1363)
United States
February 14, 2007 10:36am CST
I told my husband, a few weeks ago, that I wanted him to buy me a card, maybe some candy or flowers, etc...something romantic for Valentine's Day. He said to me, why do I have to go, to the card store, and stand there like an idiot, looking for a card, and all the ladies and everyone else, will just be staring at me, when I can write something far better at home? Well, I have no complaints about that. So, I got my love letter, and I am waiting to read it, after he goes to work. He already read the cards that I gave him. We went out to eat yesterday, and earlier in the week, we bought a mini Valentine's Day cake, which came with these two little hearts entertwined, I am going to save them with my love letter. I wish that we had been able to go on a trip, he wanted to also, but he has work this week, we were thinking of Vegas, or L.A...oh well, until we are free. So, what gift did you get or give...and if not this year, how about previous years? Or do you just boycott it, altogether?
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@Alexandria37 (5717)
• Ireland
14 Feb 07
Oh, that is so romantic. If my husband had his way, he would boycott Valentine's day. I reminded him last night that to-day was Valentine'd Day, so I am expecting at least a box of chocolates this evening. He will probably eat most of them himself while watching tv.
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@western_valleygirl (1363)
• United States
14 Feb 07
Yes, my hubby ate most of the cake that we got, and I had gotten up the next morning thinking that I would have some scrumptious chocolate cake, and lo and behold, there is none left...just an empty box in the trash.
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@Sawsen (793)
• United States
14 Feb 07
I'm actually don't believe in Valentine's Day. I think it's just a money-making holiday in disguise. A lot of people feel pressure and so forth just to buy things for the person they love. But that's not what it's about. I think Valentine's should be everyday, and not just one specific day. It was nice of him though to write you the letter, but maybe he should do it on a more daily basis, then just on one day. Because Valentine's is all about the money, not about the love.
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@western_valleygirl (1363)
• United States
14 Feb 07
I agree with you...I did not want to go to a fancy restuarant today either, because not only does the price go up, but the service goes down also. Whenever we go out to eat on Holidays, it is not as fun as it could be on a regular day. Yes, there is a lot of pressure involved, and my hubby feels the same way, he believes today should not be the day where we "have" to celebrate our love, it should be whenever and always.
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@western_valleygirl (1363)
• United States
14 Feb 07
Thank you, hope you have a nice Valentine's also...and we'll see about my future vacay, with all the things going on, it might take a while.
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@sigma77 (5383)
• United States
14 Feb 07
I agree with your husband. He can probably write something far more meaningful than anything written on a card. I don't have anyone special right now, so it is pretty much a regular day for me. I would celebrate it before, when I was married. I have mixed emotions about it.
If I have a special person in my life, I want to treat them in a loving fashion everyday. I don't care for special days so much...they come and go and then what? I think that there gets to be to many expectations just because it is a certain day on the yearly calendar.
Why not take a trip to upstate New York where you can play around in 12 feet of snow? It would be a totally different and refreshing experience for you and your husband...lol.
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@western_valleygirl (1363)
• United States
14 Feb 07
Yes, I wish that I could get to N.Y., the last time I was there, it was a blast, and I went in the summer, so I am sure that winter will be even more fun...perhaps during coming winter season, that might be more possible. He has never been to N.Y., and from all that I have told him, I believe that he now wants to go also. I have friends and family in upstate N.Y., near Buffalo, and another city that I cannot remember at the moment. And, I agree, I believe that we should always express the way that we feel, however, with day to day life, that is not always possible, so, I am glad that this day provides a reminder and a chance to do so.
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@western_valleygirl (1363)
• United States
14 Feb 07
I am sure that if she loves you, she will love to recieve such a gift, because when it comes down to it, love is not materialistic. I am glad that I have this letter to remind me that he loves me when I am down, or doubting our relationship...sometimes, written words, have more meaning, because they took time to be thought of, and are not just spur of the moment.
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@western_valleygirl (1363)
• United States
14 Feb 07
Yes, that is true. There are always our friends to share it with. I used to send cards to my friends, and we all used to eat chocolate together, espeically the Lindt Truffles...yummy, they are so good. And, you can by all sorts of flavors individually. I liked to distribute them to my favorite coworkers...
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@ElusiveButterfly (45939)
• United States
15 Feb 07
We do not do the Valentines thing. We enjoy the day as we do any other day. We do not need to buy a card or candy to let each other know how we feel. Why buy chocolate at full prices when you can wait until the day after sale and get it for a song.
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@lucy02 (5016)
• United States
14 Feb 07
Well tomorrow is also our anniversary so we usually celebrate Valentine's Day and our anniversary on the same day. We usually go out to eat on our anniversary. The restaurants aren't usually as crowded as they are on Valentine's Day.
@payingforschool (678)
• Canada
15 Feb 07
That's so sweet! Not a lot of guys would be willing to take the risk of writing a love letter - it puts them in a pretty vulnerable place. I hope that you read it and enjy it, and keep it forever.
My husband is a musician and has written a couple of songs for me. I still get all bashful when I hear them.
@western_valleygirl (1363)
• United States
15 Feb 07
Yes, I totally know what you mean...and my hubby likes to sing, for fun, and read poems, so I was glad that he did this for me. I hope I can get more in the future...sometimes, he will sing little ditties about me, so that is fun and funny.
@doodlebug5250603 (1993)
• United States
15 Feb 07
That was very sweet. I wish my hubby would of wrote me a love letter insteading of bringing me a cat home for valentine's day. I still don't know what he was thinking.
@western_valleygirl (1363)
• United States
15 Feb 07
Yeah, that is kind of odd...maybe he thought you wanted one, or he might have wanted it for himself also...I love tinkerbell, by the way.
@Leedsrbest1973 (127)
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14 Feb 07
This year all i bought for my wife was a card but we will go out 4 dinner. My reasons for this are that i tell her i love her every day and i will not buy flowers etc because i am being told i should
@western_valleygirl (1363)
• United States
14 Feb 07
Absolutely, and you will find that you are not the only one. My hubby is the same.
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@uchicha (39)
• Philippines
15 Feb 07
Wow!that's so romantic!your so lucky with your husband!anyways last year i got a Valentine's card came from friends and my boyfriend!im so impress and flattered about of what i receive.and im lucky to that i have a very loving friends and boyfriend!
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@1983tyler (507)
• United States
14 Feb 07
It sounds like you are having a nice Valentine's Day. It is sweet that he would rather write a love note instead of buying a card.
My husband tends to forget to do things for days like Valentine's Day. But he did buy me a box of chocolates on Monday. I think I prefer getting flowers or chocolates on days other than "special days" because it makes me feel special on an ordinary day.
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@nowment (1757)
• United States
15 Feb 07
It sounds like he is very thoughtful and caring. I have had a couple of sweet valentines days but the sweetest valentines were not for valentines day at all. But just because days. Those unexpected times when something sweet and thoughtful is done.
I am allergic to roses, I found that I grew of fondness of roses, mostly because my grandfather had some AWESOME rose bushes in his garden. One valentines day it fell on his day off, I got home from work after he did, and stuck in the latch of the gate was a silk rose.
I came home to dinner waiting for me and some great quiet time just for us.
As for one of those sweet valentines moments that was not on valentines day.
The first year we were together, he took the day off work because he wanted to spend my birthday with me. A just us kind of day.
@western_valleygirl (1363)
• United States
15 Feb 07
That is very romantic and sweet. I think those are the best days too. This entire month has felt pretty romantic for me, in general, I guess, because Valentin's was nearing, so it just makes you remember more often, to love the one you love, but, you are right. My hubby feels the same way, saying it should be everyday, and not one specific day.
@phon4u (2215)
• Laos
4 Mar 07
Your husband has opposite thinking feed back for you. He may not want you to send to the other people. He may not like the ideas of sending cards by post mail these days. He may think that you were married long time ago and still need candy or flower. He may not be a romantic person. My spouse has never asked me a card or a candy after getting married. I think you can use e-card better if your friends have email addresses.
@Bee1955 (3882)
• United States
15 Feb 07
My husband and I bought our non-traditional Valentine's Day gift together - a new digital camera, which we used for the first time at a friend's Valentine's wedding yesterday evening. Beautiful wedding, delicious food, great friends - the nice kind of Valentine's Day.
@opinder (420)
• India
15 Feb 07
my guy has been away on both the valentines that we had since we had a relationship. last year i sent him a card with a heart sketched inside(one side) and all that i wanted to say on the other side. he loved it. so he wanted something of the sort this time too. he is not at all into cards and all. but he loves the ones i send. this time i asked to get me one though. and he did!!
@awonderfullife (2893)
• United States
15 Feb 07
I prefer homemade cards, but my hubby isn't the most crafty so he goes to the dollar store and buys me a card. He writes his own cute sentiments in it. He goes to the dollar store because he thinks spending 3 or 4 bucks on a card is a waste of money (and I agree). But the HILARIOUS thing is, he bought me the EXACT SAME card he gave me last year! I recognized it right away! The dollar store doesn't have the biggest selection, obviously! He also bought me some dark chocolates and we had a nice meal at home with our kids. That was our Valentine's day!
@renagades (342)
• India
15 Feb 07
no i will get that gift for mee . thats cool to get the gift , so i obviously accept the gift .
