Does your relationship suffer when you have financial problems?

@arkaf61 (10881)
Canada
February 15, 2007 1:18am CST
Back home there is a saying that roughly translated comes to " In a house without bread, arguments come easy" . I never really paid much attention to this one or other sayings, but lately I have learned that there is much truth in this saying. ALl the times we went through financial distress, I noticed that both me and my husband reacted differently and yes.. arguments came easier, even for things that we wouldn't normally argue about. What do you think?
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@Bhutto (741)
• India
6 Mar 07
Yes i think it is the root cause of all problems.
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@arkaf61 (10881)
• Canada
11 Mar 07
I wouldn't go as far as saying it is the root of all problems, but it really can affect a relationship in a very negative way.It is very stressful too which makes it even worse.
@XxAngelxX (2830)
• Canada
15 Feb 07
I think any problems tend to make a relationship suffer as they cause more stress. Financial problems just seem to be one that most people have at some point in their lives, and it's something we need to learn to deal with. But I do agree with you that finances can cause a lot of suffering in relationships.
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@arkaf61 (10881)
• Canada
16 Feb 07
Yes any problems will affect the relationship, and financial ones are but one small part of it. But oh boy it's a hard one :)
• United States
15 Feb 07
Financial stress is one of the leading reasons for marital problems. Both ppl obviously handle the stress differently and often have a hard time with how the other person is dealing with it themselves. the more stress, the more snappish we get, the easier it is to spark an arguement over how a fork is placed in the drawer...and tons of other inconsequential things like that. the small things end up being the "straw that broke the camels back" and we lash out, even if we dont mean to. the most important thing to do when that happens? apologize..calm down for a bit, then come back in the room and say you're sorry and explain how stressed you are and that it just popped out. communication is the key and the life-line of keeping a relationship together.
@arkaf61 (10881)
• Canada
16 Feb 07
I agree with you although it is difficult sometimes. I am resorting to the counting backwards to ten in the most complicated language for me LOL
• Saint Vincent And The Grenadines
15 Feb 07
This cannot be applied to ALL cases but in some occasions financial problems do affect couples yes. Lack of money doesn't make people happy, it makes them upset, and upset people are easier to fight with, they're more stressed and that is like a trigger for a fight. That's why communication is so important, it prevents from all this.
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@arkaf61 (10881)
• Canada
16 Feb 07
Yes communication is extremely important, not only in this case but in any case involving a relationship of any kind.