problem or not, i feel bad!

@xXmeganxX (4423)
February 15, 2007 4:13pm CST
hi there, right my daughter acts the goat at bedtimes, probably because she thinks she is missing out which i thought i was when i was younger and never slept! but what it is like this morning early hours, she was acting like she was hungry so i brought her down and fed her, then i took her back to bed but she thought it was funny to climb in out of her cot! bearing in mind she is only nearly 2 and could fall and hurt herself, so i screamed at her, i never hit her nope! now say for example my boyfriend says to me don't scream at her because she's only a baby but that's not the point, we have neighbours who have to get up for work at like 5AM every day and i feel sorry for them if my daughter keps them awake. so when i scream at her she is SCARED and i mean terrified she will lie down straight away and won't move a centimetre or even flick an eyelid and when i done this today, i thought woah im bad me, she's scared of me and it shouldn't be like that and i felt horrible towards her but i was tired! do you think im right for doing this or not as i don't want her to grow up hating me and scred of me but that's the only way i can get her to listen to me by screaming. please help me out here and give your views, also if you have NOTHING to say or it's going to OFFEND me then please don't reply as i don't have time to listen to people for example saying " your a bad mum your this and your that". serious responses please people! all users will be rated, thank you.
2 people like this
4 responses
@deebomb (15348)
• United States
15 Feb 07
When a little one at that age get up they probably have had enough sleep for the night. Is she always up that early? Try putting her to bed a little later. like maybe 15 mins and see if she sleeps later in the morning. My kids were always early risers. That is until they had to get up for school. Then they didn't want to get up.
1 person likes this
@gabs8513 (48821)
• United Kingdom
16 Feb 07
And this is what you need to try and stop if she is still asleep after 2 pm wake her up and then put her to bed at 7.30pm. She will have to get used to the new Routine Mummy is putting her in. Also this will give you more of a break if she goes to bed earlier.
1 person likes this
@xXmeganxX (4423)
16 Feb 07
thanks alot for the tips gabs, i shall try this one as your tips are very helpful to me, thanks alot for all your help. :O)
1 person likes this
@gabs8513 (48821)
• United Kingdom
16 Feb 07
You are very welcome Love
1 person likes this
• United States
16 Feb 07
My daughter would wake at 3;30 in the morning when she was at that age. So, I started to wake her up at 11;00, feed her an watch TV for a half hr. and go back to sleep. Then she started to sleep until almost 7am. I know that its hard not to yell, but you should wait til' she is older , little kids get damage at that age,(emotional luggage). We are all human.
1 person likes this
@xXmeganxX (4423)
17 Feb 07
yes true jesse were all human, if i wake her up then really it's harder putting her to sleep again, ive been there, done that alot of times but as i said she won't listen till i scream at her well shout, LOL! im going to try and be calm and speak to her in future because my neighbours must think WIAH RENT A MOUTH about me, LOL. thanks for responding with your tips too! :O)
@gabs8513 (48821)
• United Kingdom
16 Feb 07
Ok Sweet, you know I would never call you a bad Mum. It is hard sometimes, specially when you are tired and you are worried about the Neighbours. Do you still give your Daughter a Bottle to drink out of. The reason I am asking this, is when you put her to bed at give her a Drink of Horlicks. If she doesn't have the Bottle, then give it to her in her Cup. I used to give this to both of mine from the Age of 6 months and they both slept well. So try that one. Also as you are watching her Es that should soon settle her a bit for the night. The other thing is do not let her go to sleep in the Afternoon after 2pm. She is 2 now and if she goes to sleep that late she is building her energy up for the night. As for Screaming at her, well I have done that in the Past, but what you want to try and do is. Lower your Tone in a very strict manner and warn her if she does not behave. Do not worry, love, she is testing you, they all do it. I hope this helps you a bit. Please let me know how you get on.
1 person likes this
@xXmeganxX (4423)
17 Feb 07
hey gabs, yes she has a bottle, i don't even want to go into full detail about when i give her a cup of milk, she tipped the lot on her bed! it stunk! lol. i will try out the horlicks and see what happens, my auntie used to drink that before bed! also i will try and calm myself down and as you said say it in a polite strict manner, maybe she will understand then! thanks alot for the tips and advice, much appreciated! :O)
@lols189 (4798)
15 Feb 07
you need to take our giddy out more
1 person likes this
@xXmeganxX (4423)
16 Feb 07
she does go out quite abit tho lols, you know she does, she's just a naughty girl. :O)