My friend's boyfriend kicked her - what should she do?

@babykay (2133)
Ireland
February 15, 2007 4:15pm CST
My friend has met a guy in the last few months. She is really, really besotted by him. I got a text from her and she said that she was worried as he was drunk and acting in an irrational manner. They were out with friends at this time and she wanted to go home but he kept drinking. So eventually when they did get to go home, he was delaying and she told him to hurry up, he kicked her. Not hard I am told. But next morning he claimed to remember nothing. I think that this is a bad omen for the future of their relationship and that she should get out now. But she is giving him another chance, I asked her had he done anything like this before and apparently he had but she didn't give details. What do you think?
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@ky1119 (701)
• United States
15 Feb 07
Drunk or not, there is no excuse for him to have kicked her. A small kick may turn into a push, then a punch, and then who only knows what. I left an abusive marriage and despite what those on the outside of things say, it's not as easy to leave as one might think. My advice is to run like hell at the firt signs.
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@babykay (2133)
• Ireland
16 Feb 07
I tend to agree with you. If they are like that at the beginning of the relationship, what wil they be like further on? If only my friend thought the same though.
15 Feb 07
I think when people are drunk they do all kinds of silly things. Perhaps she should ask him to stop drinking and then she will know if its typical behaviour or not.
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@babykay (2133)
• Ireland
15 Feb 07
She expressed concern about his drinking to him before and as far as I can see, the two of them probably drink at least a little too much. But he seems unwilling to stop.
@design (848)
• Ireland
16 Feb 07
I think its a sign of major problems in the future, can't imagine asking him to stop drinking will help, Telling him maybe. If it was my friend i tell her to dump him, what if he can remember, she will become more trapped and it will start happening when he's not drinking, He'll have that emotional power over her( My best friend was in this situation a number of years ago) She got rescued from her relationship by the police when her so called boyfriend nearly killed her, she was an emotional wreck, she lost touch with her family, most of her friends and lost all her self confidence, which I can say took years to restore.
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@earth2jacq (1503)
• Philippines
16 Feb 07
I think you are right. I think right now she is so inlove with her boyfriend that she is blinded. As from what you typed here this is an early sign that the guy can be violent. This happened twice already and your friend just brushed it as nothing.Be on guard but don't push her to get out in the relationship, she will realize that in due time. After all eventhough you are a concerned friend it is still she who will decide for herself.
@babykay (2133)
• Ireland
20 Feb 07
I was out with them last Saturday night and he could barely look me in the eye. I really think this guy is bad news. Hope she sees this too! Thanks for you advice, I have decided to let her find out for myself, she knows what I think and if I say much more I risk alienating her. Thanks again!
@emarie (5455)
• United States
15 Feb 07
yeah, if he drinks alot, then this can be bad. she may want to talk to him about it. its not something thats that bad if he only drinks sometimes. she can just avoid him when they go out drinking and stuff like that. since the relationship is new, she still has much to learn about his habbits. it may be to early to tell, but if it happens again and he still insists on drinking, then she should end it.
@babykay (2133)
• Ireland
16 Feb 07
Perhaps it is the drink, perhaps not.