Can It Truly Be 50/50 To Make a 100% Relationship?
By Lostinoz
@Lostinoz (145)
United States
February 17, 2007 4:47pm CST
I hear a lot of people say that a relationship must be 50/50 from both partners in order for it to succeed. I don't believe this is possible all of the time as circumstances can demand a partner give 75% when the the other is going through a crisis of some sort. Do you feel let down when this happens? Do you resent having to pick up the slack of your partner?
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@samtaylorskykierajen (7977)
• Canada
17 Feb 07
I do believe it has to be 50/50 but not every day . Some days one may take over more then the other and another day the other may take over . It has to be a give and take on both parts as one person would be dominating the relationship and this would be very hard for the one who had no say in anything that happened .
But it is true that there are times that one has to give more for a little while longer because of circumstance but at some point the other person would have to be able to chip in something also in order for it to work .
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@Lostinoz (145)
• United States
17 Feb 07
There would have to be balance in order for it to work. You are right. I have seen some horrendous relationships where one or the other felt they had absolutely no rights within the relationship. I have seen others where one seems to give and give to only never have anything given to them in return. It is a sad situation.
@Denmarkguy (1845)
• United States
17 Feb 07
I have heard that saying. I have also heard some people say that it takes BOTH partners to "give 100%" to make a successful relationship.
We all have ups and downs in life, so I don't really feel resentful if I have to pick up the slack of a partner till they get their life back together. What I DO get resentful about, is when a partner who has had a tough time decides they actually really like to be taken care of all the time, and consciously decide it's "easier" to "stay helpless" so they can just have the other partner be their permanent servant and caretaker.
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@Lostinoz (145)
• United States
17 Feb 07
I agree with you completely. I understand the giving of 100% from each partner, I was just basing it on two halves actually becoming one. : ) Kind of idealistic I know. I would not want to be in a situation of having someone who consciously wanted to stay helpless. It would be a drain both physically and mentally. Were you actually in this situation and if so, how did you handle it?
@Jemina (5770)
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21 Feb 07
I think that 50/50 is equal to 50. Personally, I would give more than 50. We are talking about successful relationship so if we can't give 100% at least close to it. Why would there be so much reservation? It was the very thing that ruined my relationship. Because I didn't give more than enough.
If true love is there, sure you will be more than happy to compliment your partner. And I think you would also love to be complimented by your partner.
