How much do you love your children?

@chavezrmc (6095)
Philippines
February 17, 2007 11:27pm CST
WE love them so much that sometimes they tend to grew spoiled. I believe that if we want them to keep their feet on the ground and be matured we have to put some responsibility on their shoulders. What are your views on this?
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8 responses
• Malaysia
18 Feb 07
Can't help loving your own children! But I believe that discipline comes as part of loving them. Even from when they are young and i don't mean hitting them. Don't believe in that. I think that teaching them to think for themselves... especially when it comes to creating a safe environment for them... is really important. It's part of loving them I think! For example, from young, you tell them that the plate is hot, the stairs are dangerous, stay away from knives and as they grow older, danger evolves into all sorts of things but once they have learned to think for themselves, they really would appreciate all that love you have lavished upon them... :))
@chavezrmc (6095)
• Philippines
18 Feb 07
i understand you, and you have a good point. Discipline is one way of loving our kids and i hope too that children will see it that way.
@cherhost (1072)
• United States
18 Feb 07
well there is no way i can tell you how much i love my little girl. i cant even begin to tell you how spoiled she really is. but i do disepline her the way she needs to be. i do not let her get away with not sharing, biting, hitting etc. she does get time outs and she does every now and then get a little tap on her hand. but she is spoiled meaning she has more toys then you can imagine and yes i am that parent at the store who will buy something for her just because she wants it. not all the time but some of the time. i know it sounds bad but i do think there is a fine line between raising them to have their fett on the ground and being spoiled... they can have a little bit of both at times .
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@chavezrmc (6095)
• Philippines
18 Feb 07
i understand you as most parents are like that and i am too. As long as i can make it then everything i would surely give, not the things they wanted, but even in the house sometimes i am doing everything coz i know that they are doing something. im hoping though that i can give more responsibilities to them now that they are grown up.
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• Philippines
18 Feb 07
as far as i am concern, i love my baby so much he means life to me, and i know my hubby loves him so much too, he came at the right time, when me and my husband are about to give up because we dont have kids after 19 years of being married. i want my baby to grow-up as responsible, respectful and kind... and we will support him as long as we can
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@chavezrmc (6095)
• Philippines
18 Feb 07
congratulations, i believe your baby is a blessing. Give the best you can. You well know what is.
@sunnypub (2128)
• United States
18 Feb 07
Well I just can't explain how much I love my daughter, but I bet just about every parent will say that. My daughter says that I tell her i love her too much. How cute is that. The hardest thing for me to do is to let my duaghter suffer. I mean I don't let her sit and bleed or anything, but if she wants a drink I tell her to get it herself, and sometimes she just cries about that, but I know that by letting her do these things herself she is learning responsiblilty and confidence. It is so easy to do things for our children, but the best thing we can do as parents is to allow them to make their own mistakes and deal with problems on their own. As long as we show the empathy, then we are doing our job.
@chavezrmc (6095)
• Philippines
18 Feb 07
yeah, you are right, problem with us parents sometimes we are doing it. We love them so much and we tend to do things for them.
@chavezrmc (6095)
• Philippines
18 Feb 07
yeah, you are right, problem with us parents sometimes we are doing it. We love them so much and we tend to do things for them.
@vijaygame (758)
• India
18 Feb 07
I dont have childresn yet....
@chavezrmc (6095)
• Philippines
18 Feb 07
then maybe you can share what will it be when you have one.
• Philippines
18 Feb 07
Yeah, give them responsibilities and let them stand them on their own.If you really love them let them know you love them by teaching them to be independent individuals.
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@chavezrmc (6095)
• Philippines
18 Feb 07
you are right, giving responsibilities are also a way of telling them that you love them coz you are just preparing them for the real world.
@stephcjh (38473)
• United States
18 Feb 07
I raise my 15 year old daughter the best I can. It sure isn't easy these days. Things have surely changed since we were kids. I allow her to things that I never got to do, but when it comes to chores and responsibilities, I make sure she does them also. I am trying my best to teach her things and get her ready for her adult years. She just doesn't understand the meaning of having responsibilities though. she thinks everything will be easy when she moves out.
@essilem (286)
• Philippines
18 Feb 07
i love my three children more than life itself. I cannot imagine living my life without them, it as if i exist only for them. But believe me when i say that they are not spoiled in any way but they know that they are loved. I encourage them to try on new things, give them space to grow with the assurance that if they fall i will be there to help them up and guide them for as long as i can. My eldest is now 9 years old and i am getting a lot of comments that my kinds are very well-behaved and very pleasant. They are never rowdy, playful yes, but never rowdy beyond control They are kids that i can be proud of. They do household chores, take care of each other and show their affections to us naturally.