Social cat vs. Loner cat

United States
February 18, 2007 7:08pm CST
What makes one cat love people and another just hate people. I have seen both. Our cat is social and enjoys people. It may take her some time to get used to new people but she eventually comes around. She is not overly friendly to other people but she has to be around my wife and I constantly when we are home. My aunt's cat has ran away from people, including my aunt, for over 12 years. I barely remember what this car looks like.
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• United States
19 Feb 07
I really think it has to do with the breed of cat. We have 4 and 2 of them are the same kind and act the same way, 1 varies between loving and independant, and our oldest and by far most snobby is a tortie.. which I have read are known for being the way they are.
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• Canada
19 Feb 07
I have also heard that calicos and torties can be a little finicky. My mom has a calico, one minute she's purring from being pet, the next she wants to bite your head off. Is your tortie a girl? I work at an animal hospital, and i've never seen a male calico or tortie ever. My boss says she's only seen one male tortie the entire time she's been in business (about 16 years)
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@classy56 (2880)
• United States
19 Feb 07
my cat is just the opposit..it hates people period.its very mean.even to me an my husband.it will come out when someone is here but it will try to bite them sometimes.so you are lucky to have a good cat that is social around people. i wish mine was more like yours .i also wish mine would go an hide but its not affraid of company..i dont know why there is a diffrence with cats.i quess they have their own personality.
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• United States
19 Feb 07
I hate it when cats come out to attack ... not cool. You are right, they each have their own personalities.
@tater03 (1765)
• United States
19 Feb 07
I guess it would matter on whether the cat was gotten as a kitten and was around people from a young age. But then again I would imagine cats can be just like people in the sense that some or just different personality wise.
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@babs0818 (1191)
• United States
19 Feb 07
Almost all my cats I have ever owned,were friendly to people and even strangers....The last time,we had a cat,he was very outgoing and loving...what was not a good thing..he got outside,and someone took him...I am still hardbroken...so it is not always good to have an outgoing cat.
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@anup12 (4177)
• India
19 Feb 07
Yes they do like that.You see as we human have some likings and dislikings,similarly the animals also have.There is nothing to worry though.
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@crickethear (1417)
• United States
19 Feb 07
They are just like people. They have people they feel an affection for, and others they don't. They each have their own personality, and so it makes sense, that there are cats who are selected.
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@nangel78 (1454)
• United States
19 Feb 07
One of my cats is very social too. He loves to come out and see people. He loves playing with them and interacting. It is really cool.
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• United States
19 Feb 07
I have wondered this myself. My cat now did not always like people, before we had her fixed she was not very friendly to people at all and would prefer to just not be around them at all. Now though she is just the opposite she loves us. She talks with us all of the time and will come and sit with us so that we can pet her. I don't know for sure what changed her but I think that it was getting her fixed. I had another cat a few years ago that no matter what just did not want anything to do with us. She would disappear for days and then come home to eat and then she was gone again. I used to ask the neighbors if she was there but they would always tell me that my cat hated them and would not let anyone near her. I just have no answer here I guess they are just like people.
@shywolf (4514)
• United States
19 Feb 07
I guess that it's no different from how some people are more of loners and some can't stand to be without company. I too have seen the difference in cats, though, whereas it seems like almost all dogs are the true pack animals that it is in their nature to be. I had one kitten who was the most loving creature I've ever seen. Then we got another one, and that cat didn't want anything to do with people, and it was outdoors the second that we opened the front door. It didn't want to be around us at all. It was just sad. I really wanted a pet to love, and that cat sure didn't want to be loved, lol!
@tad1fan (3367)
• Canada
19 Feb 07
Cats are like any other animal and have many reasons for changing it's attitude towards people.....the most common ones are abuse,either in the house or outside while on the prowl and the other is to become like a watch 'cat/dog'.....I've seen many articles of how a cat attacks a predator who has entered his home and tried to hurt his family.....cats are just like any other animal,they protect their domain
@mixey62 (305)
• United States
19 Feb 07
My cats are one of each type! Notso Fluffy loves people and attention, whereas Fluffy hides under the bed for the majority of the days and hardly ever wants to be pet. The one exception I have found is when I take out their treats--- then both cats almost attack me so that I will give them some snacks. Most of the pictures that I have posted are of Notso Fluffy, since Fluffy is never around when the camera comes out.
• Canada
19 Feb 07
this might not be true for all cats, but my parents have two cats that realy don't like being pet much, but they also grew up in a three story house where if they didnt' want to be around people they didn't have to. other not so friendly cats, or cats that hide a lot, my cousins have two cats that hide a lot, but they also have two young boys. Sometimes cats that were picked up when they were younger, and held for too long past the "please let me go" warnings, might not like to be picked up as an adult because they feel like they won't be able to get away. My cat lvoes me and loves all visitors, whether they are other people or dogs. I think because when I got him I lived in a room so he and i shared a room for four months, so he slept with me and we grew a very strong bond, I now live in a one bedroom apartment, but still we are in very close living proximity. Where as my friend has a cat the same age as mine, and he is not as friendly, but she also lives in a huge house. Maybe it depends on the bonding period when it was a kitten.
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