'women are supposed to be submissive.' Do you agree? what does that mean to you?

United States
February 19, 2007 10:05am CST
I've heard this argument alot from men (chauvanistic) who say a womans role is to be submissive- be a doormat and cater to his every need. they say its written in the bible and many cultures beat down the role of women to the kitchen. if your a lady whose dated a man who thinks this way, how do you deal with it? do you put him in his place or cater to his every need?
5 responses
• Philippines
19 Feb 07
At times, I guess it's alright to be "submissive" to men, because I honestly tend to be submissive to my boyfriend sometimes. Haha! I guess it goes with the fact that women are naturally caring, and loving... Lol. But I don't think it's proper to say that a woman's role is to be submissive. It's like saying a woman is subordinate to a man, and it's like drawing a line which says women are limited to house chores and such... We should all live mutually, and equally. Men should respect women, and vice-versa. I guess submissive men also exist... or, do they?
• United States
19 Feb 07
I agree with mutual respect and equality. women might need to put a foot down to get it too. Submissive men? never heard of that. Thanks alot!
• Philippines
23 Feb 07
Haha! Ok... So submissive men don't exist... :)
@Latrivia (2878)
• United States
4 Mar 07
I'm not in a situation like that - my boyfriend would be utterly bored with me if I were completely submissive (I let him be the man when I want to). However for anyone in a situation like that, I could offer advise. If he believes you should be submissive, but you either don't want to be, or aren't comfortable being completely submissive, then tell him. If he in any way tries to belittle you for it, he's not worth your time. If you try to put him in his place without even talking to him about it, you risk hurting your relationship. A simple "I'm not submissive in nature, and I never intend to be," should suffice.
• United States
5 Mar 07
Thanks! makes great sense.
@Idlewild (6090)
• United States
20 Feb 07
To me that kind of thinking went out in the 1950s (or should have), in the U.S. at least. Some countries still have that model. AndI guess even in the U.S. you'll see some religious groups that preach that type of thinking.
@kagandahan (1327)
• Philippines
23 Feb 07
it is by choice. if you chose to be submissive then you are.but in my opinion,there are times i should be submissive but i guess not most of the time.we should learn how to compromise.men too should be understanding to our needs.
@LadyLeene (584)
• United States
19 Feb 07
I've never been in a relationship like that; but in my opinion, you shouldn't cater OR try to put him in his place. You just leave, plain and simple. Nobody deserves to be treated like property.