Battered Kids!!!
By Deelicious
@Deelicious (362)
Philippines
February 22, 2007 4:51pm CST
I woke up today hearing my neighbor (the back of our house are facing together) yelling and swearing at her kids for the nth time. I was so pissed off that I yelled from my window telling her to shut up and leave her kids alone. This is always the scenario my Id wake up to or Id hear from my neighbor. She always yell at her kids eventhough there's really nothing to yell about. She swears a lot at them when she's pissed or when she's tired and she most of the time beat them. I havent seen her kids but based from their voices, I would guess that their arounf 3 and 7 years old. My mom would say that if she was my neighbors kid, she'd get a nervous breakdown from what their mom is doing.
I want to help but I dont know how to.
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19 responses
@imsilver (1665)
• Canada
23 Feb 07
I don't know where you live but in Canada, calls made to family services remain anonymous. The worker who responds can not tell the mother who it was that phoned on her. But if that is something that you are really worried about, do what was suggested by another responder and call the police when you hear anything next door and let them deal with it. They can judge when they get into your neighbours house wether or not family services should be called on the mother.
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@Deelicious (362)
• Philippines
24 Feb 07
Thats pretty scary. I mean my neighbor finding out what we did. But I know in my heart that I want to help the kids. I'll check the local family services here and see how they can help though, I have this feeling that they will let the family know it was us :S
@mmiller26 (1930)
• Canada
22 Feb 07
If you haven't seen the kids, how are you certain that she's beating them?
Still, if she's treating them badly, you have a responsibility to get children's services in there to investigate.
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@Deelicious (362)
• Philippines
23 Feb 07
Yes I havent really seen the kids but since our back doors are only like 3 meters apart, we (also my family members) can hear mostly everything. There was this one time we heard her say 'Im gonna Slap you', heard a slap and then a cry from the kid. We've been quiet about this for a year now and I just cant stand what she's doing. I feel for the kids.
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@chertsy (3798)
• United States
23 Feb 07
If this is a 24 hour thing with this neighbor, you can call the cops. Just tell them you don't want your name brought up or anything. Just explain to them your tired of hearing this woman yelling at her kids. Bring up every account that you can remember what she does. If you have to, start jotting down the time and what you hear her say. This will help the police and the child services. I have two kids ages 4 and 10, I might get loud at times, but not like the way you speak of this neighbor, gees. Nobody can be in a foul mood 24/7, or tired all the time. Since you heard this woman say I'm going to slap them, then hear a pop, then the child crying. That's abuse.
Don't let this woman get away with this. Or let those kids stay in a home, where they have to live in fear that at one moment they might get hit. Or even worse, the oldest get's tired and takes it in there hands to end this. Those kids needs to be in a home were they are loved, get good healthy meals, and a chance to be happy.
@msmonkeyfeet (789)
• United States
23 Feb 07
While it sounds sad, I'm not entirely sure that the authorities will considering merely slapping a child abuse. But you should definitely contact child services and/or the police and get them involved just so they can check things out properly. At the very least she could get in trouble for disturbing the peace.
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@angelzwings2007 (29)
• United States
23 Feb 07
Call family services and file a complaint. You are worried about the welfare of those children as I would be. And the next time you hear her call the police! Your actions will get those kids to a safe place and away from abuse.
@retardedrugrat (4791)
• Canada
23 Feb 07
Wow, it sounds like those kids need to be taken away from that situation as soon as possible.
It might be an idea to place a call to Social Services. If you're worried that she'll find out, you can place an anonymous call to them, and you don't have to give any of your personal details.
It always horrible when you hear people yelling at their kids like that. If she's drinking too, it's not a situation the kids need to be exposed to. I hope this can be resolved soon.
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@Ravenladyj (22904)
• United States
23 Feb 07
Best bet IMO is to contact the Family & Childrens services in your area and ask for an opinion from them....I dont knwo about where you are but in Ontario (Canada) you can call anonymously to report suspected abuse or get advice etc...
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@patgalca (18181)
• Orangeville, Ontario
23 Feb 07
I remember living in an apartment next door to another apartment building. I was hearing yelling and crying all the time. I mentioned it to my father and he said "Don't get involved". This WAS several years ago but still, do you really want to see those children being carried out on a stretcher? Your guilt would be hard to live with if you knew you could have done something to prevent it. You are obligated to report what you hear. If you are afraid when you hear the yelling, imagine how afraid the children are. Make the call.
@Deelicious (362)
• Philippines
24 Feb 07
That was the same thing my mother told me. She didnt want me and our family involved in domestic concerns of our neighbors. But I want to help the kids. Who knows what will happen to them if I dont help. Dont worry, I'll see what I can do.
@nawaab (168)
• India
23 Feb 07
this is a serious matter .. one option can be to inform police .. but it may lead to even disastrous results .. So what you do is to interact with her more and be her friend , though it a time taking process , but probability or positvie results are quite high .. And when you are friends you know what to do and even if this does not work .. you should try to get in touch with her relatives and disccuss the issue with them
@Deelicious (362)
• Philippines
24 Feb 07
I havent thought of befriending her. Hmm.. I'll ask my mom if she can do that cause the girl and me have a wide age gap. Perhaps my mom can shed light on how she can show love to her kids.
This morning, she was sooo mad at her kids that they ate all the bread they have. She kept yelling and cursing.
@princeworthy (1909)
• United States
23 Feb 07
I would report her to child protective services. You don't have to give your name, so she won't know it is you. I think that this would be the best action to take, someone has to help these children.
@SolanumThur (170)
• Brazil
23 Feb 07
Hello, Try videoing, or even audio saving The discussions and such [ i don't know if this is a crime at your country even at this situation], might look a bit stupid but i guess if you get proof enough and then call police when one discussion is going on... It might work very well... That's what i'd do i guess...
Good Luck.
@Deelicious (362)
• Philippines
24 Feb 07
I think that sounds like a good idea! At least we'll have enough proof when the police comes or something. I heard from my mom that she's seen them act like a prim and proper family when someone visits.
@okedoke (67)
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23 Feb 07
I live in a block of flats with my wife are our 3 children....opposite us is a lady with 2 children and she doesnt feed them proplery and is always swearing and shouting at them... when they have been that bad she puts one of her boys outside in the hallway, where it is damp and cold, so we have call the revelant people and they have sorted something at the mo as she hasnt shouted as much or even put him outside....so something must of happened.
@Deelicious (362)
• Philippines
24 Feb 07
I'll be looking for the nearest family services here in my area. I just hope and pray that things will go well for them after. I really pity the kids and I believe they deserve to have love eventhough they are poor.
@michmdmama (77)
• United States
23 Feb 07
I would be calling CPS as well. My dh and I are huge advocates of doing our damndest to prevent child abuse. Especially dh!
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@rarrimalion (674)
• United States
23 Feb 07
Some people should really not procreate. If this has been a repeat, ongoing thing then I'd call CPS and they can go from there.
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@poobear12993 (167)
• United States
23 Feb 07
I would call CPS on her. She should not find out who did and even if she does it would be better then her really hurting her kids. How would you feel then? Where I live a couple of years ago a man beat a little boy and the neighbors did nothing and the little boy ended up not makeing it. It might be hard to turn someone in but it is the right thing to do.
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