Do you feel bad when your partner comments about you?
By earth2jacq
@earth2jacq (1502)
Philippines
February 22, 2007 10:03pm CST
Sometimes when I hug him he would say that my hair smells like the sun. Or that I look fat in my dress or that I look lousy. Do you take your partner's comment constructively or do you feel bad about it?
4 responses
@oseasallenmarc (168)
• Philippines
23 Feb 07
Sometimes my husband's comment makes me feel bad, but deep inside I know he loves me just as I am. He is just trying to improve the way I look or the way I treat myself. He keeps on telling how I choose the wrong dresses for my age. Or I look old with the kind of hairstyle that I wear. Makes me feel bad at first but when I assess it, I see that its true. Our partners are our little designers just there to improve us. Or when we cannot change this things,compliments us to make us feel that we are loved. Besides I take criticism as a way of improving one's self. Criticism can make you bitter or better,it is up for you to decide what will it be.
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@earth2jacq (1502)
• Philippines
23 Feb 07
Yes initially I feel bad about the comments....but come to think of it maybe he meant good for me because he doesn't want other people to smell me like a sweat or look lousy.
@disconackted (109)
• Indonesia
23 Feb 07
No I think, it's can support you to make good body
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@x3temptationx (677)
• United States
23 Feb 07
My current boyfriend never tells me anything like that, I'm usually the one critisizing myself and he is the one telling me its not true. But one of my ex boyfriends used to tell me some things like those jeans make you look fat or you need to fix your hair. I kind of took them offensively, coming from a boyfriend it doesn't make me feel too good!
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@trinidadvelasco (11401)
• Philippines
23 Feb 07
It is highly probable that your partner is only trying to strike a conversation. So if he comments that your hair smells like the sun, make a laugh at it and then tell him why. If he thinks that your dress is lousy, ask him why he says so. What is his concept by the way, along the line of being well dressed? That will be a topic he might enjoy delving in. His comments give you an idea of his interest for the moment that you may harness for a conversation piece.
