Have you ever left or dropped out of a church & why
By ElicBxn
@ElicBxn (63235)
United States
February 22, 2007 10:08pm CST
I belonged to a church for many years. It was a small church that was western rite orthodox. Then, the Bishop of the church connected with an eastern rite church in Italy and started taking the services from western to eastern rite. I found the eastern rite involved a whole lot of the monks singing and a whole lot of standing around. Well, before this change I had hurt my feet so I can't stand for long periods and the monks "droning" on was a sure cure for insomina. I decided, that if I was going to sleep, I might just as well do it in the comfort of my bed.
Now, I knew several people that had left the church over the years, most because the "Bish" was rather abrasive & they left after a falling out with him. I had a small clash with another of the clergy over the years, but that wasn't what made me leave.
I learned the other day that the member of the clergy I had the problem with had also left the church after a falling out with the Bishop.
Now, if they'd just go back to western rite, maybe I'd go back.
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@stephcjh (38473)
• United States
23 Feb 07
I have left the church I used to be with because we moved for one. the preacher doesn't even contact us either to see how we are or to see if we will come back. It is about 45 miles up the road from me. I found alot of gossip in our church and I can't stand it. I don't think anyone should talk about other peole in the church. We are there to worship the lord, not to spread the word about others.
@ElicBxn (63235)
• United States
23 Feb 07
I joined a Baptist church when I was a teen. I found the kids cliqueish & did hear gossiping. That was the nice thing about the Orthodox church I belonged to, I never heard any gossip. When people left I generally had to find out what was going on by asking the parties in question what had happened - well, except for the time it happened right in front of everyone.
@winterose (39887)
• Canada
23 Feb 07
Yes I dropped out of several churches, sometimes I don't even know why. I just stopped going. One church I didn't like their doctrine. The strangest departure happened when I started going to church with a friend of mine. Then we had an argument and he wouldn't talk to me anymore. Since it was his church and I was the newcomer and he had made many friends there, I just couldn't bear to go back and see him and not be able to talk to him. It hurt just too much.
@ElicBxn (63235)
• United States
23 Feb 07
I had a friend that meet this, seeming, nice person at her job. They got to talking and she introduced her to her "friends" then they didn't want my friend to talk to anyone else. My friend decided they belonged to some kind of cult and got away from the as fast as possible.
I also had some neighbors that were those johovah's witnesses. WOULD YOU BELIEVE, they aren't allowed to talk to their neighbors, but are allowed to annoy people by ringing their bells and "witnessing."
My favorite story from the "Bish." At that point he was living away from the church building proper and had his door knocked on by some little old ladies who wanted to "share the Bible" with him.
"Madam," he said, archedly. "I'm orthodox and we "wrote" the Bible." He slammed the door in their faces. Maybe you had to hear him tell it....
@samtaylorskykierajen (7977)
• Canada
23 Feb 07
I used to go to church when I was younger but no longer goes as an adult . I don't care for the way the people of the church feel that somehow because they go to church they are better (this is in my area )then the people that don't go especially since their reasons for being their are to gossip about who is with who or what someone is wearing or about how someone had to take their child out of church because their child was not listening . I don't agree that church should be the gossip place of the village . Furthermore I believe in God very much but don't feel that I need to listen to a man read from the bible to tell me about what I am or am not doing wrong in life .
I went to a church that my dad attented one time and couldn't get over the difference . The minister ( I am used to a priest ) spoke to everyone in the church and told cute stories to get her point across and people were not gawking at everyone else . They were all actually interested in what was being said and it was rather interesting . If it was like that where I was I would probably go more often . Probably wouldn't be a regualar but would be willing to go more then not at all .
