Should a husband make more money than his wife?

@rlporter (515)
United States
October 14, 2006 11:47am CST
What if the wife makes more?
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42 responses
@MySpot (2600)
• United States
14 Oct 06
Not nessecarily. A marriage is a partnership. As long as both partners are happy and contributing to the family dynamic, it should work out fine. There are plenty of stay-at-home Mom's who contribute in many ways besides monetarily... they are still contributing to the well-being of the family, they are no less important or helpful just because they aren't earning money. Why compare who's paycheck is the biggest as long as everyone is contributing? JMO
@rlporter (515)
• United States
15 Oct 06
Thanks for your response...I completely agree. :) I left my teaching job to stay home with our kids- I love it, but have my days of feeling like, "Where's my paycheck?" I feel bad about spending money.
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@dellion (6698)
• Malaysia
15 Oct 06
I strongly agreed with Myspot.....me too have the same thinking to this topic.
@MySpot (2600)
• United States
15 Oct 06
I know what you mean, but I think that stay-at-home Moms have added stress because our job is NEVER done. I'm cleaning, managing money, and cooking when my kids and hubby aren't home and always mothering and wifing when they are. I am usually awaiting my "paid vacation" time! I don't want to sound ungrateful though... I love what I do and appreciate the fact that I'm able to do so!
• India
15 Oct 06
nothing will happen both will enjoy
@rlporter (515)
• United States
15 Oct 06
You don't think there are "some" men who would feel inferior or women superior?
• India
15 Oct 06
ya there are men but i said what i believ
@marsha001 (673)
• India
14 Oct 06
I don't think so. As long as the husband have any ego problems with his wife earning more than him,it's fine.
• India
15 Oct 06
oops!Sorry. It should be as long as the husband "DOESN'T" have any ego problems.
@rlporter (515)
• United States
15 Oct 06
I could see how a man's ego would be bruised a bit...Thanks for your response!:)
@lisan22 (191)
• United States
14 Oct 06
I have consistently made more than my husband since we've been married. I've had a kid. I had maternity leave for 2 months. I got PAID while I was on maternity leave. So our income didn't hurt. I don't think it really matters.
@lisan22 (191)
• United States
14 Oct 06
I was going to add - money is money. When it comes down to it the money is still going towards the same stuff regardless of where it came from.
@rlporter (515)
• United States
15 Oct 06
True! Thanks!:)
@Nivedha (617)
• India
14 Oct 06
It depends.Attitude changes from person to person.
@rlporter (515)
• United States
15 Oct 06
yes definitely. I've known some men who would have a real problem with that. :) Thanks!
• United States
16 Oct 06
In today's world, I don't think it matters much. I don't believe most guys are intimated by a woman who makes good money. In fact, some would prefer it that way.
@coolshiv (476)
• India
15 Oct 06
mmmmm...not neccasary...allr eql..no one z superior..no one z inferior..cheers..bbye
• India
15 Oct 06
agree with you.
@bhchy1 (6047)
• United States
15 Oct 06
Shouldn't matter who makes more...
@rlporter (515)
• United States
15 Oct 06
Thanks!
@psmohan (1877)
• India
15 Oct 06
Let any body earn but the money should come to the family and there should be harmony. But no jealousy.
@rlporter (515)
• United States
15 Oct 06
I agree! Thanks!
@varuntr (643)
• India
14 Oct 06
there is no such law..
@rlporter (515)
• United States
15 Oct 06
thanks-
• India
15 Oct 06
both people are earning for the family and ultimate result is the welfare of the family.so it does not matter acording to me if wife earns more or husband earns more...
@rlporter (515)
• United States
15 Oct 06
Thanks, coolme! :)
• United States
15 Oct 06
I don't think so, as long as they have an understanding then it is ok. I started a new job at home and I can easily be making more than my husband in about a year or two it doesn't matter to us at all. It all goes to our family.
@rlporter (515)
• United States
15 Oct 06
I agree- it's all in a mutual understanding between the couple. Thanks!
• Canada
15 Oct 06
My husband is looking forward to when I'm done school, so that WE will be making more money-and I think that's the key. WE make money, collectively. I have had jobs that paid more than his, and he has had jobs that pay more than mine. The goal is to continue to earn the same as or more than a previous job/positon within a company so we can keep up with the cost of living, buy necessities and eventually start a family. The only time either of us would be concerned with making more than the other is if/when one of us choses to stay home with children and run the household-and as pointed out in an earlier post, tht is just as important as providing financially for a family. In fact, in a way, raising your children is almost like a paid job if you consider what you are not spending on childcare as a result. It saves you money that can be used for other family needs.
@rlporter (515)
• United States
15 Oct 06
Yup- I'm a SAHM. It was really hard going to just one salary. BIG Adjustment...luckily I married a prince. ;) Thanks for your responses!
• India
15 Oct 06
not so sure but both can make a gud money if wife is earnig more wht the problen and if hsband is earing more its gud
@rlporter (515)
• United States
15 Oct 06
thank you!
@zealot (35)
• India
15 Oct 06
Actually i'm not married yet but husband should always make more money than wife as it will make the more respectable in society.If wife makes more money than her husband then a ray of arrogance,generally,arises in her mind that she can live all alone also i mean she is not totally depending on him.This will surely create disturbance sooner or later in their married life.
@rlporter (515)
• United States
15 Oct 06
I agree that society has pushed us to believe a man should provided for his family, even making more money. I think, though, in great marriages it wouldn't matter who's paycheck is greater. Thanks for your response!
@DeenaD (2684)
• United States
14 Oct 06
Ideally, yes, and this is why. When they have a child, she may want to stay home for a while, but if she is the primary bread-winner and they have grown accoustomed to her salary, then she will not be able to leave her job. When she cries every morning because she has to leave her infant, she may suddenly realize that she has the heart and feelings of a woman, after all. And she may resent her husband, too, for not affording her the opportunity to raise her child.
@rlporter (515)
• United States
15 Oct 06
VERY good point. I could see this happening. I never thought I'd be the "type" to want to stay home with my kids (I've always loved teaching too much) BUT once I held them for the first time it was a no-brainer. Thanks for your response! :)
@prasad1961 (5597)
• India
14 Oct 06
Nothing happen. To whom they are earning. For themselves only, so nothing will happen except participation action rests with the high earner.
@rlporter (515)
• United States
15 Oct 06
I'm sorry but...huh? Thank you for your response. :)
• India
14 Oct 06
it shudnt b ne prop after all the money will b spent by their family a stheir whole so if the wife is earning more it will also benefit thw whole family
@rlporter (515)
• United States
15 Oct 06
Thanks!
@nancygibson (3736)
• France
14 Oct 06
as long as they are both happy and enough money comes, in, then its all fine
@rlporter (515)
• United States
15 Oct 06
Good point! Thanks! :)
• United States
24 Oct 06
it shouldn't matter. we don't live in that type of era where the man works all day and the woman stays home and cooks, cleans, raises the kids anymore.
@usaction (649)
• United States
29 Nov 06
If you feel guilty about "where's my paycheck," there are tons of options from work at home sites. I would reccomend for you try mymommybiz.com. Another is busy moms; not sure if it's busymoms, bizymoms, or what, but mymommy is a good start.