i have been in tears all night..i have failed my mylotters..so sorry!

@yanjiaren (9050)
February 23, 2007 7:46am CST
my hubby had to give me two calms this morning cos i couldn't sleep..i feel i have let my mylotters and myself down.. the stupid plonker ..that's me..goes and pays with my credit card..35 bucks to get some music download to try and get dutty wine karaoke version so i can record my mylot song and put it on air..ofcourse we try to download the mp3 rocketwith hubby..it doesn't work,,not only have i lost the money..i can't get my song done..o.kj i can record it without music..i have a mike an' all..but it isn't the same man..my hubby has gone to work and i have started crying again..i hate giving up..i hate to not get things done..iam sorry i just have to express myself cos i feel i have failed..
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21 responses
• United States
23 Feb 07
I realy think you should take a deep breath and calm down. We are not going to die without the song. I think you are puting way to much pressure on yourself. I hate to hear that you are so sad. I have had to learn to take things in stride as in the past I have overworked myself and caused unneeded stress and anxiety. It isnt good for you. I think it is wonderfull you put so much heart in to your effort but pklease dont beat youself up so much. I am sure that in good time you will fuigure things out and get them done but getting all upset like this is realy not healthy for you and you should take some time to care for yourself. I will pray you recieve some comfort in this matter and are able to relax and take a moment of peace. Good luck and try not to beat yourself up to much ! And smile, please. God love you and so do we !
@yanjiaren (9050)
23 Feb 07
thankyou so much..i really wanted to do somnething unique for mylot..
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• United States
23 Feb 07
And I am sure you will but please dont let it get you down, all in good time !!!
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@maryannemax (12170)
• Sweden
23 Feb 07
don't worry. we all know here that you are trying your best. i had been following your discussions and i appreciate you starting good discussions and even buying a microphone during the chinese new year so you can record a mylot song. isn't that cute? so, don't feel bad. it's okey. if it won't work for now, it will work later. things just does not happen as planned. but with persistence and dedication, you can record the mylot song soon. so, don't give up and don't lose hope. it's okey to cry but don't feel so bad about it. i for one really admire your dedication to this site. and oh, if ever you get that mylot song recorded, hope you get to share it with all of us. i bet most mylotters are excited to hear it.
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@yanjiaren (9050)
23 Feb 07
thankyou..do you think i should just record it without the music for now? and then one day i record music..when i can go back to london i can hire some session guys and get it done like that? i had some good news today ..one loss here but i gained in another thing i invested in i am up 150 bucks this week more than i anticipated..so within a few months..i can put a bit aside to hire out the musicians..but for noe to make my mylot friends have a giggle ..shall i just record it plain? what do you think?
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@maryannemax (12170)
• Sweden
23 Feb 07
see? i can sense that you are feeling better now. that's nice. keep smiling! ofcourse! i like acapella! soothing to the ears! so, don't worry about the music and stuffs. it's really nice to hear that song you made. then, later, if you want to, you can just improve it.
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@yanjiaren (9050)
23 Feb 07
thankyou..might give it a try..
@stephcjh (32327)
• United States
23 Feb 07
I am so sorry you lost your money. I have done things like that also and I lost big money. I felt like a failure because I was trying to do something good for my family and failed. It wasn't my fault though. It isn't your fault either what just happened. Try to put it behind and look at all the good things that you do so well. I also hate when things go haywire and I cannot accomplish what I set out to do. I get very mad at myself for it. Please know that you are not alone and we all have those problems. Try to move past it and I hope today gets better for you. We all fail sometimes, but we must move on. Best wishes for a great day for you.
@yanjiaren (9050)
23 Feb 07
thankyou..Steph..
@Deane_2005 (1644)
• Philippines
24 Feb 07
I think your so frustrated because you havent reach your goals but don't worry there are lots of time left for you to do that. It's not the end of the world yet. Remember that when your doing something valuable you will need a lot of effort and pains to do such things. It's not an easy job besides don't get frustrated over one failure. Always remember that if you stop dreaming and be determined of something that is valuable you could never get it. Try another time, don't rush things out, you can never get it in a speed but of determination and patient. Life is full of hardship if you get disappointed of the first blow , how could you ever learn to stand up the bigger blows, Just try again and be patient this time.
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@ronita34 (3923)
• Canada
24 Feb 07
Awwww .... It is ok sweety you have not failed and this is not your fault at all! I think that you should maybe try to get a refund for one or tell then that you want something that works! Try not to let this bug you too much honey and remember sometimes it is good to have a good cry for all of us!
@bonbon664 (3470)
• Canada
24 Feb 07
Wow, you're hard on yourself. You probably wouldn't be as judgemental to a stranger as you are to yourself. There is a book out there called "Don't sweat the small stuff". I think you should read it. What you describe is nothing to cry about. Relax!
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• Philippines
24 Feb 07
so sorry to hear that. i haven't tried lottery yet especially the ne that concerns the credit card but i can feel for you. i know how you feel. next time, be careful. do not give-out your credit card number as well.
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@mimpi1911 (25479)
• India
24 Feb 07
sweet heart, don't lose heart, just let go and try to be happy. we all are with you. things like this come and go and sooner or later when we overcome, we cannot but laugh at our silliness. however, it really hurts when things like this happen amd more so when we are cheated, this is indeed demeaning. but then, wake up, take a deep breathe and go out, stretch above and look at the sky. isn't it beautiful?? i am sure it is.
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@bindishah (2062)
• India
24 Feb 07
Well I dont really understand what it is you were trying to do or what you are trying to say - but if you ahve been duped by someone giving you a wrong karoake version or something then you can dispute the charges on your credit card. And I think 35 $ is hardly an amount to get so upset over - it happens just get over it.
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@charms88 (7541)
• Philippines
24 Feb 07
Everybody make mistakes and from there, we learned to do the right things the next time. I understand that we tend to get frustrasted when things are not done in the way we like. I, myself, tends to get emotional at times like this too. I will cry for some petty things or situations. I can't help it. But we should not be so hard on ourselves too. We're not perfect. We always like to do things with only the best interest in our hearts. Just consider the money you lost like you had it donated to charity. Cheer up!!!
• Canada
24 Feb 07
Take a deep breath, calm down and try to relax. We don't mind if you can't get your song sorted out, it's not going to kill any of us. Sometimes, there are circumstances beyond our control that prevent us from getting things done. maybe there is a way to make it work that you haven't tried yet. Don't let it get to you. We'll support you anyway. You haven't let us down and you haven't failed yourself. Keep your head held high. There's no shame in admitting that things didn't work.
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@Anniedup (3652)
• Richards Bay, South Africa
23 Feb 07
No you haven't failed. Dry your tears and here is a beautiful picture to cheer you up my friend
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@yanjiaren (9050)
23 Feb 07
thankyou..where is the pic lol?
@Anniedup (3652)
• Richards Bay, South Africa
24 Feb 07
Didn't you see my discussion I'm having trouble with my pics. I contacted MyLot and they said it will be sorted out, but I think it is on my server any way let me try again
@Anniedup (3652)
• Richards Bay, South Africa
24 Feb 07
Friends - Dry your tears
Just to keep you company So put your laptop aside for a minute and let me read you a story. You are never alone my friend so cheer up XX
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@greengal (4286)
• United States
23 Feb 07
Aww come on dear, don't be upset. You haven't failed any of us and we all are in fact very proud of you for your efforts.So honey cheer up and I'm sure you will find a way to record the myLot song, frankly yanji, I'm waiting it for it, all excited! I know it will be a fabulous like your previous one. Thing like this happen sometimes, we gotta live with it. I hope some one helps you in finding that song you are looking for. I have no idea which one, so am of no help at all! You haven't failed, keep trying and we all are waiting for your song..no matter however long it takes to get it done, don't give up yanji!:)
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@yanjiaren (9050)
23 Feb 07
thanks man..
@yanjiaren (9050)
23 Feb 07
thanks man!
@NatureBoy (493)
• Singapore
24 Feb 07
When at first u dun succeed, try again. There are more ways then one to get things done. Get creative. You've done the hardest thing, by getting started.
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@yanjiaren (9050)
24 Feb 07
thank so much guys
@shywolf (4520)
• United States
23 Feb 07
Aw, yanjiaren! Please don't feel badly! I'm sorry that everything worked out so badly when you tried to get the music downloaded so that you could record your song :( I know how upsetting and frustrating days like that can be. But you sound so determined to record your song, I know that you'll find a way to do it if it's meant to be! And I don't want you to feel as if you have let anyone down! I know that I will be elated to hear your song if the day comes when I can, but I will not blame you or feel upset if you can't do it. We all know that you've tried! And we really appreciate it, or at least i know that I do! ^_^
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@yanjiaren (9050)
23 Feb 07
thankyou..
@CatEyes (2449)
• United States
27 Feb 07
Don't feel soo bad. We all do things that back fire on us. Cheer up, in a week or soo it will be dust in the wind. No need to bang your head against the door/wall. I hope you feel better sooon.
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@ladyleo (21)
• United States
24 Feb 07
i dont know you wellbut it sounds like you are bieng to hard on your self to me. dont be everyone does things theydont like later. imsure the people here dont feel let down.
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• India
24 Feb 07
hey relax buddy.... please chill down... now when I have bonded myself so close to the mylot community. I really feel it bad if any of my friend is upset..and that too when u r upset I really do mind it coz u r close to me... I ll tell u a small exercie do it....I hope it will cut down your tears and stress.... sit with ur back erect on a flat hard surface and take a deep deep inhale....... deeper more deeper....... till it is all done....inside u and then hold it...... concentrate more and more inside u, serach out for a mild but a priominent source of light inside your heart, forget the outside world...... forget the material world........ and now exhale.but very very slow.,.. stretch it as much as you can..... repeat this process 10 times...with your eyes closed......may be for the first time it would be difficult for you to concnetratre and but try it out hard and hard it will help you out definitley..... you know what -- that prominent light source in you is the GOD.... who tells you ..."hey Kid, I am here.y do you worry?" And by the way friend, a song could have been a good idea if it was there, but if it is not there, what is the problem with it.l i dont think there must be any!!! STAY HAPPY AND CHEERS.... GOD BLESS U AND LUVS U... COZ U R Goood now do tell me very soon that you have been happy now.; and would always remian so
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• United States
24 Feb 07
Don't put so much pressure on yourself. We mylotters love you and don't think you have let us down. Step back and take a deep breath---it's not the end of the world. We don't want you to cry. You are not stupid things happen and we move on past them. Know that my prayers are with you and try to relax and calm down.
@7nicole1 (1634)
• Canada
24 Feb 07
Wow to me it sounds like your making a big deal out of nothing. Just relax its was only $35 and there must be something you can do. Why would you let something so small get you down enough to the point of crying? Theres much more worst things happening out there in the world and no offence but you should remember that. You want some free music check out limewire.com it has all kinds of music,videos,movies,data,pictures and more all for free. Hope this helps you out.
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