Alone and Contented

United States
February 24, 2007 4:42pm CST
Are you the type of person who has to have alot of people around, or at least one person around to be contented or do you seek the silence of being alone? I have found that I am a mixture of both and it depends on my mood which one I am at any given time. I do love being with alot of friends, joking and cutting the fool and just laughing with them. But I also love my alone time, where I can relax and not answer to anyone. I can't imagine not having both options in my life. If you are the type that needs people around, how do you handle those times when you are alone? If you are more of a loner, how do you handle crowds?
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@Chele2k2 (241)
24 Feb 07
I am very much like you! I enjoy company, interacting with others and making conversation some of the time. But it is not something I do for long periods at a time, there are times when I like to be completely alone and in my own space. In a crowd, I try to make the best of it and make it an enjoyable experience. When alone I use that time to get on with things, chill out or for a bit of self reflection/thinking time.
• United States
25 Feb 07
Yes, it is important for me personally to have noth and grow from the experience.
• United States
25 Feb 07
Well, that is suppose to be both not noth lol...I have some serious problems with typos, is a good thing I speak typonese!
@rosie_123 (6118)
24 Feb 07
I am actually very happy on my own, and quite often prefer it that way. Of course I am happy being with my partner, but large groups, and noisy, family situations for example, make me quite edgy. I used to b a real party animal when I was younger, but now I am not so comfortable in groups, If i have to be in that stuation, I tend to keep on the outside of the crowd so that I can "escape" easily to be outside on my own.
• United States
25 Feb 07
I have a few friends that prefer just a few people around at a time and some have panic attacks when out in public, so since I cherish their friendship, I work around that.
@bethmt (419)
• United States
24 Feb 07
I like spending time with my husband, kids and friends and having fun times together. But I've never been much of a people person; I like people but I just don't really like going to parties, meetings, big gatherings, etc. probably because I'm kind of shy. But honestly I love having time to myself, in fact I can't function well without it. To me it's a time to unwind, concentrate on my writing, do things that I really enjoy like reading and drawing, meditate,or just be outside and enjoying nature. It's a way that I can gather more energy in order to take care of all the other things that I need to.
• United States
25 Feb 07
I agree, I have to have a good balnce of both. I love going to movies by myself, which some people find strange, but I can really get lost in the story and just enjoy.
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• United States
25 Feb 07
I like an even mix, however I think I enjoy being alone a little bit more. I really enjoy spending time with just myself. I dont have a problem with either situation so it's not difficult for me to deal with both.
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@beaniegdi (1966)
25 Feb 07
When I was younger I really enjoyed being around people and loved to go out and socialise, if I was on my own I felt lonely. Now I'm older I have changed loads, I don't feel the need for company. I still have my youngest son living at home with me so I'm never really on my own. However I love being on the computer and Internet and when my son is out I never pine for company. I do wonder how I will feel when he does leave home and I will live on my own which I have never done in my life.
• India
25 Feb 07
You can say that i am mixture of both. There are time s when I need a lot of people around me . This usually happens when I am a bit sad or when I have made any decision and I dont know whether I Had made a right decision. And there are imes when I hate people around me . It usually happen when I am thinking or studing
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@Weskom (25)
• United States
25 Feb 07
When I do certain jobs, I like mostly doing them by myself. However, once in a while it is good to have people around. Two heads are better than one. That's true enough. If I am alone I make the best of it. I am a self motivated person. When I am with others I interact with them so I know what is going on at al times. Either way, it's okay. Thanks.
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• United Arab Emirates
25 Feb 07
i dun mind being surrounded by some interesting people( who dont eat ur head) ... but i prefer to be alone most of the time... it gives me lot of peace to my mind and relaxation ... or i dun mind to be with my dream girl..
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@irisheyes (4373)
• United States
25 Feb 07
I manage aloneness pretty well. I certainly hate mob scenes. One thing I don't like to do alone is eat. I always like to have company at the table and share meals. I always thought that was a little odd but that's the way I am.
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@crickethear (1420)
• United States
25 Feb 07
I am a mixture of both, but lean towards being alone. I am very close to my mother, and do have friends, but with working and being with people all day, when I get the time to be alone, I thoroughly enjoy it, and crave it.
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@bobby28 (190)
• Nigeria
25 Feb 07
Been a loner has its benefits for me,because l think better about the way forward in my life,but been around people always sometimes makes me loose focus.
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• India
25 Feb 07
i love to be with the family and friends..its fun..but i too take time daily to think how i m now and how i m contributing to the happiness of others and try to correct myself.....so u need both at right mixture
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@tarsadawn (350)
• United States
25 Feb 07
I am pretty much of a loner. My husband too, we just enjoy our little family and doing things together. I do enjoy meeting up with my friends and going places with them, but I also like to sit around the house with Shaun and do the wifey things. He also can tell when I am tired of staying home, and will take me out to dinner or we'll go visit someone. But, I'm mush more of a loner.
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@MrsSgtB (289)
• United States
25 Feb 07
I defiantly need someone around. I am not sure if it is because of how I was raised or what. I always had someone around ever since I was little. Before I had kids and if my husband deployed or had a field problem (Army wife here!) I would keep my self constantly busy with my job, going out with friends, and or being around my parents. I hate not having anyone around not to talk to and or just to know they are in the same room as me. I have my kids but I can only have a little conversation with them considering one is 3 and one that is 3 months and does not even talk. haha.
• United States
25 Feb 07
Oh you are spoiled admit it! Ok, for anyone reading this, I wasn't being rude, this is one of my dearest friends and she knows, I like to tease. Our husband's work together and protect eeach other in battle. I cherish this lady!
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@MrsSgtB (289)
• United States
25 Feb 07
Oh I will admit it, I was spoiled...and I have no idea who you are... ;) lol
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• United States
25 Feb 07
shup mrs b or I'll have my hubby beat up your hubby lol oh and give the babies kisses from me will ya....even though you "don't know who I am"
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@natrlvr2 (384)
• United States
25 Feb 07
I am a mixture of both too. It depends on my mood. I am a single mom so my son is with me most of the time(other than when he is in school),so I do enjoy my time alone. I have always been kind of a loner my whole life. I always have had alot of friends but like smaller groups. Crowds sometimes overwhelm me(unless I am drinking,LOL).There are times I do like having adult companionship. I think I have been alone(divorced and not dating) too long,LOL.
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• United States
25 Feb 07
I think booze can turn an introverted nun into a stripper, it really changes how people look at themselves and act lol
• United States
25 Feb 07
I'm like you, I am a little of both. Sometimes I like to be around people and other times I need to be by myself. I get some alone time when my husband is at work, but when we get in an arguement, I need to be alone so that way I can cool down and not say something I might regret. Sometimes he respects that and others he don't ;o)
• United States
25 Feb 07
LOL, oh yes the cool down from an argument time. That is deffinitely a must to keep things from getting out of hand.
@icequeen (2842)
• Canada
25 Feb 07
I am definitely more of a loner. I really don't like crowds at all..but can tolerate them for a certain length of time. I think that being alone has hindered me too. I suffer anxiety..which can make that even worse. However...I am trying to get out more and talk with people and that has been helping....but I definitely like being alone sometimes...
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• United States
25 Feb 07
I feel foe you with the anxiety attacks and will keep you in my thoughts and prayers.
@LittleMel (14055)
• Canada
25 Feb 07
I am more of a loner and I have to force myself to look outgoing in the crowds so they don't feel awkward with me around. It's very hard, but I know I have to do it and I have to do it well.
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• United States
25 Feb 07
Just be yourself no matter where you are. I think this is what makes me happiest. I just can't be forced and if I want to be quiet in a crowd, which is not often the case, then that is what I do.
@ashok45 (74)
• India
25 Feb 07
if we read a lot of books and if we are imaginative enough, you can be in a crowd even if you are physically alone. and for the same reaeon you can be alone even if you are physically in a crowd. of course. the web is changing all that. even at this point of time i am physically alone in my room , i am with all of you my friends. all said and done introvert and extrovert are tow sidess of the same coin
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• United States
25 Feb 07
What an excellent observasion!
• United States
24 Feb 07
I would say that I am kind of like you are. Like to be alone at times and then others would like to be with some friends. I like to spend my alone time on the computor and chat with my other friends on computor. I work nite shift so don't know alot of friends but do spend alot of time with family when I can. My husband and I like to spend time alone just doing nothing also. Keeps you out of trouble then.
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• United States
25 Feb 07
My time alone with my husband is precious to me, we don't have to say anything, just be