To what extent a couple should be intimate before marriage???

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India
February 24, 2007 9:35pm CST
This is a question whose answer answer would vary from country to country...In some countries, there is no bar in the relationship before wedding, but in countries like India and some Islamic nations,there is strict code of conduct before wedding...What do you personally think on this subject???
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@flexjr (99)
• Canada
26 Feb 07
I think you should fully know what you're getting into before you get married.... if you catch my drift....
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@vanities (11387)
• Davao, Philippines
26 Feb 07
in my country it depend on the woman if she like to have an intimate realtionship with a guy actually..and sometimes beliefs of individuals counts a lot too..
@carol79 (201)
• Philippines
26 Feb 07
In a pretense world it would excellent if everyone started with marriage first but human instincts drives us to be intimate long before traditions were even started. It would be a good idea to follow traditions for discipline and saving yourself the embarassment of being intimate with a person who really doesn't deserve you. I for one would prefer my child to follow traditions and make it a point to be really cautious with this matter. If people would have followed really this tradition then we could maybe have less womn who were left pregnant by their men and even unwanted pregnancies. But I guess we are just all plain human beings who's nature is to usually follow what are needs and wants are.
• India
26 Feb 07
Your reply is the nest one..But pal I am unable to mark you the best..b'coz I have already done that before u commented..So unofficially u are the best..Thanx for commenting....
• United States
26 Feb 07
Marriage is God's instition and it should be treated respect and held sacred. It is not only abnormal to have intimate relationship before marriagem but it is a sin unto God, and it is a sin against your own body. Tha's the only sin we commit inside the body. Apart from that, socially, is like putting the cart before the horse. It leads to many relationship breaking before maturity, because the lady has already offered her most priced asset, free of charge.
• India
26 Feb 07
A good reply..straight from a man of principles..
@bmoliv (184)
• United States
25 Feb 07
Well, I think it depends on how comfortable the couple is with that subject. I personally don't think it should be set by society or other things. If the couple is comfortable with it then I dont see a problem. If they are not comfortable thats fine too. I just dont see any point in people basing there actions on what other people think.
• India
25 Feb 07
Your views seem to be quite impractical to me..but is quite to implement in society as in India where you don't have you live only for yourself but also for your parents and relatives..You are apart of society...you can't go away from it...BUT MANY MANY THANX FOR SHARING YOUR VIEWS WITH US..
@siddhinfo (1501)
• India
25 Feb 07
You are right in India couple are put some restriction before married, but what I found out that with the modern changing world this code are broken many times. Some are meeting there partner for more than 3 to 6 month after they are engaged to each other and many a time they do come in contact sexually with each other as they think why not try it out or by accident also.
• India
25 Feb 07
Rules are often broken..but does that mean we should also follow the spree...I don't think so.Well thanx for sharing ur views...
@lilaclady (28240)
• Australia
25 Feb 07
I personally think it is a good idea to try a trial marriage as it is such a big thing to put the rest of your life into something you are going into blind...everyone does a test drive for a car and that is something so trivial....
• India
25 Feb 07
Marriage and buying a car are two different things..Its your life that is at stake in marriage..Your point of view is quite different..
• India
26 Feb 07
I think couples should have an open talk with each other before getting married. this will help both of them to have good understanding. But I dont believe in dating and all. there should be a bar int their relation before getting married. that is good for both.
@mikhail7 (176)
• Philippines
26 Feb 07
Getting intimate isn't the question, but the consequences they should be able to face. And how can someone or how can lovers hold themselves if they have so much love for each other? It's already 2007, no need for inhibitions just as long as you know your limitations. Right?
• United States
26 Feb 07
I do not mind what goes on before marriage. If thats what you both want, then have it. THANKS!
@jennybianca (12914)
• Australia
25 Feb 07
If a couple are equal on their views on this issue, and they are sure there will be no regrets later, then I don't see any problem before marriage. As long as BOTH are comfortable with their decisions. If their decision is going to conflict with their families and communities moral values, then the couple need to take this seriously into their decision.
• United States
25 Feb 07
I think it should remain entirely up to the couple. All else aside no one should be able to dictate to two people how intimate they should be with each other. A relationship is between those two people and no one else need be involved. Let them decide for themselves , after all it is their personal relationship isnt it.
@ichampin (593)
• India
25 Feb 07
I am agree with you that response to your discuss vary from country to country, but still people get intimidated then and now no matter which country they live in. If we talk about basic thing about intimacy before relationship it would be TRUST, the trust builds relationship and trust intimates people too many a times, if couples have faith in their love and they trust each other and spend more time together it is obvious that they get intimidated before marriage easily.
• United States
25 Feb 07
This all depends. I personally think it is okay to be intimate before marriage. I believe it can work out well in the end either way, or either way there could wind up being complications in the end. I guess it all just depends on the circumstances in each situation.
@mstay4 (69)
• United States
25 Feb 07
Well my husband and I were indeed intimate before we were married as we have a child who was born befor we were married. We had been together for 4 years before we were married and had an intimate relationship most of that time. I do not regret a bit of it. I think you should know that the person is special to you before becoming intimate but it is ok before marriage.