You big bully!!!

@winterose (39922)
Canada
March 1, 2007 2:22am CST
My son and I got into a discussion this evening about bullying. We all know the bullying in the school yard where the bully picks on kids who cannot defend themselves, Has that every happened to you? I was terrorized by the kids in my elementary school, first their was Glenn Pots, we were both in grade 1 and we were both fat. He grabbed me one day and punched me in the stomach so that he could bust my fat stomach, guess he forgot about his own. I was always afraid of him after that, though he never bothered with me again. After that there were the girls who bullied up on every one, and they would slap and scratch and pull our hair. They would call us all kinds of names, some choice words when had not even heard yet. I always hung with the quiet kids, thinking they would not hurt us if we were together. It didn't work we would still get picked on group or not. How about you? Any bully experiences to talk about?
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@gabs8513 (48764)
• United Kingdom
7 Apr 07
My Daughter went through a lot of bullying at School and outside School it got to the Stage where she would not go out anymore she would stay in doors and her Friends would come round to us Now it is getting worse it is getting dangerous and weapons being used.
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@winterose (39922)
• Canada
8 Apr 07
that really is tough
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@ellijah (244)
• Nigeria
2 Mar 07
Hello, i hate bullying. i have not been a victim of it before but i have seen people been bully in my present . i dont really like it.u see the the funny thing is that those people who bully some one dont end up well in life but the people they are bullying. i have heard of many cases like that .lets pray for them so that God will help them
• China
2 Mar 07
After reading your paper,I support your idea.As long as we try our best,we will be successd in the future.we should belive our own ideas.Thank you.
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• India
2 Mar 07
hi winterose. we have all been tormened by bullies at somepoint of time or other in our school days. Physically we may have been bashed up, but most of us learn to deal with that sort of a thing really quickly. Especially here in India schools are relatively safe as far as physical bulling is concerned but there are other kind of tortures that a person can be subjected to. Being called names, being shunned or dliberately ignored. These forms of bulling are even more painful cause the entire batch follows the example of the so called popular boy/ girl and and behave in the same way they behave, while the poor outcast feels miserable and left out.
• Canada
2 Mar 07
I was bullied from infant school right through till I left the area a year before High School. There was one girl, Jodie she was called, who was nasty to me every day. She told people lies about me, she hit me, kicked me, scratched me and even bit me one day. No matter how many times we complained to the school nothing was ever done other than a letter sent home to her parents saying that there'd been another complaint about their child. It got to the point where I was too terrified to go and play in the school yard at recess and lunch, and so I hung around with one of the Yard Staff, because that was the only time she ever left me alone.
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@coolchai (700)
• Philippines
2 Mar 07
yes i do have a bully experience. when i was in preparatory class i have this big girl classmate who loves bullying petite me. when i came to learn that she has many guys to who does the same thing, and one of them likes to bully me too but this guy is just an average boy. when he was stopping me from where i am to go, i got his shirt under my fist and i gave him a very good punch on the nose! i love the feeling =)
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• Australia
2 Mar 07
I was never bullied but i did witness it quiet a lot especially between the ages of 4- 9 at around 5 or 6 i asked my parents why people did that and what i can do as i felt bad for the people who got bullied they said that i should tell a teacher, but that didnt always seem to work and i was a shy kid so i watched a movie i cant remember which one and in the movie i saw somone breaking up a fight so i decided to try that at school it seemed to work. so thats just my story of bullying
• United States
2 Mar 07
Hey Winterose! I know exactly how you feel and expirenced bullying all throughout my career. Being a minority and Indian, Ive been faced with tons of bullying and being picked on. I found the bullying through racial jokes and embarrasment the hardest. I felt attacked and defenseless. At one point in middle school, I started standing up for myself and ended up getting suspended for a day for making a "threat". I find it just annoying and horrible. I hate people that feel they can make themselfs feel better by putting others down and make them feel like garbage. I try to do my best to stand up for those getting bullied but I feel everything needs to be done to get rid of bullying all together.
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• Canada
1 Mar 07
People my age always bugged the crud out of me!! I got called all kinds of names, and was made fun of because of my vision and my physical challenges. I'd be interesting in finding out where these kids learn how to be so nasty. It definitely isn't right.
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@winterose (39922)
• Canada
1 Mar 07
no it certainly isn't right, and it is becoming more and more of a problem now with cyber bulling as well.
• Canada
1 Mar 07
I also found as I got older kids were always calling me names because I was shy, overweight and wore glasses. It seems it didn't take very much for them to find a reason to call other kids who were different so many nasty names and make fun of them. Just having glasses brought out the name calling; being overweight; and shy. There were also others I saw with physical challenges and like you mentioned danishcanadian, kids were so nasty. In these situations it was totally uncalled for, and as you said, NOT RIGHT!!
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@winterose (39922)
• Canada
1 Mar 07
so true
@jess_meow (229)
• United States
2 Mar 07
The few times I've been bullied infuriated me more than anything. When I was five, a fifth grade girl at my daycare slammed a van door on my hand. I remember screaming at the top of my lungs, and the teachers blaming me for being 'careless.' My mother got me out of that place, and told all the mothers what had happened. That place has gone out of buisness now. Later on, my little brother was being bullied by a boy taller than both of us. I tackled that kid to the ground and pummeled 'im. The teachers called my parents, but I didn't get in trouble. Actually, my mom and dad praised me for protecting my lil bro.
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@winterose (39922)
• Canada
2 Mar 07
It really hurts me to hear things like this, and the teacher should have been reprimanded for her behaviour that was awful.
@stephcjh (32328)
• United States
1 Mar 07
First of all, I'm sorry about what you had to go through. I was also bullied throughout school. I was always quiet, backward and shy. I didn't ever say much because I didn't have anone to talk to anyway. There was this one girl who rode my bus, who was older than me and she would sit down on the bus in the seat right in front of me, turn around in her seat and just stare me out. Her sister would tell me that she was going to beat me up after my volleyball games. They would come to the game, but never touch me, thank God. Kids used to tease me also in school, but I really don't know why. I guess because I didn't have the best of things, like some of them did.
@winterose (39922)
• Canada
1 Mar 07
yes bullies pick on the weak, if they thought the kid would be able to fight them back, they would never try. There are all kinds of reasons why weak kids stand out, they are shy, not popular, do not fit in, can't fight back or simply don't want to. Appear afraid of the bully, react with fear, or cry and other things that show they are distressed.
• Canada
1 Mar 07
Hi Winterose! I remember getting picked on when I was in grade one and two after we moved to a new school. I was always quiet, and this one boy who thought he could bully everyone kept picking on me for some reason, and threatening to make it worse if I told anyone. Of course I'd go home crying and my clothes all messed up because I'd been shoved down in the mud or snow, and would have bruises started from getting punched. For the longest time I just kept telling them I didn't know who the boy was. At first I didn't but then I learned he lived on the same street as me so he was following me home and making things miserable for me. When I told my parents it was a boy, they gave me permission to hit him back and punch him, but this boy was bigger than me and stronger. The following year my brother who was a year younger started coming to school and at first this boy was picking on both of us. My father showed us both what to do, but so far we hadn't done much of anything as I was at this point afraid of this boy. Then one day my brother decided he'd had enough and stood up for both of us. Funny thing was, he did have the strength to beat this other boy up, and gave me the courage to stand up and help him fight. Meanwhile this boy went crying home to his parents saying we had both beat him up, and his father showed up at our house that evening in a real rage that someone was bullying his son. What a laugh! This boy has been bullying me for over a year and his father was getting after us. My parents set him straight and also made this father realize that his son who was 2 years older than us, and had been bullying me and beating me up for almost two years, and how little my brother was.When the father saw that he started calling his son names and telling him he was a coward to allow a small child my brother's age to bully him. I actually felt a little sorry for this kid the way his father treated him. The next day when he came up to us threatening to bully again, my brother and I stood up to him and he ran off. That was the last time he really ever bothered us.
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@winterose (39922)
• Canada
1 Mar 07
that was my point, a lot of times these kids get that bullying behaviour from their parents it is so sad. Also that kid is bullied by his father. He didn't know any other way of dealing with issues. It really is so sad.
• United States
2 Mar 07
Well, its a fact of life that just about every single person experiences as either "bullying" when they are younger, or more seriouse confrontations and problems during high school for example. It is humiliating and hurtful, but if your son (and other kids) know how to learn from it, avoid the situation, and act responsibly about it, than they got much more out of a bad situation than most kids. And actually learning to defend yourself is human nature, and those that do not for whatever reason, thats how it is. Thats what almost everything in the wild relies on.
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@villageanne (8555)
• United States
2 Mar 07
I am sorry that you were bullied, in school that must have hard for you. I was the oldest of 6 kids so they wold have been pretty tough to have bullied me. I was a survivor. I remember once a girl who was my age was picking on my little brother. He was 4 years younger than we were. Well I told her to stop. She didnt so I hurt her. I had to sit in my seat during lunch for a week but she never bothered my brother any more. I was not mean nor did I bully anyone else but I took up for my brothers and sister. I think being the oldest of 6 kids taught me to be tough
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