If someone provoke you... Do you react or ignore them?

Australia
March 3, 2007 9:26pm CST
Many people like provoking other people on purpose to obtain a reaction. The best way to deal with those people is not to react... and they will go away. Easier say than done... as for most people... the natural instinct is to react and respond. It is only as you get to know the person and realise that it is provoking you on purpose... that you learn to deal with it. So... how do you react when someone provoke you?
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• India
4 Mar 07
My very first reaction to a provocation is to get provoked and upset myself but as I start settling down to clear out in my mind I realise that I need to think before I upset myself. If I react in the first place the person who has provoked thinks he has won over my emotions whereas if I learn to ignore and move on my life would be much simpler and smoother as I have command on my emotions and I do not let anyone shuffle it for my good. People have a nerve to upset others because they themselves are not happy ... it is better to learn to neglect what disturbs your mind and move on with what helps you come up in life. This will help create a Positive Living Environment around you !! Cheers !!
@kathy77 (7488)
• Australia
4 Mar 07
Hi Aussie, glad to meet another Australian here it is true that some people like to provoke other people which normally turns into having an argument, it is very hard to ignore these people I found it is only human nature. Yes you are right when you get to know the person that you understand what they are doing and can brush it aside. But in the majority of cases for me I just walk away so that it does not get into something else, but if it is a friend I just laugh it off.
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@easy888 (10408)
• Australia
4 Mar 07
If someone provokes me , I can just ignore it and laugh it off. Do not ever try to react and fight back beacuse that is what they want, they are waiting to see you loss your temper, if you stay back and ignore it, as they cannot get the satisfation and reach their goal, they will go away. May be you can be humorous in response so that you can still be laughing and not getting angry after that.
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@jossml (464)
• Puerto Rico
4 Mar 07
Totally agree with you easy888, is the best way to react to people that want to provoke, they will not get what they want.
• United States
4 Mar 07
A lot of people say to think before you act, but personally, my thinking is slower than my reaction, so I never know I'm going to react until it comes out.
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@shakeroo (3991)
• Malaysia
4 Mar 07
What you said is true enough. The normal reaction for most people when provoked is to retaliate and things would just turn really ugly after that. Based on my personal experience, I would react badly when the provocation caught me by surprised but if I were to know or prepared for it, normally, I would just let it past by me just like the blowing wind... Reading your post reminds me that I need to work on the reaction part so that I don't get into unnecessary mess. Thanks for the reminder!
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@scorpius (1793)
• India
4 Mar 07
well more often than not i would like not to deal with this issue at all.but like you said we just cannot avoid dealing with this issue and that it must be dealt with right away.i believe in confronting the person who is doing the provocation n the spot but then again there are times when this method may not be all that advisable.so in the end i guess we all have to use a bit of common sense and decide which approach we want to take.
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@TerryZ (22148)
• United States
4 Mar 07
I usually ignore the rude people. But sometimes I just fly off and tell them where to stick it.LOL And it always makes me feel so much better. I have this one person on mylot who is always trying to provoke me and I dont respond to her.And she is getting really aggraviated that Im not responding to her little tanterams. I think its funny.
@skb369 (285)
• India
4 Mar 07
being a piscean, i shy away from confrontations. so i usually ignore the person. there can be nothing achieved by engaging in a bitter exchange of words( or blows) with the person out to get under your skin. so you have to take the moral high ground. but if the attacks are consistent and personal, its time for the gloves to come off. if a stern warning doesnt do the trick, then i have no other option left but to go medieval on their sorry a**es! i usally keep my cool in such matters, but there is only so much that one can withstand!
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@akumei1269 (1750)
• India
4 Mar 07
In my case it depends upon the person who provokes or tries to provoke . Some people I hate and if they remarks untowardly , most of the time I cannot control myself .I know this is bad . However , now I am more conscious of this and prepare myself in a positive way .I have succeeded a lot .
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@havachat (105)
• Australia
4 Mar 07
i try to ignore it but some times it is hard, if they are showing off in front of friends, i will come back with some thing to put them down, usually if they are showing off, then they aren't too bright, and their friends will laugh at them, or i will walk away, but i remember when i was a teenager, there was this group that used to hassle me all the time, they would pick fights, and i would retreat, they even kicked a pizza out of my hand one night, and they would take things out of my hands and then run away, this went on for months, and one day they saw me in the street, and started picking on me, i was really pissed off about this happening all time, so i fronted the leader, and spread him across the footpath, you know all the others went running away, and the leader stayed on the ground until i was gone, they even stopped picking on all the other people in the area as well, so i would try and get out of it if i could, but some times you have to make a stand
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@meljessxena (2320)
• Australia
4 Mar 07
most of the time i try to stay calm and just ignore them as im use to it all now, but when i first got people annoying me i use to react and then get upset. but im over it now. took me time to get use to it but its all good now.
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• United States
4 Mar 07
It all depends on what the issue is over. If I can tell first hand they are provoking me, I walk away. This seems to be the easiest way to deal with it otherwise you just get a headache and argue argue argue. If I can't tell they are provoking me then I will continually argue with them. And trust me, I'm a good arguer. If at this point it escalates to high I'll just say I don't have the timet o deal with this bull**** now and walk away. Seems to work all the time, lol.
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• China
4 Mar 07
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• Sri Lanka
4 Mar 07
I get mad at them but I don't go for fights
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• Greece
4 Mar 07
if someone is really trying to provoke me into a reaction im trying to turn the side on. Im trying to provoke him and to make or him/her getting "angry" for them to see how nice it feels! best regards me
@ESKARENA1 (18306)
4 Mar 07
Over the years i have learnt that the only way to deal with provocative people is to ignore them completely. By doing this you simply cut off the one thing they crave so much, attention. I will actually leave the room rather tyhan respond. I think it is the only way that works. Blessed be
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• India
4 Mar 07
In the past i used to react by responding to them but after sometime i came to realise that it will reinforce them when you respond it isbetter to keep quite and ignore them. trust me it is medically proved.
@Latrivia (2890)
• United States
4 Mar 07
It depends on the method of provokation. Normally, if I'm being insulted, I smile and play along. Sometimes I'll even join them in making fun of me. Sometimes, however, they catch me during PMS, and I end up getting a little nasty about it. I'll say things in a polite way, of course, but I start taking verbal jabs at them - especially at things that they're most likely to feel self concious about. While I really hate to lose my temper like that, in those situations, I usually can't help but feel a sense of satisfaction at successfully tearing down the self esteem of a person who was trying to provoke me. Usually though, people don't get too much of a reaction out of me.
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@mit0312 (253)
• India
4 Mar 07
most of the times i dunt react only, bt smtmes wen badly provokd , react pretty angrily at dat prsn
@anirc750310 (3424)
• Romania
4 Mar 07
hi well it depends what intentions has. If it is once i ignore him/her, but he is doing all the time, i take care to respond to him same way ' sarcastic' be sure not do it again
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