March the 5th, Is it a special day for you?

March 4, 2007 7:43pm CST
This will probably be the most pointless discussion in which I've personally started but I am really interested in seeing the outcome. Is March the 5th a special day for you? It's quite a sad day for me, although very special. 7 years ago my grandfather pass away on this day and we've always gone to his grave every year to take him flowers etc. It's also the same day (yet different year) my wife's and I still-born daughter was born. I can't wait to go to their graves tomorrow, I haven't been for awhile. After she was buried we'd always go and visit her nearly every day as this was the best way for us to get through it. Is the march the 5th special for you? Share you stories if you'd like. Thanks, ~Joey
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• United States
5 Mar 07
My grandpa was diagnosed with cancer and came from Texas to Ohio to live with my parents when he become ill , he was given 4 to 6 months to live but with his positive outlook on life he was with us for 7 more years... One day it was my turn to help take care of him while my parents worked , I remember him fighting me over a morphine patch , which never got put on him ... Later on that day when my parents come home I had some things to go do and I got a call on my cell phone and my mom told me that he was in alot of pain and not doing so well for me to come back asap so I did and when I got there he took me by the hand and he said shelly belle ( a nick name ) that he had for me , and he said i love you you know that right , and I said of course I do and I love you to ... Then he looked at me and said please get rid of the split tails !!! I thought what is he talking about , then he closed his eyes and never woke back up ...My dad told me later that day all my grandpa wanted was a grandson ... split tails were what he called little girls , one month later I had got pregnant with my first child which ended up being a little boy , the first boy born on his side of the family since my dad , So I take my two boys to the grave yard to visit the grave all of the time , they leave him hot wheels , photo's , pictures they have made for him , stuffed animals and flowers but most of all they talk to him and I know that he is listening to them and he is watching down on us at all times ... I am really sorry to hear about your situation , seems like life never gets any easier for us ... Happiness keeps us sweet Trials keep us strong Sorrows keep us human Failures keep us humble Success keeps you glowing But only GOD keeps us going ...
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• United States
5 Mar 07
Joey , im sorry my grandpa passed on March 5th ...
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@wolfie34 (26881)
• United Kingdom
5 Mar 07
Sorry about your losses my friend, life can be very cruel at times. I would like to be positive about today, because I have been unemployed for some time, not for the want of trying! I found out today that I have been shortlisted for a job I would desperately love to have, working with disabled children! The interview is next week. But the fact that I've been shortlisted has made my day! So if I get the job March 5th will be lucky for me.
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6 Mar 07
Hey Brian, Yep, Live can be very cruel. =) Cheers for sharing this buddy, Goodluck with the job! I'd love this sort of work too and I know what it's like to be unemployed for a short time. (not greatly long; so it is different) Wishing you the best buddy. Let me know how it goes if you can =) ~Joey
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• United States
6 Mar 07
I'm sorry for your losses but you need to keep in mind that your baby and your grandfather are always with you in your heart. I know that it's a hard thing to go through but you've got to stop focusing on the date as negative and focus on the good things. I'm sure you have many good memories of your grandfather so use this day to remind yourself of those. As far as your child is concerned, I had a miscarriage a number of years ago and I know that nothing can take away that loss but what I try to remember is that my little girl is in the hands of God and she will never experience pain or loss and I'll see her when I go to Heaven. I don't know if you and your wife have other children but if you do, focus on them. If not, perhaps you should think about having another child or adopting. There are a lot of children in the world that would love to have a wonderful home. I guess that my point is that you can't move forward in your life if you focus on the losses. You've got to keep your eyes on what you have and what you will have and move forward. I hope that helps in some way.
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@lingli_78 (12852)
• Australia
6 Mar 07
i am really really sorry about your losses and the 5th of march is not really a special day for me... it is just an ordinary day like any other days... but i will definitely put you in my prayer and rest assured that your grandfather and your baby are in a safe place wherever they are...
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• Romania
5 Mar 07
yes... is a special dey for me an oll smocking europeans...
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• Oklahoma City, Oklahoma
5 Mar 07
iam sorry for your loss. i guess i can say march 5 is a ok day i guess i am still alive is something.my mom pass away on april fools day 1996. not a funny day for me.
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@cher913 (25895)
• Canada
5 Mar 07
Sorry to hear about your loss joey, hugs On the 7th,my baby will be turning 10, but I know a fellow who will be burrying his grandmother on that day...so each day is happy for some, sad for others
@winterose (39931)
• Canada
5 Mar 07
I can see why that day would be very special to you. March 5 is not a special day to me but March 6th is. March 6th is my birthday. My birthday is important to me, it is the one day I don't have to share with anyone else, we share christmas, easter, new years, valentines day, you get the picture, but my birthday is my birthday. I share it with friends, but it is not their birthday it is mine.
@kool78 (490)
• India
5 Mar 07
march - post anything and win
you are one really lucky fellow or you got many friends out there who respond to your discussion. I have visited the discussion you have created ans was really suprised to see the amount of responses you get!Now there is nothing sad or special for me on this day!
• Philippines
5 Mar 07
I think "farewell's" of whatever kinds are always sad... even if we sometimes dont admit they are. They always leave pinchmarks in our hearts... especially the passing of loved-one's. This discussion is totally NOT pointless. There are just dates we can never ever forget and every year when we reminisce, we emerge as better, stronger people and somehow, it makes our smiles worth so much more.
@lani0529 (1726)
• Philippines
5 Mar 07
Thanks for the reminder that today is March 5. Sometimes, I lost track of dates. Anyway, I really didn't have any experience to share about this day in particular because its like any ordinary day for me. I'm just sad to hear about your story and thought of dropping by to say a few words. It must have been difficult in your part.But,the good thing is, hope you will take it in the brighter side, you will be sad for only for one day. Think about it, if two sad experiences happened on the same date, it is better than to have 2 sad experiences on different dates. hope you get what I mean. Just trying to make you smile and feel better.(",)
@cassidy22 (2975)
• United States
5 Mar 07
I'm sorry for both of your losses Joey. YOu know, I don't remember the dates in which special people have passed in my life. And I don't live near their graves anymore so I can't visit. I tend to remember their lives, instead of being reminded of when they left. I try to keep good memories of their lives with me, and I also sort of think they are still with me. It's hard to describe, but I try to focus on the times we did have, and not on the loss.
@Stephanie5 (2953)
• United States
5 Mar 07
I'm so sorry for your losses. Today is a special day for me, it's mine and my husbands anniversary. We don't really make a big deal about it though. I don't know what else to say....I'm very very sorry for your losses.
@abhiteja (146)
• India
5 Mar 07
i also dont like tis day.y bcause imy birth day is 3rd but tis year my birthday came on sat.on tat day no coll .so every one came to me & took birday treat on 5th s.they hav finished more tan rs:500 in my pocket.
@bandu123 (70)
• India
5 Mar 07
every day is special in your life. yesterday was history ,tomorrow is mystery, today is the gift that is why it is called as present.
5 Mar 07
Obviously it is an important day for me, being part of your family...although I wasn't around when you lost Chloe, but I still miss her like you all do (maybe thats abit odd) I hope everything goes well for you at the grave though. I know William still can't believe it has been two years and that Chloe would have had her second birthday today. Talk later x
@Polly1 (12650)
• United States
5 Mar 07
I am so sorry Joey, I will be thinking of you and your honey tomorrow.