Money.... Money....

Indonesia
March 5, 2007 3:15am CST
all these 2 years eventhough we're not married my GF always trusted her money in my savings account. so i usually send her money when she needed. unfortunately today she didn't ask me so she asked her mother to borrow some money. but her mother asked where is her money. because her mother knew that she already work. it's like borrowing only USD 10 worth. according to my GF maybe her mother is afraid that i'm going to run away with the money. what the? i would never do something like that. i'm very very angry when i heard about this. it's just like that i'm a very bad person. FYI only her mother treat her different with her younger brother. if her brother wanted car VOILA there's a car immediately so what do you guys think i should do? Sorry if it's too long. just wanna get this out of my head
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4 responses
• Philippines
6 Mar 07
Honestly, I think that it will be better if your girlfriend maintains her own bank account in order to avoid something like this from happening again. I understand that she holds you in high trust that's why she makes you keep her money but, as you can see, you can never tell what is bound to happen in the future. It took you this experience to realize that it is not very nice from your part if you will go on with this arrangement. For her mother now, it appears that you are usurping your girlfriend's money. You and your girlfriend knows better but this might bring you into a more compromising situation later on which might be very taxing on your part.
• Philippines
6 Mar 07
By the way, your girlfriend must learn to hold her finances by now. It is unhealthy if she will keep on relying on you forever on this matter.
• Indonesia
6 Mar 07
Trinidadvelasco thanks a lot for your input i'll try to do that. anyway glad to have you guys all supporting and also helping me it means a lot to me :)
• Philippines
5 Mar 07
i think there's nothing wrong if both of you are sharing your earnings from work, but i think that you should see to it that both of you also have your own accounts, a daily spending account. this is where you can have money even if both of you are not together, regarding your girl's mother, i think that you should just let it pass, i know that it really is out of line and of course you'd definitely are feeling so angry about the things that she is implying, but having to say nasty words really wouldn't help.
• Indonesia
6 Mar 07
Dear Panicqueen, thanks for your support. anyway i'm the most idiot person in this planet i guess. i strongly told her brother how i'm so pissed off about her mother. because her mother didn't treat my GF as a daughter. so it makes me sick and irritated also. i mean what kind of mother is she? why is she so picky about loving her own daughter and son? Jesus! this thing is so so annoying anyway i'm so sorry if i said something that offend you. but it's just that i'm so sad right now. thank you panic for answering my discussion
@rsa101 (17834)
• Quezon City, Philippines
5 Mar 07
I guess to make things as peaceful as possible you have to talk to your GF and let her explain to her mother that you can be trusted. Unless of course you show her mother that you are really trustworthy she will forever be doubtful about you since your not part of the family yet. Only you and your GF would know each other. Expect that from them and if you want to gain their trust show something that would convince them so. With regards how her mother treats her borther should not concern you anymore leave it as is it her business in doing so. Love you GF and show her mother that you can be trusted. Confrontation will only make things worse.
• Indonesia
6 Mar 07
Dear rsa101, thanks bro. this is already done by me. but today i just make matter worst later on i will tell by posting new comments. i already told my GF to tell her mother how trustworthy i am. but my GF is the type who always kept everything by herself and never told anyone except me. she's not treated as a daughter i guess in her family. so that's why she's so so sad. maybe later on you can help me also when you read the today's comment. arigato ne
@beaniegdi (1966)
5 Mar 07
I think your girlfriend should have her own bank account. It is not that you might do anything bad but if you had an accident -god forbid- and the worst happened then your girlfriend would have no claim on that money at all. It is better if your girlfriend has her finacial independance not because of her mother but because it is right for her. I'm not sure why she gives you her money but it doesn't seem right.
• Indonesia
6 Mar 07
Dear beanie, yes beanie i understand. thank you for your help. i already ask her too. but she says that it's better for me to keep it. i don't understand why though. she maybe know that she's not good at keeping the money i guess. so that's why she entrusted her money to me. well today the problem just got worst i'll tell you with new comments later on thanks beanie