Which is more important? Staying with a lover or living in a place you love?
March 6, 2007 5:17pm CST
It's a dilemma. Which ultimately is more important? sense of place, or having a lover?
6 Mar 07
If it is a husband and wife, then I believe you should stay together for better no matter what. That is what being married is all about. It should not matter where you live as long as you are together. If the only place your husband can work happens to not be where you want to live, you should support him and stay with him anyway. He should also always support you. For instance, if you should become seriously ill. He should give up all else to be at your side. Work, money, friends, anything. There is only one you. There is always another job if they do no have the class to understand why he is away. If it is a boyfriend or as you say,,,,lover, then I believe that is different. When you are married, normally whatever your religion is, you are making a commitment before your God to honor the sanctity of that marriage. For better or worse. If however, you are not married and wish to broaden your horizons by traveling or living elsewhere, then that is what you should do. If your relationship with this person is that strong, you will one day end up together again. If it is not, you will soon find out once you are apart. I believe going off on your own is a good test of how strong the bond between you actually is.
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6 Mar 07
I guess it depends on your relationship with the person...If it's someone you can't live without, then your lover comes first--but if the person is just a fling, then your comfort level is more important. You know, I just thought of something else--why can't your lover come with you to a new place? If they refuse to come with you, regardless of how you're feeling about where you live, then I guess that says how much that person cares about you...If your lover doesn't care about how you feel, then your choice should be easy.