Whatever happened to common courtesy?

@susieq223 (3742)
United States
March 7, 2007 12:47pm CST
I sent out a few Christmas gifts and birthday gifts in the past few months and have yet to receive a single "thank you" from anybody, including my own children! Yesterday someone bumped into me at the grocery store and just plowed right on--no "Sorry," "Excuse me" or anything! I seldom hear the word "please" anymore. Are we just discarding courtesy altogether? Am I out of step with everybody else because I think those things are still important?
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@cher913 (25895)
• Canada
7 Mar 07
Nope, i totally agree with you! I went to a wedding last October and am still waiting on recognition of the gift I gave. It is so RUDE not to be thankful or use other common courtesies. We pretend not to hear our 2 daughters when they ask for something and do not say please. We will not be raising rude children in our house! Maybe you should have said sorry to the person in the store, maybe they would have felt embarrassed (but i doubt it!) Sadly, stuff like this seems to be falling by the wayside :-(
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• United States
7 Mar 07
No, they are as important today as they were to our parents. You know what I have noticed is that everyone is so busy thier minds so full of list of tasks and stresses that sometimes we just forget to be polite. (Myself included here) We are all rushing rushing, never time to breath or think, and if we do think about that thank you card the thought is gone 2 minutes later. I have started keeping notes to remind myself of the simple things that make the differance because if I don't next thing you know its 6 months later and that call has not been made that card has not been mailed or that email has not been typed off and sent.
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@Stringbean (1273)
• United States
7 Mar 07
I agree with you. I think it gives people from other cultures a lot of fuel for their arguments about how arrogant they think Americans are. I guess the best thing we can do about it is to continue to show good manners wherever we go and see that our children do the same. Maybe someday, some of that will rub off on them.
@jchampany (1131)
• United States
7 Mar 07
Courtesy went right out the window. No one teaches their kids any manners anymore. Those generations that grew up with no rules or manners are becoming adults now and we have to deal with them. It is also making it harder to raise your children right these days. When other kids are not being raised correctly it is hard for your kids to understand why you want them to have manners.
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• United States
7 Mar 07
The people that I am around have this coutesy, when I am in the "GeneralPublic" I dont see or hear them. I dont look or hear courtesy.You live longer.
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@webeishere (36377)
• United States
7 Mar 07
I too have this issue. But I say oh well. I gave it with love that's all that metters to a point. But my daughter is very good in this aspect of thank yous from parties etc. She even sends us Thank You cards for the grandsons gifts at B-Days etc. Now I have a friend that adds their email address to a lot of cards with gifts etc. This friend gets a lot of thank yous via email. I may try that in the future. I'm bad at the sending of thank yous. I do call with the thanks though. As you can tell from my discussions/response/commetns I use the "please" & "thank you" very often. I do it off line as well. HAPPY POSTINGS FROM GRANDPA BOB !!
• Canada
13 Oct 07
I realize that this is an old discussion but it is one worthy of another response!! It does seem at times that this is the case but I do still hear people using manners and I am teaching them to my son who has autism. I grew up on a farm and value manners and family as being important. I think part of the problem today, with alot of things, is our fast paced society and everyone is in such a hurry!! Things were more laid back in the times of my parents and my grandparents and I am sad that we have lost that! Thanks so much for this quality discussion! :)
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@susieq223 (3742)
• United States
13 Oct 07
Thank you very much for a quality reply!
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• Canada
13 Oct 07
You're very welcome :)